Huaband wants to take 'sexy' photos of me.

[LissyW]

Hi everyone, first post... My husband has asked me if he can take some sexy photos of me. He says not pornographic, more erotic. I've said I'll think about it but I'm not sure how I feel about it, so I'm seeking opinions.
My libido, and our sex life, has taken a dip since out daughter was born. Not unusual. Husband says he wants to try to revive things and he thinks the erotic pictures might help to restore my confidence. I don't feel very sexy but he says, to him, I'm as sexy as I ever was. What do you think l. Should I?
Lissy x

I am not distrustful, mean spirited, nor cynical. I have however seen far too many of what can only be described as gynae/porn shots of women being gawked at, whom I have no doubt, DID NOT want those photos shared. These are wives/girlfriends that I do not know, but I see at works functions! It is downright nasty, but none of them think that THEIR dh would do it!! Hence, I would never take the risk.....

This all sounds odd.

This is a ridiculous excuse. Why does he think taking exotic photos of you will restore your confidence?

No way would I allow him to do that!

Well, it wouldn’t be for me as I wouldn’t enjoy the objectification.

No. Don't do it.

@FurStories

Nah!

And whilst you're at it, tell him to get off the fkg porn sites!

That comment is deeply offensive. You don't know my husband so you definitely shouldn't make unfounded comments about him.

I think this whole thread is suspect. Why are people even bothering to reply to a supposed woman OP who has to ask other women whether having 'erotic' photos taken of her will make her 'feel more sexy' or will it make her feel 'dirty'? Should she do it or not, peeps??
'Cos she can't decide, and needs all your tales about making 'sexy' photos to help make up her undecided mind, obvs.

And when pps (actual women this time) reply no fucking way, don't do it, OP gets uppity and offended?

I think we all need to be a bit more careful about what we put on the internet including on threads like this.

If it’s not a enthusiastic yes, it’s a clear no.

@Haffiana

I think this whole thread is suspect. Why are people even bothering to reply to a supposed woman OP who has to ask other women whether having 'erotic' photos taken of her will make her 'feel more sexy' or will it make her feel 'dirty'? Should she do it or not, peeps?? 'Cos she can't decide, and needs all your tales about making 'sexy' photos to help make up her undecided mind, obvs.

And when pps (actual women this time) reply no fucking way, don't do it, OP gets uppity and offended?

I think we all need to be a bit more careful about what we put on the internet including on threads like this.

And yet there has been a range of opinions expressed.

@LissyW I know you think everyone here is cynical but there are many, many other things your DH could do to help you get intimacy back other than taking ‘erotic’ photos.

Tell him you’ll think about it but first, you need at least a month of him doing all the night waking and early mornings with the baby and allowing you to sleep through so that you look better in the pictures