Dating thread 225: Roses are red, violets are blue

[ButterflyOfShay]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Valentines next Monday!! Anyone expecting any cards/ roses/ diamond rings?? 😍

@ButterflyOfShay

Valentines next Monday!! Anyone expecting any cards/ roses/ diamond rings?? 😍

In a word no, nothing , zilch, nada

Thanks for starting the new thread

Aww @StartingAgain6369 are you on the apps? Hopefully I’ll be wfh next Monday so at lunchtime ill go for my coffee wander and see if MrTurk, MrTruck or MrTrainer are visible 😂 that will be the extent of my romantic activities! Perving from afar 🧐

@ButterflyOfShay just wanted to say that your advice to @BangHeadhere in the last thread was spot on

Thanks for the thread. Think I might get a little Valentine’s present from Mr Beard next week, I’m getting him one. We’re going away together for a few days soon, our first trip away! Looking forward to some sexy hotel time.

Hope those of you who made the London meet up had a great time sharing stories about the trials of online dating, wish I could have joined you!

[quote gelatodipistacchio]**@ButterflyOfShay* just wanted to say that your advice to @BangHeadhere* in the last thread was spot on[/quote]
Cheers @gelatodipistacchio. Its always easier to see things more objectively when you’re not in it isn’t it? It’s hard to be strong at times though 😔

@Stayingstrongish next time! I think we all agreed we will definitely do another one 😊😊

Placemarking

Morning. Nada from me currently, I miss that frisson of chatting to someone and having a connection

Thanks for the new thread @ButterflyOfShay. Hoping for a card this year. Big change from last year when waiting for a card from then boyfriend and realising it really was over when I got nothing.

Placemarking

Will drop by later

I think I'm meeting MrD's sister on Valentine's Day!

MrMinds birthday is very close to Vday, what do you buy someone you hardly really know?!
I feel I should get him something...

I'm not a big Valentine's Day person, but flowers are always nice

@Eesha was that really a year?? My gosh thats flown by.

No valentines' for me....got a few irons but I have shifted the bar a lot higher and not many meet it...I had a date last night with Mr Generous.. we've known each other a while but only been on two dates so far, last night he dropped me home and we had a goodnight kiss, but he ruined it by suggesting we get in the back of his car to 'fool around' I said no, and he said it again, and third time, I said to him you need to listen when I say no...and left.. he text to apologise, and is trying to say it was just to kiss properly and cuddle but I am not doing that either in a parked car outside my building!

Have a quick date Saturday although he lives a little far.

lets see

Checking in thanks for the new thread.

100% agree shayelle, I've just left it.. in fact at least I can laugh about it. I don't actually think it's all an excuse mind, he had photos and books about the breed all over his house...like obsessed with them. I fed it one prawn cracker when I was there too and he got so het up about it and how it might now get fat.

Oh well, good riddance 😁

Back to the cesspit of undesirables.

@30somethingandstillsingle

MrMinds birthday is very close to Vday, what do you buy someone you hardly really know?! I feel I should get him something...

I'm not a big Valentine's Day person, but flowers are always nice

A funny book?

For those struggling, I think this is low key but a bit fun:

Back to the cesspit of undesirables… @Bangheadhere40 - just about sums up my state of mind today 😬

Checking in and thanks @ButterflyOfShay for the new thread. Glad everyone had a fab time at the meet up.

I’ve been weaning myself off MrM and am now 9 days NC. Proud of myself although the cravings to reach out have been strong at times, particularly because I know he would respond and be decent… but managed to stop myself caving thus far. Distracting myself with organising a half term trip with DC and sending a save the date for a summer birthday party to lots of people (and trying not to hyperventilate at the prospect as I stare out the window at my mid-renovation bombsite of a house).

Vaguely flicked through the apps and… not feeling it at all.

That's not attractive @Notanotherchange 🙄

I have zero irons. Zero. No one at all who interests me. I had a boyfriend last Valentines Day but got nada from him so no change this year 😔

Checking in! Oh my goodness it was so overdue and so well needed to spend proper quality time with MrT yesterday.

Walked in to him putting together a chair all manly like (I know it's not the most DIY thing in the world but boy does he know how to work tools! 🤪) safe to say the first part was getting all the frustration out. While cuddles and pillow talk were happening we got onto the conversation of a steakhouse that had gone out of business and I said "I really fancy a steak now" and he suggested we went out to dinner 😁

So went and had a lovely pub meal, which he insisted on paying for. Up to now we've had a few meals but always went dutch. What's the etiquette here? Do I pay next time?? 😅😂 He made a comment later that evening via text when I thanked him that it was "about time he bought me dinner" ☺️

There was a football match being streamed and again was all manly and knew all the teams and rules and stuff (was a very manly day for him 😂). He's never mentioned football and is a total geek so it added a new dimension for me and I really enjoyed it.

🥰

I had a lovely date a couple of weeks ago with a great guy. We were going to meet a few days after but I got covid and gave him covid ffs. He's been very chatty throughout this time and we're going to meet on weds for a follow up date . However his texts over the last few days are not what they were so we'll see .

@Inthesameboatatmo how frustrating, sodding covid! Hope you make it to the next date.

@ButterflyOfShay yes, can you believe a year. In hindsight I think I was being faded out under the pretence of him being unwell mentally and I remember posting here that Valentines was going to be the date that if I didn't hear anything, then that was it.

Bangheadhere40

One day you will look back at dog farmer and laugh at his craziness
Maybe not today x

On birthday gifts for newish irons, for MrT I made a little "care pack" type thing which went down well - his favourite drinks, a little token gift relating to one of his hobbies and some snacks. Meant it cost about £10 but showed I'd been paying attention 😂

Actually my last iron that stuck also had a bday about a month in I did a similar thing for - drinks and then ingredients to make ramen based on a comment he made about a photo I'd sent about me having to make it for him. We actually split before I had the chance to make it for him but no big deal! 😂

Im not holding out hope for Valentine's Day. MrT is very against it in a "why commercialise showing your partner you care" kind of way. When I pouted (jokingly) at him the other day for it he then u-turned and said he's not against having a lovely meal at home etc. So I have no idea if I should get a gift for him 🙄 I'm thinking of picking up a massage bar or something purely because I want it and will be a gift "for me, to you" 😂 I've done both a bday and Xmas and he's got me nothing so far so don't want to go 3-0!!