First date in ooh 8 years come help me calm my nerves!

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so have a date on sunday afternoon/early evening. (was ment to be next week but he's asked for it to be brought forward) anyhow, it's only drinks in the pub, but i'm really really nervous. We 'met' online, have been talking since nov everyday (text/email/phone). he seems genuine, but now it's coming to it i'm really nervous, I mean what if he's a real edgit/thinks I am?

I know i'm early posting this but am out tomorrow night and won't be able to log on. and everything is feeling real now.

lol. no confused here he was on about your two best friends as in he liked me and my boobs not my friends boobs iycwim.

has to be said thou, that it did put me back about 10 steps to start with as I used to wear the lower tops pre ds but got pissed off with people looking at 'me' not at me so always wore frumy mummy stuff. but now wearing lower stuff again althou he wasn't looking at them but talking to me he obv did look on the sly.

Oh right, I'm with you! He was just perving at your boobs then, not your friends! That isn't as bad, but still wouldn't be too sure about him. Think I'm a bit of a prude like that though as I would just think he wanted his leg over!

yeah just on mine - which tbh I expect most do don't they? just he was forward in saying about it! lol.

H used to say I was a prude (or prudeish) but I was like ahem no i'm a mummy now and mummys don't act as such, however now I'm also thinking why the hell not i'm a woman as well! lol. (within reason!)

nutty i never used to reply

dtm my exbf had his second chance, and chose to waste it

pc thanks, i had a good time but i am not sure if i will see him again, i'm busy for the next couple of weekends anyway, but he was very nice

lol i thought you meant best friends too..wondered whewre everyone got the boobs from

glad it went well lou

have decided not to contact him until i've moved - am far to stressed out to think about it.

on the plus side thou(or manybe not! lol) am talking to another man from facebook, who is the exact opposite, and has said he wants to meet for a drink, so I have 1 very romantic lovely man (who is the only one not to have come out with 'cor love yer tits luv'), and one who's a bit rough/ready.

i must have a gutter mind, i assume best friends meant her tits

i'm glad it went well too, but i have not made any plans to see him again

ok am seeing guy 1 on monday again (is coming to mine for food), and was meant to be seeing guy 2 on sat night, but think no 2 will have to wait until the following week, as with moving etc there's a lot of expense, so will be more relaxed etc the following week. what do you think - at the mo guy 2 seems too good to be true, we've had no sexy comments of any sort which is a refreshing change.

are you ok with being alone with guy 1?

yeah but now he's not sure - might have to work

so you like him a lot then...i thought you didn't like him the first time

yeah he's cool - wasn't sure what he was after to start with. meant to be talkin to him in a bit thou so we shall see.

dont you think he will be assuming he's going to be getting a good seeing to, if you are alone with him at yours?

he can assume - but then again I can kick him out the door! now swaying back towards no 2 thou! lol. will play it cool with both.

i just would think twice about putting this situation in place

i only allow myself to be left alone with someone if i know i am going to be shagging them (or hoping to lol)

i think you are putting yourself in a vulnerable position with this guy if you have only met him very briefly and he was a bit off then

he will surely read it as he was ok

and you have asked him to your home which really probably does mean you are intending to sleep with him..at least that will be his interpretation if it isn't yours i would stick to a public place why not go out for a meal or a longer evening for a drink .....you can't get away from him there can you

. ok point taken - sex is def not on the menu.

that is if he is in your house then you have no escape route

playing it cool would be to go out somewhere and then go home alone

will re think it

of course there is nothing wrong with shagging this guy but if it isn't what you are anticipating or want then best rethink your plan yes...if a guy invited me into premises with a bed either a hotel or his house for a meal i would assume he was going to make full use of all the facilities

unless i knew him well enough to know otherwise

Unwritten dating rule #561 (man speak) "If she invites you to eat alone with her in her house, it basically means you're gonna get laid"

lol. ok will go out.

go out

then if you like him and want to shag him you can, afterwards

fwiw, i think in over 2 yrs of being single, only 2 possibly 3 men have been to my house , of those i have dated, and 2 of them were boyfs

both the guys i have dated have been to my house

yes but you are shameless lol