Dating thread 225: Roses are red, violets are blue

[ButterflyOfShay]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

30somethingandstillsingle
Communication like adults
Love it !
I hope you are smiling a bit ❤️
And fuck me humans are complex

I’m happy for you and look after your boundaries

I don’t think I dumped my nice iron very well or effectively

He’s waiting while I have therapy 😬

I’m like don’t wait ! Go get laid you lovely man and find someone who wants to rip your clothes off

Sometimes ending something is just as hard as someone ending it @Thisisworsethananticpated!! He sounds like a decent guy.. shame there’s no spark but you just can’t force it.
Now I can’t get Turk out my head 🙄 not even going to be about next two days but what do they say about absence and the heart 😂

@ButterflyOfShay I love reading about your encounters with Mr. Turk. There's something exciting about real life encounters with your crush...even just randomly bumping into each other and the what ifs!! Hope your poor cat is doing better.
@Thisisworsethananticpated I think sometimes being honest e.g. I'm not feeling a spark is better as he may now feel there's something to wait for? It's hard either way but if it's a definite no go, I think it's better to make that clear in the let down message.

Sorry to hear about your cat, @ButterflyOfShay ❤️

@Thisisworsethananticpated you've got a good point there. I definitely need to be a bit careful, as I've got some self-esteem stuff to work through too.

He texted me to chat btw. I hope he's not reading here. Lol.

@Thisisworsethananticpated I agree with the others. It's better to be honest, then your iron won't be pinning all his hopes up on anything further.

I know it's difficult. I've had it happen before with an old iron. I think it's better to be open about it. Sending you lots of

ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers

Oh bless you ! I don’t need flowers 💐
I’d rather have this than being dumped or ghosted
I’ll be moaning abiut that in a few weeks mark my
Words 😂

Thanks for the cat wishes. She isn’t doing too bad just not 100%, and very greasy from all the ear drops, poor old thing 💗 tried to sponge her down with mild fairy liquid but it’s not seemed to help much 😥

Thanks @Startingover37 it’s quite funny as I kind of stop thinking about when I don’t see him for a while but this week there’s been the two consecutive days and quite noticeable encounters then he’s all on my mind again! Thankfully I’d washed my hair and wasn’t looking too horrendous today when he was stood up close 😂

@Thisisworsethananticpated

ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers

Oh bless you ! I don’t need flowers 💐
I’d rather have this than being dumped or ghosted
I’ll be moaning abiut that in a few weeks mark my
Words 😂

@Thisisworsethananticpated 😂🙂❤️

Hey all,

I’ve lurked a bit on these threads the past few months but I’m just starting to dip my toe back into dating after being single for 8/9 months so thought it would be good to join in. I’m 29 and have basically always been in a long term relationship. My last one has taken quite some time to get over and I’m not sure if I’m 100% there yet but I’ve decided it would be good to meet new people now. Plus I’ve not had sex in that whole time which is just bloody sad 😂!

I had a date a few weeks ago after meeting a guy on a night out. It was nice and he was lovely and such a gentleman but there really wasn’t any spark for me. I didn’t want to rip his clothes off at all.

I’ve joined Tinder and POF this week but not sure I’m a fan of either. Tinder was full of “hey how are you” over and over and over again which I just find draining to keep replying to. On POF I got over 100 messages within the first 8 hours yesterday and over 50 today. No vile messages or anything but the vast majority of the men were pretty grim. I find it quite hard having to sift through them all but I’m not sure how else I’ll meet someone. Kind of past the nightclub phase now and I only work with woman 😂. Trying not to quite before I’ve even started but does anyone have any opinions on better apps etc? Or are they all pretty much the same? Thanks!

Hi Wolfie welcome! In my experience the same faces crop up on different sites and there are no better or worse ones. It's luck of the draw really... You're getting a lot of interest but it's all a bit meh. Can you add anything to your profile that makes you stand out a bit? Something that won't appeal to everyone but some will really like? Politics, hobby, unusual interest or opinion? Or pose with a fish - that tends to put people off! 🤣

In other news, I've bitten the bullet and relaunched. Initially just on Bumble so far, building up to Tinder. One match, I've opened up convo. I wonder how long I'll last this time...

@WeWantTheFinestWines
You’ll be fine, if an old codger like me can meet someone, then you certainly can

[quote HowlongWillThisTakeNow]@WeWantTheFinestWines
You’ll be fine, if an old codger like me can meet someone, then you certainly can[/quote]
My convo is with a paleontologist, so I'm really entering the world of old codgers!

Lol that’s funny, welcome to the world of old codgerness, I swear I need a pee every 5 minutes these days and if I sit still for more than 30 mins I’ll asleep, really need to lose some weight

WeWantTheFinestWines
Good luck
I agree with what you said about distinctive profiles
My latest was very open and mentioned something quite Unusual that people maybe wouldn’t mention
I get less likes but way nicer ones

Baltic Balkan is being very nice to me right now

As his main crime was being upset about something family related and neither of us handled it well , im proceeding with caution

Wolfie11
I like hinge
Less is more
I couldn’t cope with the tinder likes
Way too many and all grim
It totally stressed me

Good luck with Bumble, @WeWantTheFinestWines. ❤️

I'm hoping to get back into the dating game soon. I'm having physio which is really helping. I'm also seeing a new doctor at my surgery and he's put me on muscle relaxants, which have been great. 👍🏻🙂

Well done for diving back in! @WeWantTheFinestWines

@HowlongWillThisTakeNow what a turnaround with Miss Horse…

I had my first post MrM date last night (date zero really) couple of drinks after work in London. Met through Feeld and he was perfectly decent and attractive. Quick kiss afterwards and mention of meeting again - but quite clear it would be for sex. This is an interesting turn of events for me because although I liked him and fancied him, there was no intellectual spark really so probably for once, I actually think I could possibly have a FWB arrangement with him (it helps that he’s clearly filthy 😆). Going to ponder it over the next few days.

Got another date lined up for tomorrow with Mr Eurostar. Think we won’t fancy each other and he lives in Paris half the time so clearly most normal people wouldn’t bother 🤪 but he’s suggested we either go to a jazz club (not really my scene but would probably be a nice evening) and I’ve countered with suggested going clubbing at Printworks… my counter suggestion may deter him methinks 😆

@Thisisworsethananticpated

Baltic Balkan is being very nice to me right now

As his main crime was being upset about something family related and neither of us handled it well , im proceeding with caution

Definitely proceed with caution here - I think it’s not so much about how he’s being as whether your heart can handle what he’s offering…

ibelieveinmirrorballs

I like mr filthy as a concept and idea
Let’s see if you can fwb it with him

Do it for us all 😂

ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers

Muscle relaxant ? Jesus they never dole
Them out , well done 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫

@Thisisworsethananticpated

ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers

Muscle relaxant ? Jesus they never dole
Them out , well done 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫

@Thisisworsethananticpated thank you 😊