Dating Thread 227- Stepping Into Summer

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The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

gelatodipistacchio

your period is actually good news with the boner issue
takes pressure off

don’t laugh , but I’ve watched some videos on YouTube abiut tantric sex / orgasmic meditation and lingham (!!! 🍆 ) massage
its all abiut erotic touch and massage but without the goal of orgasm and penetrative sex

worth looking into as a way to get intimate and use the excuse of your period to try it

Rubyroseyposey

i also bet you that if things continue you will start seeing him as the hottest thing ever
I didn’t fancy my last iron on first date (but liked him a lot ) and then attraction grew
big time

anotherdisaster

sorry . Some people just can’t be honest and upfront
they are cowards
I don’t understand it either
don’t give up x

Thisisworsethananticpated

Thank you. I know I shouldn't let it put me off but i get extremely nervous/anxious going on a first date and not sure I can go through it again!

Great to hear you're starting to feel up to dipping your toe in again. IME there's always an initial 'god this is dull' period when I can first bear looking at the apps post something ending...

How's the health focus been going? Are you still motivated and losing kg? I've recently put on about 10 pounds and am now trying to focus on losing that, getting to the gym at least 3x per week, and on family rather than too much on dating.

Don't give up - just know lots of us have been through the same and the apps are littered with people who are unable to have even slightly difficult conversations such as 'I didn't think there was enough of a spark, wishing you luck on your dating journey' texts.

yeah I don’t know what to say to take the pressure and nerves off
only you can figure it out

I see it like ‘it’s a 2 hour walk, I’ll have a chat and burn some calories’ and ce sera , sera

but I get it totally , I nearly had a tinned gin and tonic before my last walk

maybe take a mental health break
like we all do time to time

it’s bruising when a total stranger does this
no way abiut it

@gelatodipistacchio have a great date later. I would also be tidying and anticipating a sleepover, regardless of period... it's always a good test I think of the kind of man I'm looking for - not interested in someone who's prissy about body fluids!

I spoke to MrM on Saturday for a bit of a debrief post our meeting last weekend... feeling okay about it all and erring towards thinking that it is probably not a good idea for me to entertain occasional FWB weekend adventures with him, no matter how appealing that is to the naughty rebellious side of me.

We are meeting this afternoon, been messaging this morning. He asked me what I wanted to do, I feel like just a walk if it isn't raining, and a coffee. He feels we have a connection and is interested to see where it goes. But I had a a great time and very much looking forward to this afternoon 🤩

@Thisisworsethananticpated oh no, I'm sorry :( definitely don't waste any more time on him! It's a new month as @Mila14 says so definitely onwards and upwards!

@Rubyroseyposey I'm so glad your date went well! What are you going to do with him today?

This is interesting! My date no 2 with Mr Hipster was yesterday and I had a lovely time, lots of chatting and laughs. Held hands and had a brief hug and kiss when we said goodbye but I don't look at him and want to climb him like a tree (to put it horribly bluntly haha) whereas my past few disaster dates ended in some very hot kissing but of course led to nothing else.

A slow burn in the attraction department perhaps? But also he looks incredibly like my ex, similar hair, glasses, face, dress sense and mild mannered. Concerned the ick will appear ..

Thank you 😊 just going to go out of town for a walk and a coffee. Feels very positive and I don't feel anxious or like I'm second guessing everything which is a nice change 🤣

Ahh I'm excited for you! I hope it goes well :)

ibelieveinmirrorballs

Thanks, i can well believe you've all been through it. The worst thing is I had only just decided to try again after having a nearly 2 year mental break. I even went for an older guy this time thinking he'd be more mature!!

Anotherdisaster…you can do this and have a laugh too. Think this guy didn’t even have the good manners to write back and tell you he wants to date someone else, he did not feel the connection or the spark and blah blah. It doesn’t matter. Dust yourself off and someone a lot better will appear…

@Thisisworsethananticpated yeah very glad he showed his colours before you met 🙈 can you report him on the app? Dunno if they ever take action though, I’ve reported nasties before and always saw them on there months after 😡

hehe yeah coffee and walk with Young Hunk later this week… I may or may not have purchased myself a skinky new satin dress for the occasion!! …..(not a bridal dress 😂😂🙈)
it’s perfectly acceptable as wanted to zusch (sp?) up my work wardi anyway!!!

Enjoy yourself @gelatodipistacchio bet the boner stands tall and sprightly today 😂😂

God it must feel SO amazing to have an admirer!! I can’t even remember how it feels. Must make one feel very sexy!! 💃

Sorry @anotherdisaster . It’s really crap 💐

I often have a quick shot of voddy before anything nervewracking 🤣🤣
not now though.. sober 2022

ibelieveinmirrorballs

so ginge is over , and your considering a FWB with an ex iron ?
im also
considering same so curious what boundaries you would agree
or maybe not agree if sense prevails

Enjoy yourself @gelatodipistacchio bet the boner stands tall and sprightly today 😂😂

like a phallic maypole

maybe get some coloured ribbons 🎀 gelato

ButterflyOfShay
im loving the tight satin dress for the daytime date 😂😂 you go !!!!

@ButterflyOfShay …you go girl…have a great time with the hunk! @Penguinwaddler …do not think of the ex! This is a new guy but yeah some superficial similarities. If you feel attracted and there’s enough chemistry it’s a good’un
Me, date 2 to swanky resto tomorrow with Mr Smile. Let’s see how it goes…🙂

Can I join in? Just been unmatched on Bumble for not sending a guy a photo of my tits 🙄 kind of losing faith in mankind.