Traditions in his family are weird, If I have to do that. I will do it myself!!!

[newmumy2022]

My partner's family tradition is weird.
Must have had earrings in my daughter's ears when she was three months old.
I was resistant. But if I really had to do it, I would do it myself.

Is there anyone in or around Liverpool who has done Baby ear piercings?
Any good places to recommend?
And what kind of earrings should I prepare?

I wonder if maybe this kind of mini earrings could fit?

https://www.trendollajewelry.com/collections/nap-earrings/products/trendolla-king-crown-earrings-ball-back-earrings-nap-earrings

Help!!!
FFFF!!!

Just no. Break the tradition

I don’t think you will find anywhere reputable that will pierce a baby’s ears.
please don’t go to Claire’s Accessories either.

Don't feel pressured.

Just don't do it.

Wait till she's finished year 6.

Wait till she goes to secondary school.

Please don't

don't pierce your poor baby's ears. Leave it until they are old enough to know what's going on, look after their own ears and make their own decisions.

Just say no

You're her mother, you need to advocate for your baby

FGM is a family tradition too. Can you not push back at all? Are you really so second class and impotent that you can’t protect your daughter?

They are your partners family tradition, not yours. Do not start pandering to stuff like this.

If you think the tradition is weird, why are you doing it? Don't be pressured into doing something to your 3 month old that you don't really want to do.

It’s not weird, it’s cultural for many families. It’s a bit rude to call it weird. That said, I wouldn’t want to have my babies ears pierced either, for many reasons, so just don’t go along with it. You are free to break the tradition with your own child.

You don’t really have to do it. So don’t. And don’t leave your daughter alone with them if you think they’ll do it.

Oh no. Just refuse! My baby = my rules. If you don't both agree then it doesn't happen. No good grief NO.

And also NO.

What will be next if you roll over for this?

I don't care about baby ear piercing, but if YOU don't want to do it, don't do it. You don't have to carry on your husband's family traditions.

Is it a cultural thing? I was pressurised to have my daughter's ears pierced because my in-laws are Indian (I'm not). I just kept saying no, even though they raised the subject every time I saw them! I'm very respectful of their religion and culture but this was one issue I wouldn't compromise on. I let her get them done when she was 9 in the end.

Start your own tradition of waiting until your daughter can give consent and wants them doing.

I don't agree with baby's ears being pierced. It should only be done when the child can consent themselves. Tell your husband its not happening

Is this a weird way of saying you want to put holes in your baby but not admitting it, like it's better to say it's a family wish?

There is no need to inflict pain on a baby, there's no reason they need to have ear rings. Leave the poor mite alone.

It's actually illegal now

It's weird that if I were to stick pins through any other part of a baby I'd be arrested for child abuse, but for some reason ears are exempt. I can't understand why/how it's legal. Time to break the family "tradition".

There are said to be important acupuncture points in the ear lobes. Don't interfere with those.

But really, you are her mother. If you don't protect her, who will? You just must not give in to people who want to do body piercings on your poor little 3 month old. Please look after her rights not to have a hole made in her ears. She can consent to this herself when older if she wants it.

No please don't. As they get older they start playing with them and could pull them

If you don’t want it done then why are you doing it?

I know in some cultures it’s the norm but so is FGM would you also allow that to happen?

Why have a baby with a man who you disagree with his traditions?

As far as I can find it isn't, even though I wish it was. Please could you link to the proof?

There is not a chance in hell that I would allow my precious baby to have her ears pierced, put her through the pain and the subsequent pain of sleeping on her ears for my partners family tradition. No way. I can’t believe you’re even considering it. Just say no!!!!