Tick tock: the one where Geller discovers Polly is no longer a doormat

[StuckInPollyannaMode]

AKA Co-parenting: I do not think it means what you think it means

Here we go again my lovelies! Will this be the one where I finally get divorced?!

Previous thread here

I have clock news! Turns out, no one wants it. Quelle surprise. Could I sell it? No, sez I, it’s worth ha’penny tuppence on a good day. Plus, no time.

Ha ha.

I suggested, because I am a kind hearted soul and because it’s already in a box and I don’t know which one that they keep the clock face and I get rid of the mechanism and the case. That appears to be a reasonable compromise. Pass me an axe.

The reason for the clock conversation? My brother phoned. My mother has given away my grandfather’s WW1 medals to a museum. WTF?! We’re going to try and get them back. She can’t see what she’s done wrong.

Solicitors on the other side for the house purchase are useless. Estate agent spoke to them today. They are awaiting proof of ID and funds on account?! WTF. I lost my shit a bit. I’d just come back from having a filling so I sounded three gins down, which I’m sure added to the effect.

Oh, and I haven’t stopped laughing for the last hour. A friend has found Geller’s profile on a dating app. It contains such gems as ‘addressing climate change one word at a time in my career as a professional’ and goes on to claim he ‘always has time’

Given me the best laugh I’ve had since my solicitor said she’d call me just to be sure that I wanted to file for absolute once the finance order is made…

Anyway, buckle up loves. It’ll be a ride, as ever…glad you could join me.

I think you've done the right thing and @mathanxiety nails it - you have grown so much that you no longer feel automatically that you have to compromise. Take some time to grieve, maybe focus on enjoying single life for a while so you really set the bar high for relationships, then dive back in!

There some areas where you can compromise, and others where you definitely shouldn’t - a partner who knows and can express how they feel about you after this length of time absolutely falls into the latter camp. Well done Polly, you’ve come such a long way from your first post!

Quite right, Polly. A long distance relationship needs to be rock solid to be worth the aggro. Better to end it cleanly now than have months of angst and the expense of travel, only for it to unravel anyway.

I'm sorry your sad Polly and it didn't work out - but I'm so proud of you! What an awesome, strong human you are!
You deserve so much more than that! 💪

I have survived the school shoe shop. Need a lie down and a stiff gin 🤣 I’m driving to the airport next week in the car, if that counts as an adventure?! Off to Scandinavia to see a very dear friend for a week with the Dollies.

i feel absolutely fine about being on my
own. I read a great quote on Instagram about how you’re never single anyway, you’re always in a relationship with yourself, and that, as the youth say, really hit me.

i have zero desire to date again right now. I have the Dollies, the house, stuff to do, work crazy, and I need to be kind to myself. Whatever I did now would just be a rebound and not fair on anyone else. I don’t even want a casual shag!

going to focus on myself, sort my shit out, have fun with my friends, and enjoy life!

How far you have come since you first managed to tremble out to Gellar "I want a divorce" and he told you "not happening".

That sounds great, @StuckInPollyannaMode And life as a single woman is actually a lot of fun.

Polly, I'm very envious of your trip to Scandinavia, it's a lovely part of the world. I backpacked round Norway, Sweden and Finland in my yoof and it was wonderful. I'm sure you and the dollies will have a blast.

BTW a rampant rabbit is a lot less hassle than a man, and often does the job in half the time. Just saying! 😉

Have a wonderful time with the Dollies, @StuckInPollyannaMode - sounds like a great trip!

You have this nailed.

@AcrossthePond55 speaks wise words.
Put yourself, and the dollies of course, first.
Enjoy your trip, sounds fab!

You sound like a different person these days.
The courage you used to leave Geller and to love again seems to have had huge effect.

Have a great holiday... I am sure you will

How were your hols Polly?
I hope you a recharged & G didn't send endless whining msgs

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@StuckInPollyannaMode Polly I think about you and the dollies often. I hope you're ok x

Thank you, you lovely people.

