"Most people send nude pictures nowadays"

[ImJustMadAboutSaffron]

Really? I heard this today from a 28 year old woman I know. She says she's done it as have all her friends, with men they're hoping to develop a relationship with and in the early stages of relationships.

Never have, never will. Not even in a 20 year relationship. Christ what are we teaching girls and young women if they think this is ok?

I'd say the majority are, in my experience, but it does come down to personal preference.

@RhubarbMoon

And of course it's your own fault if you are a grown adult and you send nude pics to some random hookup. It's a very naive women who thinks that these images won't be shared far and wide, and he doesn't require your consent to share them

If you are happy for everyone to see you naked then no problem, but I don't think that the majority of women would be. This kind of thing ruins lives.

which falls under making and distribution of child pornography. And the person you sent it to guilty of possession of child pornography.

Just so you know. Presumably you were told in Sex Ed. Because my teenagers were told at school by a police officer (also at home). I would be beyond furious if I were your mother finding this out. Where were your parents?

It's very easy to send a picture and then delete it from your phone and delete the text conversation in which you sent it so that even if a parent were to check your phone, there would be no hint of anything untoward on there. I very much doubt any parent is sat next to their teen 24/7.

I'm sure my mother would have been beyond furious too, and my father worked for the police.

And of course it's your own fault if you are a grown adult and you send nude pics to some random hookup. It's a very naive women who thinks that these images won't be shared far and wide, and he doesn't

And it's a very naive woman who meets a random guy at the bar and then goes home with him for sex knowing nothing about him, but I doubt you'd say it's her own fault if anything happened, you'd place the majority of the blame on the man. Unless you do subscribe to the idea that if you do something naively that leads to a violation of trust/consent then it's always your own fault, in which case I salute you on the consistency.

The people saying they send them without their face showing. But it’s your body! Still out there for the world to see literally!
I get it if your married and completely trusting but sending them to random hook ups is a complete no no for me! When single I found it bad enough knowing that the guy you were newly seeing was probably telling his mates all you got up without photographic evidence…

That's simply not comparable. The risk of being murdered/harmed on a one night stand is extremely low (not that I would do that either), whereas the risk of your photo being shared is extremely high. There are literally hundreds of thousands of these images circulating online, and that's not even counting sharing with friends etc (not online).

As I say, if you're happy to have your images shared then no problem but I don't think that many people would be.

Men are making money out of selling these images online. If you're happy to have these images shared then why not work in porn etc? At least you would get a share of the profit!!

Also, hurting someone on a one night stand is a crime. Sharing your explicit images is not.

How often, if ever, do you get a dick pic, solicited or otherwise, of a penis that looked small or ugly?

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and there are those who would argue every dick is ugly...

Early on in my OLD adventures, I was chatting to one guy who quickly turned to talking about his dick and how tiny it was. I said it didn't matter if he knew what to do with it and it's not all about his dick anyway. Except it was all about his dick, and having introduced the subject, it was all he would talk about, even after I pointed out how tedious he was being. He said he wanted to be humiliated about it, that's what he got off on, and he'd find something about me to humiliate to. I said I wanted a relationship based on respect, not humiliation, and blocked him. I am sure if I'd given him my number, I'd have received dickpics from him, but I only had his word for it (far too many words) that it was tiny. But I'm sure he's not the only one out there like that.

@EBearhug your OLD guy was not looking for a date/partner, he had a profile just for the kinks, his biggest one being humiliated for having a small di-k (he probably had a normal di-k). So many of these guys used to pay sex workers for this sort of service but now they’re getting it for free in OLD. I’m surprised you fell for his BS and engaged in “his small di-k” talk. He must have loved you.

@EBearhug i ask because of all the various judgments made on a woman based on a nude (in this context), I’m guessing the primary comments made about a man would be about his penis?
I didn’t factor the “look at my small penis” fetishists into my thinking though. People are weird, and I’m guessing @Sandra1984 is probably about right!

Women need to get a grip and be less naive. I realise there's pressure to do it but people need to remember that once they hit that send key its not theirs to control any longer.

Its such a sad story that so many find this out the hard way.

I’m surprised you fell for his BS and engaged in “his small di-k” talk. He must have loved you.

It wasn't love...

He was about the second or third one I'd matched with, so i was still getting used to it all, but i still blocked him pretty quickly.

My ex used to send dick pics to "cheer me up".

Sadly, that didnt work as they were always of his own flaccid little penis hiding in his straggly pubes. If he'd sent one of a more impressive, nicely manscaped one instead, that might actually have done the trick. 🤔

I have no idea why any woman would send a man intimate photos of herself naked.

It could get into anyone’s hands for a start.

But why would you want to turn yourself into some lifetime titillation for a man? A man you might like this year, but not the next for example. I just don’t get it.

It’s porny sexual self-objectification on a mass scale if if this is a common thing.

Finally, I believe no genuinely respectful man would ask a woman he loved to do this.

That's my take but I'm puritanical I'm told.

In other news, the person I know who's been sending face included nudes to people has been babysitting a ten year old boy who's seen them on her phone and told his dad. The child's dad, who's a relative, has had stern words with her about it. Her response? To post on Facebook that she's been told she's immature and at 42 she's a grown up. Cue lots of u ok Hun, u tell em to f-off comments. Idiotic people like this shouldn't be in charge of a phone or tablet.

I wouldn't want to give anyone the satisfaction of sharing a nude of me. I don't want to give them that small moment of triumph or salaciousness.
I'm not selling myself cheaply. I didn't value myself enough in the past.
So no, they are not getting nudes.

Apparently nudes and worse still contact details are being shared www.bbc.com/news/uk-62564028.amp

Yes. I have tried to help my friend but she doesn't want to know, or doesn't care. She thinks she knows it all. I have tried to get help here, but been told I am lonely, over-invested and "increasingly fruitcakey" from people who don't even know me, but just make a judgement. (The problem with my mate is more than just sharing nude pics, though that is the frightening way things have gone with her and the neighbours' kids have seen it and reported on it).

It's "fruitcakey" to be concerned about the activities of someone who is really acting "fruitcakey", and it's because I've known her for 30+ years that I know and understand this is not normal for anyone, never mind her.

I'm giving up, both on her and on here, it's just not worth the stupidity and insults.