First date in ooh 8 years come help me calm my nerves!

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so have a date on sunday afternoon/early evening. (was ment to be next week but he's asked for it to be brought forward) anyhow, it's only drinks in the pub, but i'm really really nervous. We 'met' online, have been talking since nov everyday (text/email/phone). he seems genuine, but now it's coming to it i'm really nervous, I mean what if he's a real edgit/thinks I am?

I know i'm early posting this but am out tomorrow night and won't be able to log on. and everything is feeling real now.

I would go with 2,4, or 5, and the long cardi. Definitely a bit of effort with the makeup, and the 'going out' bag - why not, you are going out! Which is the one that people say is most flattering?

Nothing wrong with making a little bit of effort IMO, not trying too hard, it's just fun. If he hasn't washed his hair, shaved, got clean clothes and shoes on and maybe put a bit of aftershave on you'll feel a bit miffed, non? This is just the girly equivalent.

no it's at home - but thanks for the offer shoshe - I felt in town was a bit close for H/his mates etc seeing me out with this other bloke.

cs - I only have those as I went shopping wiht my very own trinny & suze when H and I first split up - it's done wonders for my confidence to have somehting other than 'frumpy mummy' clothes.

good point T - althou I think i'll ask him not to shave - I like a bit of rough lol. most flattering I think is the deep V green one - but then again no 5 is also flattering. will go with the long cardi - and a bit of effort on the makeup - going to straighten my hair properly as well later on when DS is asleep (that tbh I was just gonna wear down)

will deffo come back on tomorrow night (assuming we don't stay in the pub) and tell you all how it went.

right then, going off line now - wish me luck he's not a total edgit and we can at least hold some sort of conversation!

Go girl

I would think of it as a rehearsal for the 'real thing'

right managed to get online now quickly - and am completely relaxed! - head's pounding after last night so isn't a good start, but will be fine after 2 tablets! lol. will prob be more nervous again this afternoon.

betty - what do you mean think of it as a rehersal?

have a lovely time

i'm guessing she is saying don't think of it as the actual event just the rehearsal

or something

i think you will be fine after the first few minutes

try not to analyze as it's going along that's what happens to me i keep thinking what is he thinking all the time

at the mo i'm struggaling to think about what i'm doing never mind what he's thinking! lol.

hopefully will only be arquard (sp) for the first few minutes.

lol at sp

it's awkward

see off to a bad start already - at least i've heard from him today thou saying he's looking forward to it.

Let us know how it went!

hey DTM how did it go???

well, it went very well (I think! lol) he's got nice soft lips woohoo! update more when DS is napping being pulled by him at the mo!

right got in the night garden so can grab 10 mins for an update! lol.

ok turned up in the pub (wore top no 5 the green one) anyhow got there and he gave me a kiss on the cheek - I was sooooooooooo nervous and that just made it worse! lol. anyhow he brought us a drink, we had a good laugh finished mine and then he was like are you off then?? (WTF??) so I was like oh er ok then - not sure if it's cos the barman asked if I wanted another drionk and I said no not yet. anyhow, so then he went to give me another kiss but I turned away, (he did the half lips half cheek) to which I was thinking shit shit bugger! lol. but then did another 2 (woohoo) lol. only quick but lovely all the same, and I left feeling rather sad I wasn't there longer (was only an hour)

anyhow he said you know where I am so ring me - and I was like yeah i'll add you to my list lol. anyhow texted him after to say thanks for the drink etc, he said "I like you 2, and I like your 2 best friends as well" (like I mean are we 12??? )- last time I wear this bra - and good job I didn't wear the really low top! lol. anyhow then he asked if I thought he was ok/better than the other bloke i've been talkin to (email only and have no intention of ever meeting) so I said yeah and we'll see about the other one - I asked the same back, (he's talking to another woman appantly, and he said 'don't klnow haven't met her yet, sure you are thou'

so think it went well? am not going to contact him now - will let him contact me. starts a new job today thou so doubt i'll hear anything until he's settled in if at all.

waht do you recon then?

sounds like it went very well indeed, well done for taking the plunge. It's been a while since I dated but i do think it is better to keep the first one short, as you did.

