Traditions in his family are weird, If I have to do that. I will do it myself!!!

[newmumy2022]

My partner's family tradition is weird.
Must have had earrings in my daughter's ears when she was three months old.
I was resistant. But if I really had to do it, I would do it myself.

Is there anyone in or around Liverpool who has done Baby ear piercings?
Any good places to recommend?
And what kind of earrings should I prepare?

I wonder if maybe this kind of mini earrings could fit?

https://www.trendollajewelry.com/collections/nap-earrings/products/trendolla-king-crown-earrings-ball-back-earrings-nap-earrings

Help!!!
FFFF!!!

Don’t do it, let your DD decide for herself when she is older. You don’t need to follow his traditions as they aren’t your own.

Ask them to accept your family tradition of not putting holes in a baby?

Ugh please don’t. Let her decide for herself when she’s older if she wants them pierced, please don’t be pressured by your family to do something to your baby that your clearly don’t want to do

Wait until she ask, poor little thing!
My eldest is now nearly 7 and is absolutely not interested and has said she doesn't like earrings, would hate to have forced that upon her against her wishes!

www.hopkinsmedicine.org/news/articles/the-risks-of-infant-ear-piercing
onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1365-4632.2010.04778.x
legacypediatrics.com/parent-guide/common-illnesses/pierced-ear-infection/

just a few articles about ear piercing complications in children.

Mine both tug their earlobes when tired so I don't get why you'd want to give them earrings so young. Wait until she's old enough to clean the piercings by herself and take some responsibility.

Also guns are not a safe option, it can cause irreparable damage and no one is going to pierce a baby’s ears with a needle. You need to stand firm on this, why cause her unnecessary pain and discomfort at such a young age.

I am sorry but no, you can't be serious about mutilating your dd because that's your dh's family's tradition? She can't give consent at 3 months to have her ears pierced. It is a really common look anyway, why would you want to do that?

Don't do it. I had to once as a student working in Claire's and it was awful.

If you don't want to get into a debate with them, say you're worried that if you do them too young the holes won't be symmetric when she's bigger so you want to wait. Might save the argument and them feeling like you're judging them.

If you don't want YOUR baby's ears piercing then you don't take her for her ears piercing.

Simple.

Why would you inflict an injury on a baby? That's horrible.

Your child, your rules. Tell then no, until she is old enough to make a decision for herself.

Some traditions need to be broken. This is definitely one of them. I would absolutely refuse to have my baby's ears pierced. It's awful.

Thanks for sharing your experience. Can you tell me, in what way did you go about rejecting it?

And never, ever leave your baby with your in-laws alone without you there in case they pierce her ears. If you feel pressured, speak to your health visitor and maybe she can educate your weak dh about it. You have a dh problem as well as an in law problem.

Some family traditions are weird and you go along with them because they're just a bit of fun and important to those you love, but this? Just no.

Just say no if you don’t want it. Advocate for your daughter ffs

OP stand firm on this. Let your daughter decide herself when she is old enough. She is an innocent baby. Advocate for her.

Out of interest, why is ear piercing so important in their culture? Is it just something that's always done or is there a reason (however ridiculous) for it?

Just say no, it doesn’t matter if it’s his tradition it’s not yours. Why inflict unnecessary pain (even if its brief) on a baby. Mine rolled around a lot while sleeping, she’d have to wear them all the time, can you imagine how irritating it will be? Or if she yanks them?

I come from a culture where ear piercing kids is common. I know literally no-one who has pierced their daughters ears as a baby. Most people are now discouraging it till they are much older and only when their DD’s ask. Traditions die a death for a reason.

It’s abuse.
If you gave an adult or older child a piercing without their consent you’d be arrested for assault.. why is it ok for babies.

The way to reject it is to say Fuck off.

It's tradition to needlessly cut off boys foreskins, cut off a girls clitoris and stitch up a girls vaginas. But that is illegal. For good reason.

I would say that in British culture it is rite of passage to get your ears done at the end of year 6 IF the child wants it. Or in my case at 14 when I was the last person in my school to have them done.

We are not geared up to baby piercing in this country, in Spain the midwife will pierce a baby's ears, that's a norm. In the UK anyone who has trained to pierce ears has not trained on a bay.

@newmumy2022

Can you tell me, in what way did you go about rejecting it?

'No, I'm not putting holes in her tiny ears, stop going on about it'

but confidence comes with age. When I was younger I might have said. 'No, I'll think about it when she's older, but not yet, I'm worried I'll catch them on her clothes etc'

but st any age I wouldn't have been bullied into it. She's YOUR daughter, she's yours to love & protect!!

It’s absolute cruelty piercing babies ears. That is all…

I appreciate all of you!!
but!!
I really care about my partner!
I am worried about losing!!!