First date in ooh 8 years come help me calm my nerves!

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so have a date on sunday afternoon/early evening. (was ment to be next week but he's asked for it to be brought forward) anyhow, it's only drinks in the pub, but i'm really really nervous. We 'met' online, have been talking since nov everyday (text/email/phone). he seems genuine, but now it's coming to it i'm really nervous, I mean what if he's a real edgit/thinks I am?

I know i'm early posting this but am out tomorrow night and won't be able to log on. and everything is feeling real now.

ooh exciting, what are you going to wear? Have you made sure you tell people where you are and get someone to ring you so if its going badly you can invent a crisis

jesus I hadn't even thought of that - bloody hell what am I going to wear? my aunt/uncle are going to come and be 'innocent bystanders' until i'm comfortable - won't look odd as they're only 9 years older than me so will look like a couple of mates.

(will give mum his mobile no and name etc as well incase the worst should happen - hopefully not )

i think smart jeans, boots and a nice top with accessories, but I'm sure cod or someone with better dress sense than me will be along with advice soon.

oh god I don't do accessories normally (don't even wear earrings - DS likes to pull on them)

can do jeans & boots. only bag I ahve thou is my big day one (do I take that or do I just have phone in the pocket keys on the tabel and purse on show then again I have a small bag - but really it's a going out only type of a bag. and afaik we're going casual.

so do I go for a square topped top (sort of half way to the chest) or do I go for the snug fitted v one which goes a little lower don't want to give him the wrong idea! lol.

it was sooooo much easier before marrying H/ being with H - at 17 it I didn't care - now I want to hide the bumps/strech marks

DTM wear something you feel comfy in - you won't enjoy your evening if you are constantly tugging at your top

Have fun!

My DS pulls on things like earrings as well!

Your first date as a single mum is absolutely nerve warcking so totally sympathise.

Also second the advice to wear something you feel comfortable in. Jenas and boots with a nice top.

Ando please don't worry about stretch marks etc..I can promise he won't be thinking about that.

Good luck

Oops obv I mean jeans..wee bit tipsy!

thanks girls (tbh he won't be getting close enough to be looking in thta much details about my stretch marks! lol)

for the top - right I want a comfy one (so that puts the risky one out I think as i'd be paranoid he was stearing at my bosoms! lol).

so I can go with a green one from hennes (is like a soft jersy type one) a white v neck crossed shirt thingy (looks better than i'm descibing) hmm, what others a blue flimsy type one hich is very flattering apparently (not describing things very well! lol)

That sounds like a good plan! Being comfortable is the main thing

right should now have a profile I think wiht them all listed on so give me your best opinions.

shameless bump - am thinking the green top?

I like the lighter green top with swirly things on it or the grey-ish top with the black bit.

no 4 you mean (where top 1 is at the top and 5 the bottom)

yes was that the green one you meant? How comfy/ warm is it though, could you wear a nice cardigan over the top?

that was my other question was thinkin about last night. they're (niehter of them - the green one I was on about is the bottom one) but neither is particually warm - so do I do with a long chunky cardi and then take it off in the pub, or do I go with my smart black coat but end up with cold arms/sitting with my coat on looking rude.

the white/black one is fitted to the bust then sort of drops under the boobs (but on the other hand the 'V' goes all the way down to the bra. iycwim. the green one is more casual, not as low cut, and is loose around the tum but then fitted in again around the bum/thighs.

I like number 5!
Hope it goes well for you

The pub should be warm enough that your arms don't freeze if you go with smart black coat

Number 5 - at the bottom - is lovely. Have a wonderful time

right so i'll take my coat - do I do extra make up or just my standard eye day make up? don't want him to think i've made too much effort but then again don't want him to think I'm a scruff! lol.

I don't think there's anything wrong in him thinking you have made an effort..I would go with what makes you feel good

you must have a pretty good idea what he is like by now if you have spoken to him too on th e phone

the only thing I think with waiting a while between meeting online and meeting in reality is that the image in your head may be quite different to the reality and you may have to adjust

have a nice time anyway

that's what i'm worried about - he seems genuine and a nice bloke - but the reality could be very different. is it better not to know type thing? no def not. at first I thought player but after talking some more he's more down to earth, if that makes sence. he keeps sending pics cos I was worried that the ones he had sent me looked like differnt people. (but they're all the same just over a year)

I would wear a cardigan because i'm the type of person who is always cold and I hate being cold in public places lol

Have a fab time and come back and let us know how it goes!!

DTM, is it in a pub here, do you want me to ring you in case you want out of the date?

I could come get you if need be.

I'm going to go against the flow and say number 3- the white shirt.

But honestly they all look good.

Hope it goes well

i like number 2
but tbh all very nice and wearable

think i need some new tops i buy such plain ones