Tick tock: the one where Geller discovers Polly is no longer a doormat

[StuckInPollyannaMode]

AKA Co-parenting: I do not think it means what you think it means

Here we go again my lovelies! Will this be the one where I finally get divorced?!

Previous thread here

I have clock news! Turns out, no one wants it. Quelle surprise. Could I sell it? No, sez I, it’s worth ha’penny tuppence on a good day. Plus, no time.

Ha ha.

I suggested, because I am a kind hearted soul and because it’s already in a box and I don’t know which one that they keep the clock face and I get rid of the mechanism and the case. That appears to be a reasonable compromise. Pass me an axe.

The reason for the clock conversation? My brother phoned. My mother has given away my grandfather’s WW1 medals to a museum. WTF?! We’re going to try and get them back. She can’t see what she’s done wrong.

Solicitors on the other side for the house purchase are useless. Estate agent spoke to them today. They are awaiting proof of ID and funds on account?! WTF. I lost my shit a bit. I’d just come back from having a filling so I sounded three gins down, which I’m sure added to the effect.

Oh, and I haven’t stopped laughing for the last hour. A friend has found Geller’s profile on a dating app. It contains such gems as ‘addressing climate change one word at a time in my career as a professional’ and goes on to claim he ‘always has time’

Given me the best laugh I’ve had since my solicitor said she’d call me just to be sure that I wanted to file for absolute once the finance order is made…

Anyway, buckle up loves. It’ll be a ride, as ever…glad you could join me.

God that woman, I be tempted to send it back, saying something like , "Stop wasting your breath"
But once again, you will think of the Dollies, I forbid you to ever tell her anything of importance ever again..
Westley... Oh God, Love hurts, but maybe in 2 years your planets will once again come into alignement...
Meanwhile, breath ..

Actually, I'd be very tempted to pop the card back in the envelope with a little post-it note applied saying something like "I think you sent this to someone who cares what you think...I believe your favourite group is now the O'Jays"

This is now your theme song where this witch is concerned:

With regards Geller, don’t send anything without your solicitors say so. And then demand the same thing from him.
I’d seriously go for his pension now as well. He’s been messing around for long enough that I’d be making him want to sign the financials to stop me from going for more as time passes. No doubt your outgoings will have rocketed what with the insane cost of living increases and bloody lucky you got your house before the insanity hit.

with regards frenemy ignore her completely and steer dollies to other friendships.

i also am a hundred percent behind you in dating yourself. I did that when I got divorced. Rediscovered the me I’d lost by prioritising everyone else in my life for the duration of my marriage. Think you may find (as did I) yourself to be pretty damn fabulous and rediscover things you enjoyed and were great at but have forgotten.

You are a better women than me @StuckInPollyannaMode, because after what your Fremeny did last year, I would have given it to her with both barrels 👿

Personally, I would stir the dollies to other friendships and would ghost her. She doesn’t deserve you or the dollies!

Sorry that it didn’t work out with Westly and glad that you are remaining friends.

Geller is a piece of work. He bought a house with the proceeds of your house sale, whilst you had to rent. And now he’s querying how you bought it.

@StuckInPollyannaMode you need to find your anger here. He continues to mess around, tries to hide money and is trying to screw you over (and HIS children).

I think it’s time to go to court and get a forensic accountant.

steer the dollies!

Grrr he doesn't give up being an arse, does he!

Time for your solicitor - he's messed around long enough. Your SHL will advise but I suspect it's time to issue court proceedings because he's never going to agree a suitable settlement without being told to.

Does he have to compensate for house rental costs, if not, why not?
He went directly into his own home, while dicking you about do you couldn't fo the same.

I think back to the nervous, insecure woman you were when you first posted and now - despite the setbacks along the way - you seem mature, self-confident and wise. You need to at least give Geller the idea that you’re going for the jugular. That might force a quick agreement from him. Bitchface Frenemy can GTF. If anything, a text saying “Got your card. TX.” shows that you have class AND states a clear boundary at the same time. What else have you uncorked? Betrayal from friends hurts more than betrayal by men in some ways. We expect more of each other than we ever do of them.

Do you have a court date set @StuckInPollyannaMode ?

I seem to remember that you’re trying not to go down that route, but it’s my biggest regret that I didn’t push for one.

It would have saved 2 years of very expensive wrangling, and would have set a date for EVERYONE to have got their sh!t together . Prevents the ‘fannying around’ and stupid requests for proof of how you afforded your house.

