Tick tock: the one where Geller discovers Polly is no longer a doormat

[StuckInPollyannaMode]

AKA Co-parenting: I do not think it means what you think it means

Here we go again my lovelies! Will this be the one where I finally get divorced?!

Previous thread here

I have clock news! Turns out, no one wants it. Quelle surprise. Could I sell it? No, sez I, it’s worth ha’penny tuppence on a good day. Plus, no time.

Ha ha.

I suggested, because I am a kind hearted soul and because it’s already in a box and I don’t know which one that they keep the clock face and I get rid of the mechanism and the case. That appears to be a reasonable compromise. Pass me an axe.

The reason for the clock conversation? My brother phoned. My mother has given away my grandfather’s WW1 medals to a museum. WTF?! We’re going to try and get them back. She can’t see what she’s done wrong.

Solicitors on the other side for the house purchase are useless. Estate agent spoke to them today. They are awaiting proof of ID and funds on account?! WTF. I lost my shit a bit. I’d just come back from having a filling so I sounded three gins down, which I’m sure added to the effect.

Oh, and I haven’t stopped laughing for the last hour. A friend has found Geller’s profile on a dating app. It contains such gems as ‘addressing climate change one word at a time in my career as a professional’ and goes on to claim he ‘always has time’

Given me the best laugh I’ve had since my solicitor said she’d call me just to be sure that I wanted to file for absolute once the finance order is made…

Anyway, buckle up loves. It’ll be a ride, as ever…glad you could join me.

The girls can socialize with their friends in Geller’s time. (He might have to blow some cobwebs out of his wallet…)

I would probably ask her if its OK by her if you go mouthing off to her boss/important person,any of her health problems?
Not to mention erroneous half truths about her private affairs ?
Maybe its time to learn to close her big ugly mouth & stop Gossiping, to mind her own boring business.
She is now one good friend down, she is untrustworthy low life. you have no idea how she justifies such treachery & meddling, but ultimately she must be a sorry sad envious vindictive loser.
& probably I would say this within her H's ear shot.
Tell her that should she wish for the DC to play together she will have to organise it with her good friend G.
Who incidentally has reported back to you her poisoned gossip.

Or, probably you will just go LC !

Good points that she and Geller can facilitate the girls friendship.

She clearly doesn't value the girls relationship via you.

I also would be blackening her name to friends.

Awful snake.

Plus point at least now you know who your friends are and why Geller is behaving so unreasonably.

I would advise setting neighbours straight though. Are they your current neighbours? I’d tell them no that’s not true (don’t need to go into details). It makes for a more pleasant life if your neighbours don’t mind you. I try not to get overly friendly with our neighbours but prefer a cordial relationship.

Also I would now be resetting your DD’s friendships and encouraging friendships with children of people you can trust.
I suspect leaky former friend (LFF) may have worked during the holiday as she probably knows she’s no friend and was trying to avoid you.
I will never understand women who kick other women when they’re down. There was one in my life too. I later came across her a few years post divorce and she went to hug me gushing and all smiles, I stepped back looked her in the eye and continued on my way (the look of shock and fear on her face amuses me still, I have a phenomenal resting bitch face 😆😆😆 ).

Keep going Polly, this too shall pass. Positives, you've set Geller straight and maybe now he’ll stop dicking about. You know beyond a shadow of doubt that LFF is a snake and treat her accordingly.
Onwards and upwards!
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God that just reminded me, I had a "good" friend, she was having bf problems. (so was I,) we had a mutual support group ! I ended up leaving the UK, after a long slow deterioration of agony with my bf of nearly 10 years cheater He stayed in our flat.
I left initially for 4 months & lent her my car, so it wasn't just left on the street & she would make good use of it. She was a good friend I thought !
While I was away, she & my not entirely X bf had had an affair... I found her love letters in the flat.
When I got it my car back there was no MOT!
I never told either of them I knew.
So if you are reading this Annie. I am delighted that he ended up happily with someone other than you.

Oh goodness gracious Mix, that’s awful! I’m so sorry.

I come bearing breaking news. Westley and I are no more. We are defeated by logistics and time zones and distance and cost. Plus we are putting the girls first.

I’m surprisingly ok. We have parted with much love and affection and goodwill. In fact, we have tickets for something on Thursday so are still going to that but as friends. It was just going to be too tough and too hard on everyone.

Neither of us regret anything. We’ve had a marvellous 10 months.

Wine.

