Tick tock: the one where Geller discovers Polly is no longer a doormat

[StuckInPollyannaMode]

AKA Co-parenting: I do not think it means what you think it means

Here we go again my lovelies! Will this be the one where I finally get divorced?!

Previous thread here

I have clock news! Turns out, no one wants it. Quelle surprise. Could I sell it? No, sez I, it’s worth ha’penny tuppence on a good day. Plus, no time.

Ha ha.

I suggested, because I am a kind hearted soul and because it’s already in a box and I don’t know which one that they keep the clock face and I get rid of the mechanism and the case. That appears to be a reasonable compromise. Pass me an axe.

The reason for the clock conversation? My brother phoned. My mother has given away my grandfather’s WW1 medals to a museum. WTF?! We’re going to try and get them back. She can’t see what she’s done wrong.

Solicitors on the other side for the house purchase are useless. Estate agent spoke to them today. They are awaiting proof of ID and funds on account?! WTF. I lost my shit a bit. I’d just come back from having a filling so I sounded three gins down, which I’m sure added to the effect.

Oh, and I haven’t stopped laughing for the last hour. A friend has found Geller’s profile on a dating app. It contains such gems as ‘addressing climate change one word at a time in my career as a professional’ and goes on to claim he ‘always has time’

Given me the best laugh I’ve had since my solicitor said she’d call me just to be sure that I wanted to file for absolute once the finance order is made…

Anyway, buckle up loves. It’ll be a ride, as ever…glad you could join me.

entirely boring and nondescript mass produced motor of no imagination.

Love this description!

Aww shame never had donkeys escaping when I was rural...just the usual cows trampling the garden and roaming sheep. Although my dad did help rescue the milk tanker from a massive snow drift one year but only on the proviso that he came to our farm and emptied the milk tanks! Although I did find a mole in the garage once.......

... and he still can't drive.

Definitely drop into the conversation that other men don't have problems parking at yours, abd they have bigger, more powerful cars

If (big if) I won the lottery, I'd have donkeys - and when I do🤞, one will be called "Geller"...it will be the puniest one with the stupid grin and no balls.
🦄🤣

Just when you think he can't get any worse 🙄
The gift that just keeps on giving. 🤔🤬

Country life is really great for the most part, the quiet, the wildlife, and the 'sights to be seen'.Our alarm clock tended to be 'Lucille', the mule in a pasture nearby.
It was great when we were working, but when we first retired, not so much.
But we've learnt to 'sleep through' her early morning calls for fodder and companionship.

It's a pain as far as having to drive your DC everywhere.No 'run across the street and see if X wants to play'. No, it all has to be preplanned and transportation figured out.

Now that DH and I are older and the DC grown we're hoping to downsize in the next few years when the market here stabilizes. The property is getting to be too much for DH and the house too big for me.

I'm glad to hear about you and Westley. What's meant to be is meant to be and time will tell.. Just keep a little bit of your heart set off to the side as self-preservation.

I just knew that Polly the Princess and the lovely Westley would sort it out! 🥰🥰🥰

Just keep a little bit of your heart set off to the side as self-preservation.

This is very good advice, Polly.

I love ❤️ donkeys and would have been so tempted to say Yes to those donkeys - one each for the dollies 😀

Love the donkeys! I lived on a farm for a year when I was 10 and we had escaping critters all the time, on one memorable occasion a Hereford bull who was in a really bad mood (he was normally the most placid of men). Spent an hour sitting on top of an outbuilding on that occasion until he decided to wonder off back to his ladies.

Re Westley - you're both adults, you both know what you're letting yourself in for and if it's meant to be it will work out.

We gave the neighbor's donkeys wandering in here sometimes. You get a shock when you go out onto the terrace in half light & come face to fave with a donkey !!!

I love hearing them bray early in the morning ! Sort of bucolic !

have !

My fellow donkey-loving people - Just putting this here…

Awwwwww!

How are the school holidays going with the Dollies?

Hope all is ok @StuckInPollyannaMode I'm missing your update x

Same here! I hope you and Dollies are having a lovely summer, and that Geller is having some driving lessons !

Good grief… she’s probably away with the dollies having a fabulous time. Or even better, with the lovely Wesley.

Hello, friends in my phone. I’m here, life has just been pretty overwhelming.

Dollies are on great form, thank you for asking, they’re having a super summer. Touch too much tech but meh.

I, on the other hand, am not. I took Westley to the airport earlier this week. It was simply awful, but I managed not to cry in front of him. We’ve had a simply brilliant few weeks together. He’s wanted to see me lots, has turned up unexpectedly to take me out for lunch, lots of communication. Lots of laughter.

However…it’s over. I ended it. He can’t articulate how he feels, and that’s not good enough. I want to be wanted, to be loved with the passion we had in the beginning, before he found out about this job and began to withdraw. I want him to be proud to be with me. He’s never taken so much as a single photo of me, or us together, yet has loads of his ex and with other friends.

i can’t deal with the uncertainty of ‘I don’t know how I feel’ in a long distance relationship. If he wakes up in one or two months and realised what he’s thrown away and is ready to commit, he’s got a fuckton of talking and proving himself to do.

I deserve more. I’m not compromising.

I’m keeping going and juggling a million balls in the air but I need to put myself back at the top of the agenda.

I am tired and sad and fat and my mother is being a passive aggressive pain in the arse

however, I do now have a car of my own again!

Hurrah for the car.

It's sad about Westley but it truly is his loss

Keep grey rocking the mother.

Glad the Dollies are enjoying summer.

Onwards and upwards

I am sorry, Polly but good on you for not compromising, even if it feels shitty right now.

Alas, I don’t think your mother is going to change!

A bit of tech won't hurt the Dollies, summer hols seem to go in a flash.

And you are not, I'm sure, tired and sad and fat!! 😁

"I deserve more. I’m not compromising"

Let this be your mantra in all things. Your entire life with Geller was full of you 'compromising'. Compromising your dreams, compromising what you felt was right, compromising yourself by keeping quiet and just giving in to keep the peace. No more!

As sad as you feel right now, your refusing to compromise in your relationship with Westley is proof of just how far you've come and how strong you now are.

I’m so sorry @StuckInPollyannaMode at least you know that you DO deserve the kind of love you want and need. I don’t think you should compromise either. My theory is that if you feel anxious, start second-guessing yourself or feel like there should be more, then it’s not right. It could be that the person isn’t right or the timing, but for now, focus on the fact that you have so much more insight and resilience.

💐❤️Polly !

Sorry to hear that Polly, but well done for being level headed with all those emotions involved and doing the right thing for you. Glad the dollies have been having a good time and hurrah for new car!

Nice one Polly, dragging yourself and your DDs through that emotional turmoil is not what you need at this point in your life. He was there for a season, not for a reason - that relationship served its purpose and now time to move on.

Being by yourself for a while will do you good, you've hardly had any time without a man in your life and if that thought feels daunting then it's time to do some more work on yourself. On the other hand, if it feels like a gift then you're already there!

"I deserve more. I’m not compromising."

Good for you for recognising this. I'm sorry you are sad Polly, but I think you made the right call in those circumstances - long distance relationships are hard enough when both parties are committed, if one of the parties are claiming they don't know how they feel, then what is the point.

I'm glad you have your own car again and Good on you for finding the "silver lining" in this situation.

Do you have any holidays/excursions planned with the dollies in your new car?