Prostate / Lingham massage

[Sonaftersonafterson]

Just a quickie to detract from my current ridiculous heartbreak, see other thread from me today if you're bored and want something to read/ someone to laugh at.

Anyway, would be really interested to hear peoples views on prostate and lingham massage. I didnt know what lingham was until yesterday but its penis massage, to put it bluntly.

How would you feel if your partner went for such a massage? Not meant to be a sex thing. Trained masseuse, tantric massage, but it is naked and includes her massaging his prostate (yes up the bum) and performing gentle massage on his balls and penis too. Meant to release tension and promote healing through sexual expression.

I can't get past the sex aspect of it. The objective is not necessarily to orgasm although many do.

Is this cheating? Would it be acceptable to you if your partner was open about it, went to a legit place etc? Would you view it as another form of massage or just a bit.... ick. I'm the latter, but would be very interested in what other people think

I know! But he is adamant it helps "heal" him. I read her website and I'm almost convinced to be fair!

But not quite.

Yes having a shag or a wank can do that.

Are you involved with this guy?

Is there a happy ending?

That’s what you go to a massage parlour for innit. It’s a sexual service. Putting tantric in the title doesn’t change that.

I'm not involved with him, no. Could have been but this has freaked me out. Especially as he was so casual telling me about it, like it's totally normal.

Linghams in our house is that spicy ginger chilli sauce... not up for that

Haven't RTFT so likely already said, but is that you Brian?

Brian is not involved. Unless my friend has changed his name on his spiritual arse massage journey.

@marieantoinehairnet

Linghams in our house is that spicy ginger chilli sauce... not up for that

There are some who may pay double for that kind of longhand massage

…. Or that kind of lingham massage

spotcheck

WizardOfAus
Is it available on the NHS?

Thanks for the biggest laugh I've had all day!
Ooo
This could save the NHS....kind of like the Eat Out to Help Out campaign.

Literally!!

Eaten out in the NHS too?

@Sonaftersonafterson

Lots of insight here - thank you.

He said apart from on the first occasion, before he learnt control, he did ejaculate. After that in subsequent sessions, he managed not to but in his words "left feeling pretty frustrated". I cant see how feeling frustrated is therapy. He also said he bought himself a prostate massager after visiting her, experiencing it and liking it.

This woman truly believes that by massaging penises and prostate glands, she is sending men on a spiritual journey.

So he’s been spending £100 an hour on a teasing hand job whilst being ‘trained by his hippy dominatrix’ to hold back his orgasm

Ha ha ha! Like the "non-erotic cock massage' in The Norsemen?

m.youtube.com/watch?v=NgncNit7vUU

Sounds like a New Age wank to me.

It’s definitely a sex thing

But he is adamant it helps "heal" him

Of the want of a paid wank whilst hanging onto moral smuggery?

I'm sure there is a detailed diagnostic criteria somewhere

Glad the general consensus is that this is hippy bullshit. That was my first reaction but he shot me down in flames and made ME feel like the one with an issue, as if this was a totally everyday thing.

Thanks

Suggest he shows the website to his Mum. After all, it’s all above board and normal ….

@Sonaftersonafterson

Glad the general consensus is that this is hippy bullshit. That was my first reaction but he shot me down in flames and made ME feel like the one with an issue, as if this was a totally everyday thing.

Thanks

Well he's trying to justify it, isn't he? Glad you're not taken in - and no longer attracted! 🌹

@Sonaftersonafterson

I'm not involved with him, no. Could have been but this has freaked me out. Especially as he was so casual telling me about it, like it's totally normal.

He was testing your boundaries.

You are right to trust your own feelings.

He's a wanker. A silly wanker as well, sending so much cash on a hand job from a hippy chick.

HNRTT so am unsure if the same points have been made but if your DP/ex is straight, would he be happy if this therapy was provided by a man, say Dave with a long grey beard?

Is there a minimum age for this therapy (I hope)?

Posh wank!

@alwaysontheloo

It's a wank surrounded by crystals and to the sound rack of whale music.

😂😂😂😂😂

The episode of sex and the city with this type of massage is on sky cinema right now!