I’m ok. Not great to be honest. It’s a bit of a struggle at the moment juggling everything and I’m not doing well with Westley being away. The house has been rewired which is utter chaos, holiday was amazing but not exactly relaxing, I don’t have any time to work because of summer holidays and my parents are here for a few days because, you know, I needed that like a hole in the head.

The Dollies are awesome. Cheeky, happy, growing like weeds, eating everything in sight, making me proud.

I desperately need some time to myself and to stop hiding in the kitchen eating biscuits 🤣 that’s not helping me. I’m having a bit of a health kick in September and laying off the booze for a month. I need it.

Geller continues to be both hilarious and pathetic in equal measures. On Sunday I dropped the Dollies at his for a night and told DD1 about her diagnosis. Seemed to go ok.

Then Geller announced that he’s going on a romantic mini break in March so can I confirm dates for the kids. Sure, says I, thinking Paris, Rome, Venice…

He’s going for 4 days

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Oh! And the best thing? He got a Red Letter Day voucher from work that he’s going to use to pay for the hotel. After all, it doesn’t need to be anything fancy, it’s just a base…

Geller is ever the romantic 😂😂😂

Life is always hard over the summer holidays when you have young children, not long until they are back in school and your folks will be gone and you'll be able to focus a bit more on you.

Polly please remind yourself how far you've come and everything you have achieved and dealt with. Also everything the Dollies have achieved and coped with! For all of you it's a massive amount!

Both emotionally and physically you must be exhausted, it's been a bit of a whirl since you started this journey. Be kind to yourself, please. Things will get easier.

The oozing romance from Geller, he is every romance novelist's dream 🙄 though I can't help picturing him as Mr Bean.

Take care

Nothing more romantic than Manchester in March. Likely to be freezing, possible snow.

The dollies will be back at school soon and you'll get some routine back. That will help you no end.

The oozing romance from Geller, he is every romance novelist's dream 🙄 though I can't help picturing him as Mr Bean.

A veritable Mills & Bean romance. <runs away>

Just think that once the house is rewired, it'll probably never have to happen again while you're living there. Of course it's a huge and dirty and awkward job but once it's done, it's done!

As for Manchester....it'll be known as the Paris of the North from now on😆

Can I recommend taking 15 minutes for yourself each evening where you take to your room and do a really short meditation/mindfulness session? There are oodles of apps that you could use (you probably already have your favourite) but get back into the habit of using it. It'll pay dividends for you in no time.

Have to agree with @LadyDanburysHat (p.s. I love that user name) about when the girls go back to school. You'll get some time in the day time to catch your breath and start living again. The summer holidays always throw things out of kilter for a bit.

Understand the No time to breathe and I don’t even have visiting parents. How is your mum behaving, @StuckInPollyannaMode? I honestly think that if ever there was a time for wine and/or gin, it’s when she’s visiting.
Geller must be reasonably confident that his relationship with the next Future Mrs Geller (poor sap) is going to work out if he’s booking that far ahead. He wouldn’t want to risk wasting a voucher, surely?

What? I just spat out my tea, Paris of the North. Making arrangements for March7 months ahead. 🤣🤣🤣
You never told us he was such an Apollo

Sorry however that that the weight of summer holidays is exhausting.
Honestly, you should have put off the parent's visit, what with the building chaos & her hiding your booze.
Just a too heavy load, how did they get there? Did they drive?

Absolutely take time to yourself even if a few minutes locked in the bathroom?

Banging on again, but did you do the Freedom Programme. It’s amusing to read about Geller’s latest atrocities but it’s not helping you get him out your head. I know personally how hard it is but complete disengagement is what is best. No interaction other than information re the Dollies , and let others know you don’t want to hear about him. It’s only when you have clear headspace you can really move forward. I get he’s their Dad so around but that’s all he needs to be.

When you get to a new thread why not leave his name out and make it all about you. KOKO.

Geller will just love dropping in the smug snippets of his new Lurve..
Whether Polly is interested or not

I live in Manchester and am usually quite protective of it's image but unless its a suite at the Midland he has booked, I have to agree!

Hang in there Polly, soon the routine of school will be back, its been my first summer holidays this year and I can't believe we are expected to do this for the next 10 years :/