Dating thread 228: ribbons round a maypole

[ButterflyOfShay]

The Rules:

The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

Develop a thick skin.

Do not invest emotionally too soon.

It's all BS until it actually happens.

Trust your gut instinct.

People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.

Know your worth.

If it's not fun, stop.

Loo update is mandatory.

No dating the thread.

Treat others as you'd like to be treated

Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with

The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Good luck with your upcoming dates! 😍

I've not got another date booked in with Mr Hipster. I've realised how anxious it makes me when there isn't another date locked in, makes me wonder if the slow fade is on its way 😅

Have you been in contact?

ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers
fair enough , I’m very nosy and curious x

Back from date with iron I didn't even bother naming due to lack of enthusiasm and certainty I wouldn't fancy him. Reader, I didn't. Nice enough bloke, very chatty so no awkward silences, brought his dog so something neutral to talk about. We've just exchanged messages - he'd like to meet again but asked me to be honest if I didn't, so I was and he's thanked me for my honesty. All very respectful and sensible.

Now I'm going to focus on my weekend away with my sisters and live vicariously through Shay's hot date with Young Hunk.

Thanks ladies! @WeWantTheFinestWines at least you gave it a try, fortune favours the brave?? 🥹 have a magical fun long weekend away 💃💃💃

{mention: pixie5121} I wonder if guys are as jaded with OLD as women. Hopefully there’ll be a revolution, dating apps will be junked and everyone will start meeting and flirting IRL again!!

ButterflyOfShay

have fun tomorrow ! Are you eating the satin dress !

WeWantTheFinestWines

you cant make an omelette without breaking any eggs
at least he was a nice egg
still

I’m feeling a bit grubby as ex local iron came to help with It
to be fair he was very helpful

sadly I don’t fancy him
sadly he fancies me
feel like a 5 gig prick tease

IT I mean (internet )

Ah don't you didn't force him 😂

Sounds like a pretty typical male experience, send out messages, get no replies.
who are then men talking too?, dunno, probably no-one either

I think I've found my FWB ! He's an ex ion, no interest in more on either side and he's very good, understands my life is full of commitments at the moment and happy for us to meet where possible, not sure whether to carry on looking but also don't have the time but also want to find someone who I do want more with.

@Thisisworsethananticpated that’s ok ❤️

Mr S just left from our chat re sex. Quick update:

1. He says this has never happened before
2. He believes this is the result of having built mental barriers in the very, very long time since his last relationship. He is finding he can't just let go mentally and he thinks this is the issue.
3. He spoke to a pharmacist today who recommended Viagra. The pharmacist told him that it can help with the issues set out at #2.

We have plans to see each other again Friday. Maybe that will be the day!

A couple of my exes were normal looking/nothing too wow facially but tall (6ft 3 upwards) yet were practically inundated on OLD. Even they were surprised to get hundreds of likes, one went on a date or two a week for 2 years. I do genuinely agree that a man can be pretty average (for want of a better word), decent personality and meet someone. I think a lot of women forgo hot looks if the guy seems reasonably eloquent and in ok shape. Whereas women have to be "way above average" in every way as there are so many looking!

Hurray, I admire your bravery @hotnakedgelato to be so upfront. I had a partner who was amazing physically with me yet he told me he had had similar issues to Mr S throughout his life. I was actually the first where the physically stuff just worked. There was nothing wow about me but we were always open to talk about things. I think if you can have open conversations about sex like that, it can only bode well for the future.

@ButterflyOfShay I'm excited for your coffee too, I think you'll have a lovely time no matter what but I would definitely flirt more if I were you.

Not much to report on my side, had a video call with a nice guy but he just seemed much older personality wise and I couldn't get past that. Whilst I'm not the abseiling, rock climbing adventurer type, I don't feel ready to embrace that slowness of life as yet. Not sure there is a middle ground.

Eesha-, one went on a date or two a week for 2 years

jesus . Each to their own but that would kill me

I must be below average then 😞

Got to love a mutually respectful exchange like that, even if it's unexciting. Onwards.... (to the weekend away and vicarious living, for now)

Looking forward to this update later.... enjoy!!