Talk to your SHL and see what they say. Might be worth applying for one.

You are getting good advice above.

Playing nice has only fanned the bully in that little prick.

I really think that you need your lawyer to look at his pension and play hardball.

We are in for a prolonged period of money being tighter and costs going up.

I think next winter will tell a lot.
Ask your lawyer in light of cost of living inflation to look at his pension.

I appreciate some people have inexpensive teens, but they can be very expensive, surprisingly so.

I agree, he us goingvti dick you about to eternity because he wants to keep as much money as he possibly can.
He knows he has the upper hand, (financial) & is enjoying playing it

I agree with posters upthread. Go for pension and factor in the huge increase in living costs to get as much as possible from the odious little toad, and then go to court. You're letting him play you like a yo-yo, it's time to book a court date, and stick to it.

I always said you'd end up in court. He is unkind, miserly and controlling. Oh and utterly selfish he is incapable of putting the Dollies first.

What ⬆️⬆️⬆️ Everyone said. He is still an abusive fuck knuckle and it’s time your legal gloves come off. He will dangle the girls to manipulate you, attempt to gain sympathy from others all the while he will send you epistles full of blame and avoiding both financial responsibility and genuine care for their feelings. They are not genuine, separate little humans for him, but like you were, they are accessories to reflect his life status and self-image. He is a dangerous person. Stop trying to “do the best” by not antagonizing him. Bite back.

Speaking to SHL on Monday. You’re all right.

in other news, Westley and I had a super night out last night at the Van Gogh exhibition- highly recommend if any of you are near Bristol!

The pressure not being on to make a decision was lovely. Meant we could just relax and enjoy being with each other. I got home at 1am! Date not a date was totally a date…like a first date but in reverse 😂 we had a brilliant time. Went for dinner after, shared the chateaubriand, shared pudding, didn’t stop talking, held hands several times, very nice kiss goodbye, lots of hugs…He’s lovely.

Not seeing him again for a while, agreed we’ve got to disentangle ourselves and we’ve both got loads on. He’s coming for supper one evening before he goes to say goodbye to the Dollies and to give me various bits he’s got he’s not taking that will be useful. I’m taking him to the airport…seeing as how he’s selling me his car at mates rated it’s the least I can do 😂

it was a brilliant evening. And it was like a celebration of all the reasons why we have such a great time together.

it drew a very nice line under it.

Onwards!

How lovely that you and Westley can part ways in such a mature, warm and caring manner. You've now got a great benchmark for future relationships once you're ready, and that can only be a good thing.

Good that you're meeting the SHL and absolutely go for his pension. No more nice Polly.

Just seeing your update Polly and the first thing that jumped into my mind was "I hope Westley doesn't give Polly a clock!!!!"

I'm so sorry for laughing but it genuinely was the first thing that jumped into my mind when I read that he was going to be giving you various bits that he's not taking that will be useful...😆

So glad you had a wonderful date/not date. This really is the way to secure a wonderful friendship from an intimate relationship. So glad you enjoyed the Van Gogh exhibition- I'm looking at my own print now of "Irises in the garden".

Great you'll have a good car again (with no strings like before) - and mates rates is even better. Another step to your independence.

Onwards and upwards with the SHL on Monday. You've been very reasonable and mature with Geller so far and he's mucked you about. Now to be a scalpel. 🌹

That’s lovely, Polly .

Ahahahaha NOPE!!! He did give me an extremely nice Archon watch for Christmas though!

That sounds like a lovely date non date. How nice for you to be just able to enjoy each others company.

Get SHL to go for his jugular and suggest that he also brings a microscope and tweezers so that he can also go for Geller’s balls.

Incoming: Geller wanting to know where you got the money for a nice car

If Geller thinks that you are hiding money from him... that might because he is hiding money from you. Being guilty makes you suspect everyone around you. It probably would be better to go through a court after all.

I think @prettybird and @LiesDoNotBecomeUs have this spot on.

How many ex-wives does he now have? Do you think he's been remotely honest with all/any of them? How much has he hidden from them?

Take him for every penny, think of it as a Geller Windfall Tax - he was lucky to marry you and have the Dollies.
He has chosen to believe the bullshit spouted from your frenemy rather than the truth from you.
Time for him to pay up and fuck off and for the Dollies to get security and new, nicer friends.