Dating Thread 227- Stepping Into Summer

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The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

Ohh. Is it all systems go on the boner front ?, 🚀🗼🍢
no more boner-gate issues

@cravingthelook I think your set up is how it's meant to work but I'd wager 90% blokes just use it as an excuse. You can usually tell pretty early on who is genuinely so.

@preciousthings I completely understand thanks.

The problem is the people that use ENM or kink as an excuse that make it hard for the truly ethical folk.

@Eesha thanks. It's took a long time and lots of talking to get here.

@Rubyroseyposey oooh exciting

What would you guys think of this after dating for 3 months?

We've been seeing each other on average once a week. He's stayed at mine, I've stayed at his, have had very personal conversations about my past (difficult family) and isn't totally casual. He's a bit younger than me (31) but not too much. I currently see him for one full day/night a week atm.

I asked the other night if he'd mind hanging out 2x this week, in a lighthearted way - and he responded saying that wanted to be honest with me that he didn't need that. I said I was upset, then he clarified saying just wasn't able to cope with being tired at work etc if we're up all night, and fine to have a quick drink or something midweek as well as weekends (which is what I'd actually meant!). He told me I was being silly for feeling like I was being used.

Is this something to worry about? I am quite independent but would be quite happy to see him a few nights a week now. It felt like as soon as I mentioned wanting to see more often he had a response prepared. I've been hurt before so not sure whats normal and don't want to bring my baggage into a new relationship. He's been lovely otherwise and I am trying my very best not to project past issues onto new people.

Short sighted? No, it’s just not everyone’s thing. At All. A recent type 2 herpes scare put the lid on my thoughts about online dating and the casualness of casual. Long sighted more so I’d say. Don’t ever apologise for sitting the opposite side of any sexual conduct.

RIPLilliththeLynx

he been honest
you might not like what he said
but he’s been honest and I suppose you need to decide if you continue as is
or look for something more serious

just don’t try and hope he changes
and that way sadness lies

Thought id get the next thread going 🎀🎀www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/4542005-dating-thread-228-ribbons-round-a-maypole

Ouch i envy this but think id be too embarrassed 😂😂

Should have just told him to take a selfy.. one massive tit right there

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agree with you Eesha, @ibelieveinmirrorballs you’ve been burnt by the guy once I would be so careful here x

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