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Dating thread 216 ... spooky fun in cuffing season

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BelladiMamma · 26/10/2021 22:22

Hi everyone

Can someone else please copy and paste the rules as my screenshot is crap 💩

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BelladiMamma · 26/10/2021 22:33

I've tried to attach my screenshot but it's so old and crap it didn't even work ...!

Anyway who's up for a roll call ahead of cuffing season.?..? Talking of which I'm going to invest in some risqué lingerie. Quite fancy a change from the usual 🤪

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Isitreallyme177 · 26/10/2021 22:40

Should work hopefully

Dating thread 216 ... spooky fun in cuffing season
Eesha · 26/10/2021 22:45

Thanks for the new thread!

Well I never heard back from Mr Italian part 3 post a few pleasantries after the actual date. Its only my ego which is a bit bruised really. He did seem keen but actions speak louder than words.

WeWantTheFinestWines · 26/10/2021 22:48

The Rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. Know your worth.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

WeWantTheFinestWines · 26/10/2021 22:50

Hi all, thanks for the thread bella. Found the rules. My roll call - currently back off the apps as they're depressing. They make me feel like I'm not the fun, intelligent, interesting and attractive person I actually am.

WeWantTheFinestWines · 26/10/2021 22:51

The rules were beautifully formatted when I posted them. Bloody app.

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BelladiMamma · 26/10/2021 22:58

@WeWantTheFinestWines

The rules were beautifully formatted when I posted them. Bloody app.
It's a much better version so thanks for posting ☺️
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VanGoghsDog · 26/10/2021 23:02

Roll call - I think I'm the flake!

Consultant guy - left his message earlier this week dangling. I'm not interested, I should tell him.

Archeologist guy - had a phone call, didn't like his voice. He's geeky which I usually like hut a bit too geeky and he didn't ask me anything about myself. He's texted tonight, need to reply.

A couple of Feeld guys have deselected themselves by not liking my responses, one I told to fuck off and unconnected (he was very odd and kept telling me my profile was wrong, even though it doesn't actually say anything).

A few more on Feeld have messages dangling. One guy is looking for a regular FB, I should meet him. But he's 15 years younger than me!

Then MrWG we know and MrStone who is pissing me right off. I said it would be nice to meet for dinner this week. He's now trying to change to him cooking for me. I've told him friends only. So I don't want to go to his house, plus his cooking was not great.

I've texted to say meet in town.
He's also invited himself (brought it up three times now) to stay with me when I go away in Nov. Says he's pencilled in a weekend. Each time I have told him I already have plans.

When I see him tomorrow I need to be very clear.

I don't want to fall out with him because of the group.

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BelladiMamma · 26/10/2021 23:04

Roll call

MrActor: I'm on the smitten bench and just ... aaargh ... I hate crushing on people 😂. Date set for this weekend. Will shortly declare undying love for him if shag is as good on Sunday as it was a couple of weeks ago. I'm easy to please 🤪

MrSardinia: keen bean, date for Friday but all fairly casual

MissBrazil: need to contact her to arrange next date

MrA: he of the dad jokes. Seems nice and easy to get on with. Date zero arranged for 2 week's time

BeardFlake: back to intense levels of texting and telling me how wonderful I am. Why did I text him? Probably just so I could tell him I was seeing someone. Yes. I know. Pathetic isn't it

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Catcrazy83 · 26/10/2021 23:05

Hi all, roll call is still the same. Loads of dates with mr working away. We are both off the app’s. Going brill. Booked a long weekend for November. He brought up the conversation. No exclusivity was discussed. Still have my fwb, who I have not seen since said conversation, due to logistics. Usual for us to go a month without seeing each other. Fwb dates and knows I do too, but mr working away does not. It’s starting to feel a tab ingenious, and it’s time to cut fwb loose.
Should I wait for the exclusivity chat? Or go with my gut? The coming off the apps conversation was a little clumsy.

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BelladiMamma · 26/10/2021 23:06

@VanGoghsDog

Roll call - I think I'm the flake!

Consultant guy - left his message earlier this week dangling. I'm not interested, I should tell him.

Archeologist guy - had a phone call, didn't like his voice. He's geeky which I usually like hut a bit too geeky and he didn't ask me anything about myself. He's texted tonight, need to reply.

A couple of Feeld guys have deselected themselves by not liking my responses, one I told to fuck off and unconnected (he was very odd and kept telling me my profile was wrong, even though it doesn't actually say anything).

A few more on Feeld have messages dangling. One guy is looking for a regular FB, I should meet him. But he's 15 years younger than me!

Then MrWG we know and MrStone who is pissing me right off. I said it would be nice to meet for dinner this week. He's now trying to change to him cooking for me. I've told him friends only. So I don't want to go to his house, plus his cooking was not great.

