Tick tock: the one where Geller discovers Polly is no longer a doormat

[StuckInPollyannaMode]

AKA Co-parenting: I do not think it means what you think it means

Here we go again my lovelies! Will this be the one where I finally get divorced?!

Previous thread here

I have clock news! Turns out, no one wants it. Quelle surprise. Could I sell it? No, sez I, it’s worth ha’penny tuppence on a good day. Plus, no time.

Ha ha.

I suggested, because I am a kind hearted soul and because it’s already in a box and I don’t know which one that they keep the clock face and I get rid of the mechanism and the case. That appears to be a reasonable compromise. Pass me an axe.

The reason for the clock conversation? My brother phoned. My mother has given away my grandfather’s WW1 medals to a museum. WTF?! We’re going to try and get them back. She can’t see what she’s done wrong.

Solicitors on the other side for the house purchase are useless. Estate agent spoke to them today. They are awaiting proof of ID and funds on account?! WTF. I lost my shit a bit. I’d just come back from having a filling so I sounded three gins down, which I’m sure added to the effect.

Oh, and I haven’t stopped laughing for the last hour. A friend has found Geller’s profile on a dating app. It contains such gems as ‘addressing climate change one word at a time in my career as a professional’ and goes on to claim he ‘always has time’

Given me the best laugh I’ve had since my solicitor said she’d call me just to be sure that I wanted to file for absolute once the finance order is made…

Anyway, buckle up loves. It’ll be a ride, as ever…glad you could join me.

It's when the shit hits the fan that we find out who our true friends are. I'm just sorry you had to find out after the 'damage' was done. But as you say "them that minds don't matter, and them that matters don't mind". At this point I'd probably just 'ghost' her even if the Dollies are friends with her children. And even if you're friends with her husband. It's just not worth keeping poisonous people in our lives.

I'm sure your decision not to let Geller know this has upset you is the right one. it would only 'feed' his ego and probably cause him to 'act up' even more. Just calmly correct people's 'misinformation' when you can, but otherwise leave Geller to stew. It' probably making him crazy that you aren't tearing your hair out and beating your breast in anguish.

Jesus is there anyone that hasn't betrayed you at some point over the last decade? You've been dealt a shitty hand with your supposed nearest and dearest that's for sure.

Easy to say in hindsight but why you went on this break given the history is a bit of self flagellation though.

This is the friend who was blatantly siding with Geller last year? Why would she have been in a position to leak anything to him, let alone information about Westley?

Oh Polly, how utterly devastating it must be to be betrayed like that. I don't understand people like that at all. I could not be pretending to pick sides.

Consider it good riddance, and if this means Geller will sing that could be a silver lining. You're some kind of saint for not telling her what you think of her though!

Perfect! You now know who is leaking info, so you can drip feed anything you want Geller to know. And not tell her a thing otherwise.

I agree with ghosting your non friend. Geller can keep the relationship going for the girls if he wants. What dickheads they all are 🤬

Ooooh now there's an idea!

Jeez, imagine how inadequate she must feel if she has to do something so poisonous to elevate herself. Yuck. I'm so sorry Polly, but at least you know now.

@ChateauxNeufDePoop I did it for the Dollies. This was supposed to be a much longed for couple of weeks with their best friends. Four days was but a poor replacement.

She's already been on almost zero information. The stuff she knew and had passed on was out of date. Almost more damaging.

She doesn't know about this thread, no. Nor that I'm on MN. It is totally not her style to be on here, they are anti all social media and she'd never post nor read it.

I'm not going to go full on Wagatha Christie, although it is tempting. I'm going to rise above it and cool it down massively. If she gets in touch she'll get a cool reception and I won't be instantly available.

I'm so tired today, but I have a nice salad for lunch (I had soup yesterday and lit the fire, what is WITH this weather?) and I've done two 5 minute Bailey Brown workouts and I'll walk down to town later, if it ever stops raining. Work is busy so that's good. Keeping my mind off stuff.

And just heard Westley will be back this week, so I'll see him before the weekend, all good!

Oh, and I don't want to confront her about it. There's no point. The damage is done. I'm all about loyalty. She's broken that trust. She's out. I won't ghost, but I won't be in contact either. She can chat to Geller.

I think you're being incredibly strong and setting a fantastic example for your girls. Their father on the other hand is just shocking. The one man in the whole world that they should be able to trust 100% and he's carrying on like this based on false information. Disgraceful.

I'm cheering you on, no matter how low you may feel (cry loads, watch soppy films, eat loads of popcorn or crisps) but rest assured, you're a wonderful mother to these girls and you deserve so much better than Geller and you will find him.

Oh and I'm delighted that the clock has gone 😆

I did the same with a non-loyal "friend". I don't make any effort to contact her but when she does message me l do respond.

Loyalty is really important to me

On the other hand, it could be great fun doing a Gellergate, leaking tiny snippets about possible triplets, or other demonic half phrases for her to hear, then when G gets back to you, "oh its not meee, its a colleague at work.., is X friend on Meths ???"
I'm sure we can conjure all sorts of gems !!!

I'm so glad you've come back and updated us as I was a bit worried you'd had a meltdown and disappeared. Disregard what Geller says to people about you, his gossiping proves he's not over you but let's not forget he's now been divorced twice!!

As for your friend - grey rock her. Absolute bitch.

Roll on Westley returning home 😀

Sending you a huge bear hug Polly! 🌹

Is she likely to try quizzing the dollies if she’s being kept on a strict information diet?

What a fucking bitch! She’s clearly one of those drama lamas who loves the watching and poking with the whole faux sympathy bollocks “oh you poor thing I can’t believe she’s divorcing you and she seems far to comfortable with westley, I mean talking about moving abroad?!” UGH

That makes sense in my head but there was wine so …. Meh 🤷🏻‍♀️🤣

Good to see you on here though, next time you do Cornwall I’m totally bringing my two hooligans to play on the beach with the dollies 🥂

Well you can drop the Dollies around for play dates and just never return the offer.

Yes I picked it with the friend (under old name) but not one to rub salt into wounds, my fury on your behalf is incendiary.

Geller was always a dick. He’s showing himself up to be an even bigger (maybe tinier?) one. I think you should shrug off comments about him by saying “Oh Agis, what on earth did I think I saw in him? How utterly embarrassing!!!” 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️

Btw, I have no idea what Agis is… shall look it up. I meant “Oh God!” Of course

King of Sparta apparently

Well there you go! Pretty sure that Geller wouldn’t last long there!!

first time poster here, but it’s so clear you’ve reached that point of clarity where you no longer tolerate BS such as the leaky friend and you will keep moving forward without them and not feed any drama in the process. just gotta get those papers signed and everything else is noise!

Well no surprise there, she had form.

Polly, I would gently move your girls towards other nicer families.

Someone so ugly and disloyal will have no hesitation in gently quizzing the girls.
Don't put them in that position.

She doesn't like you and she isn't a friend to you.

Why would you want that around the girls.

Being busy and unavailable.

Your girls are old enough to be told she isn't very kind so we won't be spending much time with them going forward.

I don't think you have to be close friends with the parents of your childrens friends.

But her repeating private medical information is really vulgar.

I would be avoiding her and her family.

Encourage other friendships.