Dating thread 228: ribbons round a maypole

[ButterflyOfShay]

The Rules:

The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

Develop a thick skin.

Do not invest emotionally too soon.

It's all BS until it actually happens.

Trust your gut instinct.

People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.

Know your worth.

If it's not fun, stop.

Loo update is mandatory.

No dating the thread.

Treat others as you'd like to be treated

Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with

The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@Penguinwaddler it’s a bit hazy as we were both a little drunk at that point, he said something along the lines of them not having enough in common and that they both agreed mutually it wouldn’t work, they did get to 5 dates and dtd though. I obviously don’t know the ins and outs and the way he framed it sounded quite reasonable but it’s also made me anxious and I think made me aware to keep my barrier up a bit longer I think just because of my past experience.

@Rubyroseyposey nerves are ok. Just breathe and Only do what feels right. I love that crazy fizz feeling though

Why are people so rude?
i’ve just been on Hinge. I’ve put that I have a disability on my Profile. Today I had a comment from someone quoting what I said and saying ‘you know this brings the question, what disability?’ No ‘hello’ ‘how are you?’ Nothing. Just that sentence.

I just found that so entitled of him. I talk about my disability when I’m ready, and not because some stranger on a dating app asks me to! Needless to say, I unmatched him. 😠

Brightstar29

ive become very pragmatic about the baggage
as frankly I have my own as a late 40s single mum

it’s funny as dating in 20s and 30s , I was so naive and didn’t know jack shit
i quite like dating at this age as I psycho analyse them , and to a degree myself and how I react

all we can do with the bad experiences is file them away and learn

ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers

charming
may I ask is this your fibro ? I’ve seen you post about the pain before
I hoPe you don’t mind me asking

Rubyroseyposey

hiw exciting ! Sounds like sex is in the cards

i was so nervous but , lust took over
report back !!!!

@Thisisworsethananticpated cerebral palsy and fibro. I’m still undiagnosed on the fibro, so I don’t really mention that 🙂

Thanks guys 💕 yes very exciting my first experience of it at 31.

ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers

i think it’s smart mentioning it

wouldn’t it be nice if you could meet a fellow With similar issues , I live in hope x

@Thisisworsethananticpated thank you ❤️

ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers

may I ask how you worded it
is it a tick on tinder
or a comment?

im just really interested that’s all x loads of reasons why

Hi everyone.

I've been following the thread but not posting because I have nothing worthwhile to post really!

I had a brief 6 week thing with Mr. Holiday and gone on a few first dates where there hasn't really been any connection. I had the attitude that I was going to be really positive, relaxed, just meeting new people and I was.....but I am now reaching the point of feeling frustrated/disillusioned with the whole thing. I have two dates lined up and after that, I'm following @ButterflyOfShay s lead, giving up on OLD and taking my chances in the real world!!

Nice to read some of you are successfully meeting people tho!

@Thisisworsethananticpated I wrote it as part of a comment. There’s one on there called ‘I’m looking for…’ and I wrote something like ‘I’m looking for someone loyal, kind and honest, who’d be open to dating someone with a disability.’

Ah I see

ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers
so you didn’t mention what it was
im curious that if you said ‘by the way I have CF , keen to meet or chat with others with experience of this’ if you’d open a better quality conversation
either with chaps with it , or who know through family ?
but sorry if that’s too directive x

@Thisisworsethananticpated I don’t like to put too much emphasis on it when I’m on the apps. I like people to Keep it light with me at first. I just don’t like it when men try and discuss it straight away. 😘😘

@Thisisworsethananticpated my favorite part is psychoanalysing 😅😅

I love this update!!! 😄

Got coffee with Young Hunk tomorrow!! 💘 purely two colleagues having a catch up is all 😏

@ButterflyOfShay The whole thread is invested in '2 colleagues having coffee'🤭😂

I have waited a looooooong time for this coffee 😁

Enjoy your coffee @ButterflyOfShay

Good luck on your dates @Rubyroseyposey and @ButterflyOfShay ❤️

I've just bought up condoms as I'm on the waiting list for a new coil and I feel so embarrassed but surely this was the right thing to do?! Why am I so cringed out 😭

Thank you 💕 I'm super excited tbf eek

💕