Dp told dd my most embarrassing private secret

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For some fucked up reason - him trying to be funny, told my dd16 whilst joking about a sexual experience I had when I was experimenting and young.

I could have actually died inside. No one knows, only him. I made light of it snd joked it obviously wasn’t true etc - she knew.

I feel so embarrassed and humiliated and deceived.

So embarrassed, I want to crawl into a hole and stay there

Very inappropriate to share that with your 16DD. Why did he do that? is he her dad?

Is he your DDs dad? Because if he isn’t that makes it slightly more concerning IMO.

Why the hell is your partner revealing sexual things to your daughter?
Inappropriate and actually bloody creepy.

Bit more context?

This is odd 😕

I'm appalled on your behalf! I'm also wondering if he is your daughters father?

That's bang out of line

No he isn’t, been in her life since she was 2. Honestly there isn’t anything ‘untoward’ going on.

Dd11 talked to both of us about relationships with boys and girls and she was upset a bit. We reassured her either was totally normal and fine and whatever she is is perfect.

Dd16 overheard and started taking the piss and thought it very funny. He then said what he did.

Tumble weed moment as a mother.

Well that's all kinds of inappropriate quite aside from everything else! Why on earth was he discussing anything sexual with a 16 year old girl? Is he her dad? Not that it makes it any less bad either way tbf. As for how you are feeling I don't blame you, what a horrible thing to do to the person he's supposed to love. I just can't fathom what he thought he was doing, am assuming he's never done anything like this before?

Why is he discussing sexual experiences with your 16 year old DD?! He's completely out of order.

So many things are wrong with this...he's your partner so he should never have betrayed your confidence.
If he's your DD's dad, there's another layer of utter weirdness, strange boundaries and poor decision-making.
If he's not her dad: well that's a whole other level of unacceptable. For so many reasons.

What he said was itself something untoward

What the fuck is wrong with him? There's no way this is the first time he's been an absolute creep.

I mean you say there’s nothing untoward going on but the very fact he did this is untoward. That’s so completely inappropriate, I struggle to see how it could possibly be a lapse of judgement, however enormous.

I'm guessing he shared that you've had sexual contact with another female? If so, so what? He was trying to stop your older daughter laughing at your younger one. Just own it. Yes it wasn't his secret to share but by denying it you are making it into something 'wrong'.

We were discussing what dd11 said, dd16 overheard as earwigging and he said knowing she was there as walked into the room - well what about when you were 11 and xyz.

Dd16 jawdropped, I straight away made out he was lying. She knew though.

Think I might just go to bed and forget about the takeaway and film

Jesus wept.

I'd kill him.

He had no right whatsoever to repeat that story. Let alone to your DD.

That's a really bizarre lapse of judgement!

Completely inappropriate, does he often behave this way?

I feel so deceived. It was something no one knows, I wouldn’t want anyone to know. And he told my dd!

Was he drunk?

What!? That’s shocking. No, he had no right to say anything about your past sexual experiences to your DAUGHTER.

He doesn’t usually do anything like this, I think he thought it was funny.

Omg dh would be out...