Prostate / Lingham massage

[Sonaftersonafterson]

Just a quickie to detract from my current ridiculous heartbreak, see other thread from me today if you're bored and want something to read/ someone to laugh at.

Anyway, would be really interested to hear peoples views on prostate and lingham massage. I didnt know what lingham was until yesterday but its penis massage, to put it bluntly.

How would you feel if your partner went for such a massage? Not meant to be a sex thing. Trained masseuse, tantric massage, but it is naked and includes her massaging his prostate (yes up the bum) and performing gentle massage on his balls and penis too. Meant to release tension and promote healing through sexual expression.

I can't get past the sex aspect of it. The objective is not necessarily to orgasm although many do.

Is this cheating? Would it be acceptable to you if your partner was open about it, went to a legit place etc? Would you view it as another form of massage or just a bit.... ick. I'm the latter, but would be very interested in what other people think

I am sure it does release a bit of tension

I'm sure it involves a release...

I wouldn't be ok with this.

What a load of crap. Sounds like prostitution.

I mean, if you were getting a yoni massage, that would, be a Sex Thing, wouldn't it?

Is a penis massage but just a different word for a wank 😂

Maybe lingam massage is offered by Brianetta of Hull?

It's a hand job

It's a fancy hand job
The person being paid is a fancy prostitute
Yes it's cheating unless agreed in advance and if it was agreed by you then ew what are you thinking!!

He's going for a high class hand job. You can decide if that is acceptable or not. If it was my partner I wouldn't be happy with it. It is not the same as a sports injury massage..

@Mundra

@TheSpottedZebra

I mean, if you were getting a yoni massage, that would, be a Sex Thing, wouldn't it?

This

Sex, however you dress it up.

Would it be acceptable to you if your partner was open about it, went to a legit place etc?

What 'legit places' offer this?! I've never seen this offered in any legit salon I've ever visited! (and yes, it's a sex service and no it wouldn't be acceptable to me)

It's paying for a sexual 'experience', basically going to a sex worker. Just because they light a candle and have Tibetan bowl music on doesn't make it virtuous.

I mean, someone else rubbing your genitals and other erogenous areas until orgasm can be relaxing. I am not sure it’s a legitimate therapeutic massage though.

So no I wouldn’t be happy about it. And I don’t think my husband would be if I went for the female equivalent either.

Oh purleeze, describe it however you want but it doesn't change what it actually is. Yes it's cheating unless that's what you've both discussed and agreed for him to have .... and the other partner can have hers too. Men don't have a monopoly on tension.

Do you really need to ask? The answer is obvious and anyone would say the same. It looks very much like you've been gaslit is you've considered otherwise. I highly doubt any place that does this can be called 'legit'.
Next step -" I went to a brothel to release tension, but its a 'legit' place where emotion doesn't come into it and they get regular health checks and use condoms. Would this be OK now I've told you?"

No way would I be ok with that, surely a licensed masseuse can’t touch someone legally in that way?!

There’s quite a funny scene in SATC where the women are taught how to perform it on their partners.

How do you feel about training into giving this type of massage with a pair of Edward scissor nails -

I’am sure it does release a bit of tension

Tell him you’re off for a yoni massage. If I remember rightly there’s someone called Brian who frequented MN, many moons ago who can help.

Would your partner accept it if you went for a "vagina massage " ?
I think not.

It will doubtless cost much more than a regular hand job.

Not meant to be a sex thing

But it is a sex thing. No normal massage parlour or therapist would offer this.