Prostate / Lingham massage

[Sonaftersonafterson]

Just a quickie to detract from my current ridiculous heartbreak, see other thread from me today if you're bored and want something to read/ someone to laugh at.

Anyway, would be really interested to hear peoples views on prostate and lingham massage. I didnt know what lingham was until yesterday but its penis massage, to put it bluntly.

How would you feel if your partner went for such a massage? Not meant to be a sex thing. Trained masseuse, tantric massage, but it is naked and includes her massaging his prostate (yes up the bum) and performing gentle massage on his balls and penis too. Meant to release tension and promote healing through sexual expression.

I can't get past the sex aspect of it. The objective is not necessarily to orgasm although many do.

Is this cheating? Would it be acceptable to you if your partner was open about it, went to a legit place etc? Would you view it as another form of massage or just a bit.... ick. I'm the latter, but would be very interested in what other people think

And the masseuse is naked? Just to save on the laundry?

“A holistic experience which leaves women feeling spiritually uplifted, relieving stress and improving mood. The process involves the therapeutic massage of the internal vaginal wall accompanied by gentle exploration of the clitoris which in some cases may lead to a strong release response.

Nb/May also involve a cheeky finger up the bum.”

Ask them whether that would be a non-sexual experience for women.

He sounds like an absolute twat.

I'm pretty open minded and don't baulk at much, but my partner going to someone for a holistic patchouli scented wank would make me leave him quicker than you could say "chakra".

Absolute fucking nonsense is what it is.

@daisyjgrey

Love it

Maybe you could go as couples therapy and be taught to do it by the practitioner.
Perhaps he could be taught massage techniques to use on you .
Just a thought.

For clarity, she is not naked. She massages the men and she has a male masseuse that does the women, apparently.

When I read it on her website, it doesn't sound seedy at all. But from what he has told me, it is different. She is all floaty, spiritual, has adverts for her website all over insta, Twitter, even linkedin! So she doesnt view herself as a prostitute but I cant get my head around it.

@IfIHadAHeart

He’s been robbed, going rate is a fiver round Here. Not sure it would be quite the “spiritual” experience he’s used to but a wank is a wank.

Brilliant 😂

@Sonaftersonafterson

For clarity, she is not naked. She massages the men and she has a male masseuse that does the women, apparently.

When I read it on her website, it doesn't sound seedy at all. But from what he has told me, it is different. She is all floaty, spiritual, has adverts for her website all over insta, Twitter, even linkedin! So she doesnt view herself as a prostitute but I cant get my head around it.

It’s not ‘seedy’

But it remains a sexual service

If she was to stand on a street corner offering tantric lingham massages to curb crawlers, or a grotty flat in a back street then it would be seedy

Equally a prostitute who isn’t trafficked, works for herself, has the ability to choose to decline a customer and performs acts that she is comfortable with, lap dances or poses on screen under an only fans account ….. is that acceptable ?

There are different lines where people draw their morality

There’s nothing wrong with the masseuse doing a service that she is happy with and for a price
It becomes wrong if she is coerced to do so or if the customer is keeping it secret from his wife/partner

@IfIHadAHeart

Is a penis massage but just a different word for a wank 😂

This

@daisyjgrey

He sounds like an absolute twat.

I'm pretty open minded and don't baulk at much, but my partner going to someone for a holistic patchouli scented wank would make me leave him quicker than you could say "chakra".

Absolute fucking nonsense is what it is.

Ha ha!

I think the set part is the way it's being presented. It's a sexual service so own it. Don't try and gaslight women in to thinking their husbands are just getting a holistic treatment

There’s an episode of Sex and the City where they sit around and watch a lesson on how to do it. I suggest you have a look at it

@magicstar1 at least in that she's only doing it to her own husband

And a burly bloke called Rob doing a full body sports massage wouldnt have provided the de stress/relax— ?? No I thought not— you can dress these services in whatever fancy language you want, add whale music and Insence, it’s still paid sexual services

The objective is not necessarily to orgasm

Yeah. Right.

Oh please. It’s a massage and happy ending. They’ll probably do it in Thailand for a fiver but dress it up here as a legitimate stress relieving holistic therapy with scented candles and whale noises and fucking choir singers standing outside.

If it looks like a duck and waddles like a duck, guess what, it’s a duck. This is sex work, no matter how it’s dressed up.

Well after a recent invasive prostate check at the GPs the last thing on my mind and bucket list is a pokey bum wank! Couldn't think of anything worse.

Actually, my ex BIL went through a phase of this, but in classes.

Ten middle aged Glastonwankers sitting around naked & stroking their bits, whilst the woman leading the session circulated & periodically poked them in the chakra, or possibly the bum, apparently.

He was very enthusiastic about 'getting out of my comfort zone'.

SIL decided that being married to a chap in his late 40s who was doing posh circle jerking with randoms did not really fit her comfort zone, & divorced the bugger.

It wasn't the only reason, to be fair, but was definitely a contributing factor.

Maybe it’s just a question of “marketing”.

Less could be charged for a “rub and tug” - essentially the same thing!

"Ten middle aged Glastonwankers sitting around naked & stroking their bits, whilst the woman leading the session circulated & periodically poked them in the chakra, or possibly the bum, apparently."

You'd have to be pretty uninhibited to be totally comfortable with a group male wank session. I assume its done on the basis that they are all strangers when they sign up for it - imagine if you walked in and there was someone you actually knew from day to day life - and you had to meet them in the street later and not be mutually thinking "you are such a wanker"

I can't believe this guy has even got you questioning this. Gaslighting in the extreme. She massages aka rubs his penis then sticks her finger up his bumhole so and he has an orgasm but it's not sex work? Of course it bloody is! It's literally the definition of sex work and she is a prostitute.

Does she wear gloves?

None of this sounds very covid friendly

Lord I have lived a sheltered life

I've rubbed plenty of cocks over the years, does that make me a trained masseuse

And the only person touching my partners where I wouldn't consider it cheating is a medical professional wearing gloves checking for lumps or performing surgery!