Left out at work

[jingleballs22]

Hi I'm going to get straight to the point with this as I am in work so don't have time to write everything down .

Last year my married boss had feelings for me . Would message all the time , buy me gifts and was open about his feelings . Him and his wife don't get on at all . I know this as I have heard the way she speaks to him and he is a lovely man .

I developed feelings for him so we stopped working together because obviously it's wrong and there's was a lot of guilt there .

Last Christmas his wife messaged my partner and said we have been having an affair for years . We have not . We haven't done anything apart from discuss our feelings and then left it there .

His wife wanted me sacked and told me I had to leave but I wouldn't because I have done nothing wrong .

She's basically made my working life hell . I am not allowed to contact my boss for anything or go to our office . This has been for a whole year . Not allowed on work gatherings either

One of the women who work with us messaged me saying about our Xmas party this year which I was excited about going to because o have not seen anyone as not allowed .

I then text my boss mother who said I am not allowed to attend the Xmas party . Have I got any right to be sad about this or do you think this is what I deserve ?

Bluntness100

Maybe we are reading what has actually been written

Selectively

You mean not adding things that haven’t been written

@KittenCatcher

I dont think criticisng his wife, saying no one in the office likes her, and giving examples of her behaviour on any social platform will help you if you do decide to take them to a Tribunal. Its very unlrofessional and makes it sound very personal between you and her.

Of course it's personal. The husband fancied OP and OP told the husband she had feelings for him too. It doesn't get much more personal.

It does seem more about the wife and OP, he is not a lovely man. A lovely married man with 2 kids doesnt message, buy gifts and arrange a weekend away with a woman at the office. He should bd doing that for his wife and family.

@Stonerosie67

I wondered what job role OP has too - no grasp on basic grammar and can’t put forward tangible arguments. Can’t be a solicitor haha

This! Her posts are making my eyes itch!

I've noticed the space before a full stop at the end of every sentence, like this .

No space is needed before a full stop.

He even booked a weekend away for the two of us and told me the day before!

No man books a weekend away without at least a good percentage chance that the recipient would go with him. Not a married man with kids.

@Speakingmymind

He even booked a weekend away for the two of us and told me the day before!

No man books a weekend away without at least a good percentage chance that the recipient would go with him. Not a married man with kids.

I agree.

It's a horrible post. This woman was no defenceless victim at her workplace, she responded likewise with her boss. No doubt knowing the boss facied her made life more exiting and a little bit easier for her at work.

But no the excuse is she did it because the wife was horrible, came from money and nobody liked her in the office.
Charming.

People telling her to sue them is frankly ludicrious, she embarked on an affair, admited by herself, she had feeling for him and told him so.
She encouraged it.

If that wife was truly horrible she would have been booking a holiday for op's partner and herself, wining and dining him and buying him presents and gifts and taking him off op because well she's loaded.

Yeah she had it hard, she thought she was top dog in that office and now she's been shunted away, oh the injustice of it all.