First date in ooh 8 years come help me calm my nerves!

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so have a date on sunday afternoon/early evening. (was ment to be next week but he's asked for it to be brought forward) anyhow, it's only drinks in the pub, but i'm really really nervous. We 'met' online, have been talking since nov everyday (text/email/phone). he seems genuine, but now it's coming to it i'm really nervous, I mean what if he's a real edgit/thinks I am?

I know i'm early posting this but am out tomorrow night and won't be able to log on. and everything is feeling real now.

I felt I should have in hind sight, jsut when he said are you off then I didn't really know what to do and was like oh right erm ok then. did ask if he wanted another dirnk and he said best not as he didn't want to be hung over for his first day in work.

he's the only one who's not been up front with me other's have and have been told where to go! lol.

he doesnt sound too hopeful as a potential bf really

i think you should aim higher

my last bloke is still sniffing about but i got so fed up with him texting and calling me the other night when i was shattered, i sent him a text saying " i might be tired now but tomorrow i wont be, you however will still be a nob"

funnily enough i havent heard from him since

i have a couple of dates lined up this weekend too, the first since i told him where to go in november

I prob should really shouldn't I! lol. will let him contact me now - he knows when i'm moving in (another thing that's been annoying me tbh, since he found out i've got a house he's been all when are you moving for def etc?)

prob not painting him in a v good light as he's nice (but like most men when it suits him - either that or my moods are just plain shitty - have been on this week! lol)

so we shall see I guess. ahve loads on this w/e so won't have the time to sit and think bout him.

I love your responses to messages! lol.

lol well he deserves it

i dont know how you are painting him, but i just think the comment about your boobs i not impressive, plus the fact he didnt seem to be fussed if you stayed or not, and hasnt really been in that much contact

i'm sure you can do better, especially now you have your first dating experience under the belt, it will give you more confidence in yourself

is this not that much contact? I forget i'm sure when H& I were dating I never rang him - etc well did but not often was playing hard to get! althou it's got me paranoid android a bit. (exactly what I didn't want to happen - the whole meeting was bad enough but i'd rather he just say thanks but no thanks it's the whole playing it hot one minute then cold the next it's doing my head in quite honestly!)

you said it was once or twice a day?

i wouldnt say it was much esp if you have just met someone you are keen on

tbh i havent met many men who would come out and say they werent interested, they would rather just kind of fade away i think lol

tho i have to say i have been guilty of the same offence in the past

true - have just heard - apparently it's starting to get really busy in work (can believe that) know the job.

there is time out of work to get in touch tho

ah he's being fucked off I think - he's just said 'I like your tits' wtf - ah well plenty more fish in the sea tosser! lol. althou my friend said to me her/her DH were 1 night stand buddy's for about 6 months before it actually developed! lol.

good luck for tomorrow where are you going?

there is a way of treating someone tho, fuck buddy or not, and he is not impressing me at all, he sounds a nob quite frankly

send him his p45

i'm going to london for a drink with a rather nice french guy , who is erm lots a bit younger than me

i have a sitter

then on sunday i am meeting someone locally to me for a drink lol

ooh good luck with it - jsut sent him another one back saying next you'll be telling me your a nypho he said I am I've snet one back saying player more like - see ya around! not heard anything back. idiot man! shame he was hot!

well done you

if he texts again, say "still here?"

lol. he's sent another one saying I wanna see you again but thought you were busy moving. so it's like all my fault is it cos i'm busy moving and stressed out anyhow (nothing to do wiht him). so just sent one back saying yeah well am stressed out want to be there and sorted now talk after so we shall see. (this being from the man who text me every day over the 2 week xmas hols even when I asked him not to as I was busy with friends/family/xh etc)

so now who knows- ah bloody men! i'm gonna be a nun I swear to god it's got to be easier than trying to work out what men are thinking!

i wouldnt take the bait

he wants to see you again cos he is hoping for a shag and cop a feel of your tits

he knows damn well I'm not like that, made it perfectly clear right from the start that there will be NO (and I mean NO!) funny goings on with me until i'm happy - he's always said he's not bothered and will wait. (i'm reading that as until it's something more than it is now he'll shag about and get his jolly's that way)

ah I know - right the man gets one more date - but he has to ask. any more boob talks and i'm deffo gone. benefit of the doubt once, but not twice.

what do you reckon - soft touch! lol.

well its up to you, but if all he kept going on about was my boobs (highly unlikely given the size of them)

i'd be telling him to jog on

I have to agree with Lou i'm afraid. I don't like him from what you have said, and think you could do alot better.

The 'I like your 2 best friends' comment would have instantly put me off, but that is possibly because it is the exact type of thing Xp would of said.

you have a good point nutty - my ex used to make similar comments (either that or just grab them and go fffwwwoooorrrrrr) hardly romantic.

thing is thou he didn't know the size of them until after i met him (obv didn't do pics like that) so all of this has been in the last week. oh I don't know. bloody men, and H is being a tosser as well! idiot! lol. but that's for another thread.

doesnt matter when he found out, the comment is crass

i dunno about you, but i like someone who is a bit more intelligent than this guy sounds

maybe it's cos I'm used to hearing stuff like that all the time - he's in the military after all, so have been around that sort of mentality for the last 8 years!