If you go on too long and drink too much, everything can get a bit blurred. Best, IMHO, to just meet, get a first impression, and see how you feel the next day...

One thing I would say, however, the rules of internet dating are the same as in the outside world i.e. just because he is actively looking online doesn't mean that he can have more than one thing on the boil at any one time. Or, to put it another way, if you met someone in a bar and went on a date, in the early days you wouldn't know if they were actively looking for/ talking to/ meeting other women. I think it's the same in the online context and is best not to get into comparison games. If you both like each other, you'll soon forget about the other people you are chatting to.

Above all I hope it all works out for you and, at very least, it's a huge step to have gone on the date. Like everything else, dating requires practise in order to get more confident and, having had such a good time, you can now be confident of doing it again, whether with this guy or someone else.

Good luck

quite - PM - I'm glad he didn't try to say no i'm not tlaking to anyone elses cos i'd not have beleived it anyhow - tbh it was him who asked me first if I was talking to anyone else/emailing anyone else - so I was just asking back sort of thing.

we'll just play it by ear and see how things go form here.

(also it's not that i'm not going to see the other people i've been tlaking to because of him - tbh it's because they're not really my cup of tea for RL so are ok as online mates but nothing more iycwim)

woohoo got a message YAY! can't have been all bad!

so whats been going on since?

i'm a bit unsure as to whether i like the sound of him or not, dont hit me

well this is it, loads of messages again on sunday and monday, 2 tues 2 weds 2 yest.

my BF says he's a player and to basically get rid, but I quite like him and think it's worht giving him the benifit of the doubt.

has cooled a bit thou over the last day or so but then again he's gone to see his LO as usual over the w/e. oh I don't know what to think tbh.

when I said to him why didn't you follow me out of the bar and ask me back in he said 'I don't know'??

ok turned up in the pub (wore top no 5 the green one)

i didnt see the pics but i am sure you looked great

anyhow got there and he gave me a kiss on the cheek - I was sooooooooooo nervous and that just made it worse! lol.

anyhow he brought us a drink, we had a good laugh finished mine and then he was like are you off then?? (WTF??) so I was like oh er ok then - not sure if it's cos the barman asked if I wanted another drionk and I said no not yet.

i'm not sure what to think about this, if it was a misunderstanding or if he was hinting he wasnt really that into you, but i would have said no and to get the drinks in lol

anyhow, so then he went to give me another kiss but I turned away, (he did the half lips half cheek) to which I was thinking shit shit bugger! lol. but then did another 2 (woohoo) lol. only quick but lovely all the same, and I left feeling rather sad I wasn't there longer (was only an hour)

did you have to leave after an hour? why didnt you stay?

anyhow he said you know where I am so ring me - and I was like yeah i'll add you to my list lol. anyhow texted him after to say thanks for the drink etc, he said "I like you 2, and I like your 2 best friends as well" (like I mean are we 12??? )- last time I wear this bra - and good job I didn't wear the really low top! lol.

sorry but that would really piss me off and instantly put me off him

anyhow then he asked if I thought he was ok/better than the other bloke i've been talkin to (email only and have no intention of ever meeting) so I said yeah and we'll see about the other one - I asked the same back, (he's talking to another woman appantly, and he said 'don't klnow haven't met her yet, sure you are thou'

sorry again, but ugh @ asking you questions like that, and his reply to you sounds well practised

so think it went well? am not going to contact him now - will let him contact me. starts a new job today thou so doubt i'll hear anything until he's settled in if at all.

waht do you recon then?

if you want my honest opinion he sounds a bit of a twat, but it was good for you to get out and have a date and some fun, thought i would carry on looking, and use it as a learning curve

that looks really unclear, i should have left more space between your post and my reply

lol. ooh I don't hate you. I didn't have to leave after an hour no - but I guess I was watching the clock a bit.

thought that it sounded well rehearsed as well - so do we go with a don't bother then or benefit of the doubt?

i would say you could do better and dont bother

you should have stayed longer than an hour tho, but if all he could come up with after was a comment about your tits, then i'd tell him to jog on tbh