Bumble

[Ellena646]

Hi,

so I met my partner on Bumble and we both were talking to other people for a few weeks before we came off, at which point it said our home town as the last location. He's just gone away and because we are going through a bit of a rough patch, I checked and his location has changed to the place where he is currently staying. Does this mean he's been on the app? I'm rubbish with this stuff... how do the apps work regarding locations?

He's probably confused with one of the other dating apps he is using. 🤔

Maybe he’s mixing Bumble up with Ashley Madison where men do have to pay to see messages. That’s a hook up site by the way. He’s talking crap, but if you love him then continue on. When I get messages from dating apps I don’t use anymore I just bin them. I don’t log in.

I wonder what women mean when they say "in love" on this board. Men cheating, lying, drunk or whatever but "oh I can't leave him, I love him".

You have no ties to this man, you are dating. He is not nice to you, he lies and make you doubt yourself. He is angry, sulky and untrustworthy. You don't have much sex. He has nowhere to live. He makes you feel unattractive and not intelligent (which I bet isn't true anyway). Which part of this is lovable?

@Ellena646 what the F is he talking about? The only thing men can't do is start the conversation
You don't even pay to subscribe- you only pay to see who swipes to like you. My god. Just finish it - it's the direction you're going in anyway. He's scrambling now.

You are acting like a mug

You spent the night with this cheater

Be so careful

I have been fooled by so many men like this

Please re read this thread and value yourself

I know I am being a mug. He was supposed to be cooking me dinner tonight and I was going to talk to him about how I feel about the way he treats me. He just phoned to say he's too tired so probably won't be sparkling company, and that "doesn't mean I don't love you"... Friday night, he's got a date, right? I am a complete mug....

Does it matter? How do you feel about the way he is treating you, right now?

I'm sorry

Your gut is right

What a loser

Get back on the app and set clear boundaries

You do not need this loser

The really horrible thing is that I keep blaming myself...lf I was better in bed he'd want me, if I hadn't been such a nagging witch at times he'd like me more... if I hadn't had my hair cut like that, and if I was blahblahblah it's like this record on a loop in my head warning me that this might all be my fault and I am letting a good bloke go... is that control? Have I been brain-washed because I did just read back through this thread and I can see how it rolls but I feel like it's my fault...

Can you break up with someone on WhatsApp or is that really crap... if I talk to him or see him he will talk me round...

I don't usually agree with text break ups tbh but he doesnt deserve any more effort whatsoever

Ah jaysus

Firstly
I bet you are a 10/10

And he is a 1/10

I bet any amount this is the case

Secondly

It's not your fault
He's a cunt

Thirdly

WhatsApp him
End it
Block

Go have a good weekend and get some dates with guys who deserve you

Please value yourself

This is the same as what I went through with some awful awful men
There was one particularly awful one who pushed me to get to a size 8
I m 6ft and was a healthy size 12

He was size 22
I obsessed and obsessed to try to make him like me and one day I said fck this
And never spoke to him again

Sending you lots of good vibes ❤️❤️❤️❤️😝

Yep I can confirm that with Bumble it’s free to message - women have to message first but all messaging is free. You have to pay to see who “likes” you (otherwise you’re just swiping and hoping you both “liked” each other so you “match” and then the lady can message the man).

He’s disingenuous OP. You can’t trust him. My Mum used to say I don’t know much about relationships but I know this - without trust, there is no relationship. Throw this one back. He will make you feel mad lying and twisting things.

Yes that is narcissistic abuse and control. He has been love bombing and negging you to make you feel dependent on him. Fact is, you are amazing and deserve to be genuinely loved by someone equally amazing. He is not that person, he is horrible to you.

Someone genuinely loves you, they will love you whatever haircut you get!

True

Bin him this evening

Be straight to the point

You don't take shit any longer please please don't

Block him as he will grovel

I'm sorry this situation has made you second guess yourself. You are fine. He is a twatwaffle. You will be happier alone than being so unsettled and maybe reading into everything he says.

" This isn't working for me anymore. All the best"

Then block him on everything. He will get in touch but you must ignore him.

Perfect

And then block him everywhere inc emails too
Linkedin etc

You got this

Have a listen to this open.spotify.com/episode/37fe4OcaE4e7glOFiF7Dym?si=ui5lSrHVSxusahPg4TRuXg&utm_source=copy-link

Breakup survival guide and here www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/my-books/the-no-contact-rule/

Break up with him

So
you agreed to come off apps. You didn’t, you’re annoyed at him for not doing.
you go on to check up on him

Can you what’s app video call him to see where how he is given he was too ‘tired’ to come to yours? Or call round to ‘see if he is there how he is because you were worried about him?

Go to his street and stalk him for a while to see if he is staying home or going out. You need to know so do it. You now have a free night anyway.

I did think about going to his flat but it feels so desperate... is that the life I want to live right now... He's sent a message saying that he's unhappy because I was annoyed that he was tired earlier, which is "unfair" because it's his body reacting to being given a hard time!!! and now he can't sleep... WTF?

Just leave him. The stalking stuff just amps up the drama. Who cares what he is doing or who with?

Oh and his planned date cancelled/left early so now he wants you to make it up to him with a booty call.