Dating Thread 227- Stepping Into Summer

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The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

Oops didnt mean to send the last message! Why isn't there a delete comment option lol!

@Thisisworsethananticpated sorry that you got a crap message yesterday :( it does through you, there are some wrong'uns out there.

@Thisisworsethananticpated
you wrote this

got another horrible yesterday , really strange and not pleasant messages
funny how it throws you ?

who sent you those messages? Your ex? 😳
By all means enjoy the recycling…who knows…you were busy with someone else then and did not make a move. Do whatever feels good 😊

I seem to run out of men on Bumble really quickly. My only filters are that they are verified, 5'10 or over (I am tall), I have a large age range of 15 years, and a 30 mile radius that covers the whole of London. Does anyone else find this?

Penguinwaddler
Mila14

it was a one who got away chap as I was seeing someone
ive since deleted him
I wont go into details as actually don’t want to waste airspace but he was a bit nasty
I can’t put my finger in exactly why (and I was in an Uber pissed) but I was like
🤔 your not a nice person
delete

that’s 2 this week

Got it. Never mind. It’s a new week and a new month…onwards and upwards. We don’t need nasty guys, that’s for sure. Delete away

Did Mr Beautiful message again?

I've deleted Mr NoProfile now. Finding it hard to get past the first message with any others. Not sure how to come across- I think I need to be more playful rather than just asking questions....?

@Daydreamscometrue no, Mr NoProfile didn't message me, so I've now deleted him. I read back over all our messages and just can't understand why someone would want to just do that for fun and not follow it through at all.

Hard to know what they get from it. I've had loads like that.

I'd also like to know the answer as it happens to me too. They also tend to ask very few questions about me.

Right.. there's two nice women I would like to chat to via OLD.. I chatted to one ( Ms. F ) briefly as she sent me a like as I was chatting to another (Ms. A ).. I've continued to chat and I've met Ms. A, but it's a friendship thing ( not FWB ).
Ms. CA has sent me a like and we started chatting.
I can't lie.. I'm physically attracted to them both ( I know that's shallow ) ...
They are both genuine and nice "ordinary" women.
I'm not used to this tbh..
I haven't recommenced chatting to Ms. F , it doesn't feel right to "lead" her on.
She will know I've looked at her profile again as she has changed her profile pic and of course I looked ( typical man that I am )..
What do the more experienced OLD'ers do?

@Shunter350 you chat to both and even meet them both. You might find you like one more than the other anyway. You don't really need to care about chatting to multiple people.

@Daydreamscometrue same - he asked very few questions about me and didn't give much information in his answers to questions I asked him.

@Daydreamscometrue sorry, I saw your comment was for my other question ...

Well had a lovely date today started at 1 dropped me home at 7. So not my usual type - average looking, same height as me but I've never felt such a connection with a guy. We are meeting again tomorrow 😊🤩

Fantastic news… I am seeing not my usual Mr Smile this week… let’s see how it goes

@Shunter350 ^^ do this, and great job getting multiple chats going at once 👍🏼

Rubyroseyposey
i like good news posts

Shunter350
is chat to both , arrange to meet both
it’s annoying when two come at the same time as I don’t like it either
feels like cheating and it’s not !

but you can’t make an omelette …..

lesgalettes
try hinge ? It’s like bumble but both genders can like each other , so I’d I was a guy I’d probably
prefer hinge as more egalitarian ?

@Rubyroseyposey I also like a good news story! Have a great time today.

@lesgalettes I try and keep things playful as otherwise feels like a job interview. You only look forward to seeing someone you'll have a laugh with!

I dipped my toe in this week and got quite a bit of interest but no one floating my boat much. Had one potential date booked for later this week but my spidey senses are wondering if he's actually still in a relationship as no message this weekend and I'm always dubious about those.

@Thisisworsethananticpated hope you’re ok after the nasty incident. It can feel very disconcerting can’t it and leave you feeling a bit vulnerable? I hate that.

Yay @Rubyroseyposey nice update 🥰🥰 reminds me of my last connection ages ago now but we really clicked and I liked him a lot despite him not being very average looking! 100% prefer guys who have great personality over looks any day!

ButterflyOfShay

yeah I’m fine thanks , thank god I never met them !
statistically speaking it was bound to happen at some stage

your date with young hunk this week yes ?

@Rubyroseyposey that's lovely! Looks fade anyway. I think that having a good personality (especially being kind and genuine) is the most important thing.

@Thisisworsethananticpated this is a philosophical take on it. Really good that you didn't meet up with the creeper.

I'm meeting Mr S a bit later for another long date. I now have my period (full throttle) and a sore throat, so expecting a reasonably chaste meeting. I'm annoyed in some ways, but also a bit glad that the boner stress is being pushed off. If the issues really were down to wanting to feel more comfortable together/spend more time, maybe this will be a good opportunity to achieve those goals.

I'm still tidying up a bit in anticipation of a potential sleepover, though 😳

So i went on a date yesterday. Just a relaxed dog walk with someone I met on an app. He seemed nice and was keen. I thought it went really well. We seemed to get on. No message since and he's deleted his profile from the app. I give up.