Dating Thread 226: Springing into Spring

[Dancerinthemoonlight]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Thanks for the new thread, checking in!

Checking in too ❤️

checking in. Still seeing Mr Music but hitting a roadblock due to him being unwell and not able to see him. Seeing him this week after a month but has definitely made me rethink whether it's what I want.

Checking in too.

Oof @Eesha sending every possible good wish to you re Mr M. I really hope you see each other this weekend and going forward you both can navigate his MH without these long periods of not seeing each other.

Checking in,
The going with Ms Horse has been heavy, we were refused at the 1st and are currently moving at little more than a trot, not looking like we are going to make the distance, I did get a message Saying that she enjoyed Saturday and the next one was on her, so will have see what the SP is for that ( apologies for the awful horse puns).

In other news I got a P800 refund today, so small mercies and all that

Checking in, thanks for the new thread @Dancerinthemoonlight

No update here...not really been on the apps.

I'm actually enjoying having no stress about men and just doing my own thing. Every so often I have a swipe but very rarely.

I've been swiping here and there. I wonder why so many people on the apps feel it's necessary to put up pictures of themselves wearing a mask.

I mean, I'm all about protecting everyone I come into contact with but you don't have to advertise it on a dating site 😂

@ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers your last comment cracked me up! Perhaps they feel they look better with a mask on?!

Checking in too. Things still going good with Mr Beard. He’s been very kind while I’ve been ill recently. Trying not to be stressed about my non-dating related pile of financial worries.

Hey @Dancerinthemoonlight checking in. No news here

Thanks for the new thread Dancer.
@HowlongWillThisTakeNow, let’s hope that you don’t come out of this thing with Miss Horse as a riderless gelding 🐎🥜

I’d like to join your thread please. 40 something bloke here possibly dipping my toe back in after a longish relationship.

Hello

@Stepcount
Yikes, had to Google that !
I would prefer to try a few jumps 🤣🤣

@FloydPepper

Hey Floyd, how you doing mate ?

Hi all,

I’d like to join the thread. I’ve just joined a couple of apps, made lots of matches and sent nice first messages that referenced something in their profile then nothing… A couple of people have responded but already it feels very different to how it did 10 years ago when I lash did online dating!

Does it get better? Are people just a bit crap?!

[quote HowlongWillThisTakeNow]@FloydPepper

Hey Floyd, how you doing mate ?[/quote]
Very good thank you. I think I’m just going to dive on into the thread and see what happens. Apologies in advance fr any over-sharing

@Pavesi

Hi all,

I’d like to join the thread. I’ve just joined a couple of apps, made lots of matches and sent nice first messages that referenced something in their profile then nothing… A couple of people have responded but already it feels very different to how it did 10 years ago when I lash did online dating!

Does it get better? Are people just a bit crap?!

I’m finding similar. Last tried this about 8 years ago and found the matches came quite easily. Now (admittedly only a week or so in) and nothing

I have no updates either, been meh with my swiping. Have a date sex arranged with mr hippy on Wednesday but I really cba now 🤦🏼‍♀️

Oh ffs I take that back just as I posted mr sparky has popped up saying he assumes I don’t want to talk to him anymore, despite him not replying to my last message 🤦🏼‍♀️

@Pavesi

Hi all,

I’d like to join the thread. I’ve just joined a couple of apps, made lots of matches and sent nice first messages that referenced something in their profile then nothing… A couple of people have responded but already it feels very different to how it did 10 years ago when I lash did online dating!

Does it get better? Are people just a bit crap?!

Someone with more experience will be along shortly, but generally I’d say most people are just a bit crap.

@FloydPepper
When I was on the apps last year I found matches and responses hard to come by,
Personally ( and don’t tell anyone this), I don’t think OLD is a particularly good platform for most men, last time I didn’t feel the results really matched the amount of effort in terms of money, time & emotional upset , but then again if I had met Ms Right I would totally contradict myself and say it was worth every penny., so feel free to ignore my ramblings.

ihavetogoshoppingnow
Screw mr sparky ! I’m so glad it’s not just
Me who has sex dates

@ihavetogoshoppingnow

I have no updates either, been meh with my swiping. Have a date sex arranged with mr hippy on Wednesday but I really cba now 🤦🏼‍♀️

Go for it, I’ve not seen any action this year…

Checking in
I’ve paused hinge and conversations as can’t be arsed and also feel a bit bad messaging people when I’m shagging someone

Balkan Baltic didn’t get it when I ironically called him Romeo , he thought i was messaging another man 😂 or calling him by another mans name
Hahaha . Be jealous mister