I've texted to say meet in town.
He's also invited himself (brought it up three times now) to stay with me when I go away in Nov. Says he's pencilled in a weekend. Each time I have told him I already have plans.

When I see him tomorrow I need to be very clear.

I don't want to fall out with him because of the group.

That's worrying re MrWG and his procedure. I hope all is well.

As for MrStone, god that sounds a bore!! Not helpful if he's not listening to your request for friendship either

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BelladiMamma · 26/10/2021 23:07

@Catcrazy83

Hi all, roll call is still the same. Loads of dates with mr working away. We are both off the app’s. Going brill. Booked a long weekend for November. He brought up the conversation. No exclusivity was discussed. Still have my fwb, who I have not seen since said conversation, due to logistics. Usual for us to go a month without seeing each other. Fwb dates and knows I do too, but mr working away does not. It’s starting to feel a tab ingenious, and it’s time to cut fwb loose. Should I wait for the exclusivity chat? Or go with my gut? The coming off the apps conversation was a little clumsy.
Oooh tricky one. Hard to bring up that you've had FWB in the wings but equally you probably need to make sure you're not straying into the 'keeping secrets' territory
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BelladiMamma · 26/10/2021 23:09

@Eesha

Thanks for the new thread!

Well I never heard back from Mr Italian part 3 post a few pleasantries after the actual date. Its only my ego which is a bit bruised really. He did seem keen but actions speak louder than words.

Hmmm 🤔 but wasn't he the one who was hardly in touch? So he's just playing true to form ...
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Catcrazy83 · 26/10/2021 23:09

Yes I’m verging on telling fwb I’m seeing someone, stop seeing him and keep my trap shut.

Catcrazy83 · 26/10/2021 23:10

@BelladiMamma

BeardFlake: back to intense levels of texting and telling me how wonderful I am. Why did I text him? Probably just so I could tell him I was seeing someone. Yes. I know. Pathetic isn't it

Did you tell him he’d been replaced Grin

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BelladiMamma · 26/10/2021 23:11

@Catcrazy83

Yes I’m verging on telling fwb I’m seeing someone, stop seeing him and keep my trap shut.
Which is fine if there's been no major crossover, which there won't have been

I always prefer to let people know who I've slept with in my social circle once they start meeting my friends though ... not to make them jealous but to give them the same information as everyone else in the room

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BelladiMamma · 26/10/2021 23:12

[quote Catcrazy83]@BelladiMamma

BeardFlake: back to intense levels of texting and telling me how wonderful I am. Why did I text him? Probably just so I could tell him I was seeing someone. Yes. I know. Pathetic isn't it

Did you tell him he’d been replaced Grin[/quote]
Yes 😜

Even if I never see MrActor again he'll have served a purpose 🤣

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Catcrazy83 · 26/10/2021 23:13

@BelladiMamma they would never cross paths thankfully, my fwb isn’t in my social circle. No cross over since coming off the apps, still feels a tad secretive though

Isitreallyme177 · 26/10/2021 23:14

We know where I am with Mr Cricket. So I'm going to put my big girl pants on and be brave. Stop worrying about being a burden and think about the fact he wouldn't be here if he thought I was. He isn't doing the slow fade, he hasn't ghosted me and in fact he is being quite open and specific about the days he is working this week.

I haven't even told him I got to hold an bsrn owl, a kestrel and Harris Hawk and got stared out byba European owl or that I'm going to a trampoline Park in a couple of weeks (he will laugh at that one with a cheeky grin on his face, I'm not small chested 🤣). Why have I not told him any of that. That would be something to tell him.

Catcrazy83 · 26/10/2021 23:14

Good for you @BelladiMamma Grin

lovingnewme · 26/10/2021 23:15

Can I ask when chuffing season starts? Or has it started? It feels busier on the apps (although I've only been on them during Covid times so I'm not the best judge!)

Catcrazy83 · 26/10/2021 23:15

I think it started early this year, September for sure

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BelladiMamma · 26/10/2021 23:18

@Catcrazy83

Good for you *@BelladiMamma* Grin
He's literally just sent me a link to some land in Scotland and asked me if I want to move there with him. Jeez he doesn't hang around. I then reminded him that he flaked so planning on living together is probably not going anywhere...
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Catcrazy83 · 26/10/2021 23:22

@BelladiMamma arrh! Why can’t the nice ones show the dedication of getting what they want like the flakes

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BelladiMamma · 26/10/2021 23:27

[quote Catcrazy83]@BelladiMamma arrh! Why can’t the nice ones show the dedication of getting what they want like the flakes[/quote]
Idk 🤷🏻‍♀️ it's totally the wrong way round isn't it

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