"Most people send nude pictures nowadays"

[ImJustMadAboutSaffron]

Really? I heard this today from a 28 year old woman I know. She says she's done it as have all her friends, with men they're hoping to develop a relationship with and in the early stages of relationships.

Never have, never will. Not even in a 20 year relationship. Christ what are we teaching girls and young women if they think this is ok?

I think people who DO agree with the OP are the ones likely to get shamed!

It's wrong and gross to some and not to others. You can't tell someone it's not wrong or gross, people are entitled to their own opinion.

Pretty common. I'm in my 40s and have done it. Most of my friends have done it - but generally as part of a long-term relationship or marriage. Not to just some random on Tinder.

Oh right

I wonder if there's more people who don't do this but they'd never talk about not doing so we wouldn't know.

I think the take away message of all this is do what you want, foolish or not, just
DON’T INCLUDE YOUR FACE!!!

Personally I’m not interested in viewing disembodied body parts, and I think the idea is naff, but that’s just me.

I’m the wrong side of 40 never sent a nude, definitely can’t see me sending one in the future..no one wants to see that. Been married for along time & as much as I love my husband I hope to dear god he also doesn’t send be anything!

For my 19 year old she has been sent a few di&k pick and she just deletes - she knows about distribution etc and her being responsible & accountable. She always says I bet it isn’t their own photo anyway. She’s been asked FAR too many times for nudes as if it is normal - but she isn’t intrested in being someone’s w@nk bank photos.

@Change123today “She always says I bet it isn’t their own photo anyway“

I do wonder how often dick pics are not the dick of the sender in question!

Which then raises the possibility that these guys are scrolling through loads of photos of other men's cocks deciding which one to use to pass off as their own 😂

I wouldn't because the chances of a relationship being "the one" is limited. There's always a strong chance that it will end with me thinking the guy is an arsehole. And I don't want arseholes having photos of me.

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@Sandra1984 @JenGin

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the risk is if a photo is identifiable

which it presumably is, given you have sent it to someone who knows who you are?

No, neither have I. Nor would I. Why would you intentionally place yourself at risk of blackmail & humiliation with someone you essentially don't know. It sounds like rank stupidity to me.

Sorry but it does.

I'm early 40s.

At 18 I moved to a uni the other side of the country and lived in halls. I was very lonely (I ended up moving uni for second year).

I used to take nudes (no face or identifying features) and post them online and send to strange men.

It does make me feel slightly sick now to think about it, although I can't say I am too bothered because because they are not indentifiable as me.

This was around 2000 / 2001 though.

I took the photos on a digital camera and uploaded them to my desktop pc and onto the internet. As far I know it wasn't really posisble to trace them back to me (plus nobody cared enough to do that).

I wouldn't do it now and I would feel uncomfortable even having them on my phone / the Cloud etc.

I think (hope) that the tide is turning on this and that it is losing momentum. I think there is now a growing understanding that it is a very dangerous thing to do.

Firstly if I'm in the chatting stage they probably don't have my full name or know much about me but secondly no, a picture of a vulva is not identifiable even if you claim you know who it belongs to 😆

"You can see why people do it? Can you explain why because I just can't understand it. I'm not talking about established relationships with a high level of trust (though I still wouldn't). I mean with people online you don't know, online dating, early stages of a relationship or someone you fancy who's asked but you're not in a relationship yet."

@ImJustMadAboutSaffron

I think I can answer this.

Per my post above, I used to post explicit photos of myself (no face) online.

I was young, full of raging hormones, and stuck in a city where I didn't know anyone and was bored and lonely.

It was anonymous and it was exciting. Also, it was before social media, but on the site where I used to post my pics you could see how many people had viewed them, how many had "liked" them, and men would post comments - sometimes complimentary comments, sometimes just downright filthy / pervy, but to be honest, that's what people were there for. And I guess the thrill of that was what appealed to people.

I wasn't looking for a boyfriend. And I haven't even sent nudes to boyfriends or prospective boyfriends (even when I was in a long distance relationship), I have only ever done it anonymously.

So I guess that might be slightly different to what you are talking about. For me, it was all about the thrill and the anonymity.

Plus it seemed less dangerous then as the internet was newer and everything in general just felt more anonymous.

Regarding the blackmail element, I have considered this. If someone went down this road, I have already decided that to take the power away from them I'd just front up. Yes it's me, yes those are my boobs and yes, brace yourself, I have sex.

Blackmail relies on shame and I refuse to accept that being a sexual being is shameful. The judgement should be reserved for those who share and disrespect the sender.

I don't include my face however. And I don't send my fanjo/full nudes.

FWIW it is hot if that's part of your dynamic. I love sending my boobs to my partner. I love seeing him too, especially if I'm responsible for him being turned on.

My then boyfriend showed me the photos his ex was sending him when she was trying to lure him back. I judged him almost as much as her for showing me.

I also had a boyfriend who told me that a nude popped up on his phone when he was in a board meeting once. So that's good.

I don't ever send them, and don't receive them. A nice muscly thigh stretched out in bed is the most I ever get. (and tbh I think that's more attractive than a cock anyway).

I do hope my dds don't feel the need to do this, although looking at their holiday photos, which are almost pornographic, I suspect they will do. I think it's stupid, risky and just degrading.

I agree with you, but once you find your nudes on Reddit with your real name and company you work for plus social media links you may (or may not) feel different .

Depends also on your line of work of course. Many professional fields (teaching, police, working with children etc…will sack you for this

Would you not be the victim of a crime in this instance? And if not, can someone publicly publishing private photos of you be a sackable offence?

I’ve never done it and never will. DDs, at University don’t either. One was asked for a photo when she showered. She sent a pic of her hair piled up with shampoo. He gave a up asking. The other one gives a firm NO, off you go, fuck off.

I am engulfed by a strong sense of "why is nothing normal anymore" these days - and this thread is adding to it! <runs away>

You're of the opinion that sending sexy photos to your partner is "abnormal"?

WHY????!!!!

Oh I was thinking in terms of the OP - people you don't know that well.