I’m sorry to hear that Polly.

it’s probably the best path for you both. you have so much on your plate without adding an LDR to the mix.

maybe see how things pan out and if you’re both available when he returns, see what happens?

hoping things calm for you.

I am so sorry and at the same time I applaud you for the way this has been handled by both people involved - adult, amicable and sensible. It just shows how much you have grown as a strong, independent woman who knows her own mind.

Yes. Sorry it did not work out Polly but you both remain friends.

Polly I am full of admiration for how you handle everything life throws at you.

I am glad you and Westley will stay friends.
Enjoy your night out x

It's the sensible choice and it shows that you've grown enough to not chase "love" to the detriment of your MH.

Hope the wine helps

Sorry to hear it didn’t work out Polly, but sounds for the best perhaps. Hope you’re having lots of cuddles from the Dollies and friends supporting you

Sorry to hear that Polly, still it's good you can look back on it as a wonderful 10 months & not with regret. Who knows what the future holds! The dollies won't be children forever.

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Sorry things have ended between you and Westley, but what a nice time you've had with a really lovely man, who is nothing like Geller, idiot boob that he is.

And great that you are staying friends with such a positive person in your life. Onward and upwards OP. Here's another 🍷 for you plus a tea ☕️ for later! 🌹

While you may be heart sore, LDR are not for the faint hearted.

I don't think being in one would have been in your best interests long term.

You will be fine.
You have come through far worse that this.

Oh I’m sorry but glad to hear you sound very positive. You’ll be fine I’m absolutely positive x

Well done both of you :) You really are shining examples of people who have their priorities right. I really do hope that you can stay friends in the long term and both take something positive from your relationship

Sorry it hasn’t worked out but lovely if you can remain remain friends. Much more civilised and better for your very important MH x

Oh fuck. I drank bourbon and sent him the lyrics to Overpass Graffiti by Ed Sheeran.

He hasn’t responded.

Going well.

Oh Darling… Consider him training wheels for your next relationship. You know that you won’t accept any crap from men and deserve to be treated kindly and with respect. Still…. I’m so sorry.

Oh dear. Drunk texting is a really bad idea. But no worse than back in my day when it was leaving drunk messages on someone's answerphone.

This too shall pass.

Dial a drink😂.

One of my lovely friends was lethal for this.
We would be wrestling the phone from her..."but I love him"....always red wine was responsibe.

Oh Polly, I'm sorry you've had to do the sensible thing! It sucks being an adult....having reviewed the lyrics in question I think this morning I'd follow up with "oops that was the bourbon talking, but I wasn't kidding when I said I've really enjoyed the last few months" and leave it at that. Or hope he pretends it didn't happen! Big hugs.

I am not messaging him. That's today's challenge. Break the habit. And I'm not touching the bloody bourbon again

He'll be fine about it.

In exciting domestic news, I have just bought a cordless lawnmower. Living the dream. I ran this morning. I have nice plans with friends and DIY and the garden for the weekend.

I am going to date myself for a bit - buy myself flowers and do nice things. I feel no compulsion to dash out and find a new man, nor to canonise Westley - he has set a fantastic new benchmark as and when I am ready, but he had his faults as we all do! I'm certainly not going to replace him any time soon.

Meanwhile, over in Gellerland, he cannot possibly discuss anything significant to do with the Dollies because he is just soooooo busy on a project at work. He will be able to discuss things in July. He has, however, found the time to get his solicitor to email mine to say that he hasn't received a bonus. AHAHAHA. Oh, and whilst I'm at it, I need to resupply all my financial information so he can ascertain how I afforded my house.

That was joyous. He really is the gift that keeps on giving.

I just opened a happy new home card from the friend who stabbed me in the back. Have found out some more stuff today but honestly, I don't care any more. I've enough on my plate.

Going to get my head down and do some work.

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I am going to date myself for a bit - buy myself flowers and do nice things. I feel no compulsion to dash out and find a new man, nor to canonise Westley - he has set a fantastic new benchmark as and when I am ready, but he had his faults as we all do! I'm certainly not going to replace him any time soon.

Excellent idea! Such a lovely feeling to treat yourself to some lovely flowers (especially if scented, or a garden plant or a beautiful orchid - which lasts ages).

As for Geller and finances - of course two can play that game. That's what a forensic accountant can help with. My goodness you deserve several medals having to deal with his twattery.

Your weekend plans sound good - can your new mower do stripes in the grass? 🌹