First date in ooh 8 years come help me calm my nerves!

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so have a date on sunday afternoon/early evening. (was ment to be next week but he's asked for it to be brought forward) anyhow, it's only drinks in the pub, but i'm really really nervous. We 'met' online, have been talking since nov everyday (text/email/phone). he seems genuine, but now it's coming to it i'm really nervous, I mean what if he's a real edgit/thinks I am?

I know i'm early posting this but am out tomorrow night and won't be able to log on. and everything is feeling real now.

actually you domake it sound a bit like interviewing for a job

lol. what do you mean forward planning? i'm moving next week - and OMG i'm soooooooo stressed about it - no wonder the poor bloke has been vauge since I found out I was deffo moving on weds! lol. was fine till then but i'm so pre occupied/stressed/unsure etc etc. and PMT. he's been sending me a message and getting a shitty one back! lol.

with me it was i was keen to go out so i was looking forward to the date for that reason..so wouldn't have been planning to leave after an hour unless he was a weirdo

ie wasn't really thinking so much about what would happen guy wise..i think

how so?

does he live near you then

i think lou means that you have thought ahead to a time when you would be an item

lol - not an item as such - just a next meeting. I still don't know what I want from him/this/any person I meet be it online or off. when I get home we'll be about 4 miles apart if that - he's 1 side of town i'm the other.

interesting how everyone does things so differently lol

yes i meant wrt the thinking ahead about being a couple

right i am off to get my train fro my date

i will check in tomorrow

well best mate is coming over later on so no doubt she'll set me right! lol she's not one to mix her words, or beat about the bush.

good luck on your date lou - I expect a full report tomorrow!

just wish I knew where I stood with him can't be doing with the blowing hot/cold, but then I guess he could say the same about me really.

you dont stand anywhere with him as of yet as you only met him for an hour

plus he acted like a nob

oh last night was really good fun, but my exbf started calling me at silly o clock trying to find out who i was with

no I know - why do they blow hot/cold thou? damn men. lol.

glad your date went well. shame bout the ex thou.

I got chatting to 2 lovely people from that dating for parents site so plenty more fish in the sea!

exbf didnt bother me, i just ignored it, i had 2 missed calls 1 voicemail and 2 texts

this morning he has been trying to find out what went on but i wont tell him anything

think he has given up trying now

lol. had a message saying hiya.

(bit keen then!) or nosey!

who exbf?

jealous probably , but he had his chance, so tough shit really

yeah! lol, wouldn't think about a 2nd chance for him?

Can I ask a quick question whilst you are both here.

On POF if someone sends you a message but looking at their profiel you see that you have nothing in common and are not reallykeen on the look of them either, do you still reply out of politness or not ??

I am thinking there is no point in even replying, but perhaps that is rude.

not always no tbh, but i'm prob a bit mean - not keen on POF thou.

how are you getting on with it all nutty?

Well I have set up a profile on there so many times, but I only ever seem to last a few days before I get irritated by the responses I get.

I am not overly keen on POF tbh, but it is free so only option at the mo really.

Have seen one bloke I like so far, but i'm too scared to message him because he actually lives quite close by LOL.

Did you mean all as in the dating stuff or life in general ??

I am ok, well no thats a lie, but I am getting there painfully slowly. Just getting annoyed by myself really now LOL.

have you looked at datingforparents.com? that's free if you choose and tbh I have only ever paid on there if someone (well if I normally have more than 2 emails in) it's 5.99 for the week. I know that's expensive but was online last night and got chatting to several different ones so will tick along with those and maybe try some others later on.

don't be scared i'm only looking at people within a 10 mile radius tbh, at least you both know the area/have something in common to start with.

also are you on facebook? - I know it's the old one but there's a programme on there called are you interested, have just started talking to someone on there as well who added me on him MSN (got worried at first but is actually ok) that's free as well.

jsut in general really. hopefully things will start to pick up for you soon.

Thanks

I am on facebook yeah, not sure if i have added the are you interested thingy though, will look.

Will go have a look at dating for parents too

Agree with lou that this man sounds a bit of a tosser. I would hate all the comments on my breasts on a first date, and the comment about your friends would have wound me right up too.
I would definitely move on & put him down to experience!

Lou - good to hear about your date, but not good that your ex was annoying you.

(when he said best mates he meant boobs btw went alone to meet him in the end).

is trying to feed me some bait but so far not taking it.

Hmmm, would have still wound me up, I think. I wouldn't have liked comments like that from anyone I dated. The fact he was perving at my friend's breasts would have wound me right up!