Dating thread 216 ... spooky fun in cuffing season

[BelladiMamma]

Hi everyone

Can someone else please copy and paste the rules as my screenshot is crap 💩

@VanGoghsDog well done for sussing out

The "ethical non monogamous" is common on Feeld, and many say in their profile. But it's just not for me unless I've met them as a couple because I just assume it's all bullshit. All the "at least I was honest and told you, other men just lie" won't wash with me, I'm just not interested.

Though this guy didn't even claim ENM, he just said he and his wife are no longer intimate and only together for the kids. 🙄

Anyway, history.

Feeld - I don't have anything in my profile, but I'm not creative and I'm not looking for a creative person (they drive me loopy, sorry!) so obviously a different kettle of fish.

Brunch pancakes at a local cafe with MrStone tomorrow. Mustn't oversleep!

@VanGoghsDog

The "ethical non monogamous" is common on Feeld, and many say in their profile. But it's just not for me unless I've met them as a couple because I just assume it's all bullshit. All the "at least I was honest and told you, other men just lie" won't wash with me, I'm just not interested. Though this guy didn't even claim ENM, he just said he and his wife are no longer intimate and only together for the kids. 🙄

Anyway, history.

Feeld - I don't have anything in my profile, but I'm not creative and I'm not looking for a creative person (they drive me loopy, sorry!) so obviously a different kettle of fish.

Brunch pancakes at a local cafe with MrStone tomorrow. Mustn't oversleep!

Ugh I hate the 'ENM' thing. Too complicated.

And yes I steer them on to cultural chat pretty quickly because if we don't have that in common I've realised it rarely works! Even if we do they can still be twats 😂

Have a nice time tomorrow

@VanGoghsDog & @BelladiMamma

I've just had to Google ENM, never heard of it until now

This list is an education !

@pinkfondu @Onesmallstep67 of course I would be available to answer a distress call from a fellow threadie in Ireland if things went wrong! If you decide to come to him, I would let him book the flights at most if he wants and book and pay for your own hotel to keep some control. At least then you would have your own base to retreat to and meet him there or on neutral ground whichever feels more comfortable.
If you ended up binning him you’d still have a great weekend in Ireland on your own 😁

No irons, no fires, no dates, no chats, nil, Nadda, zippo zilch

Went to bed early last night feeling like crap, couldn’t sleep, thinking I have cold coming on, full day of ‘hobbying’ tomorrow, so will have to get dosed up for that.

Ms Wales send me the most filthy messages last night, that was an interesting read at 6am, certainly going to need to have my weetabix before our next meet up!

[quote MayEye]**@pinkfondu* @Onesmallstep67* of course I would be available to answer a distress call from a fellow threadie in Ireland if things went wrong! If you decide to come to him, I would let him book the flights at most if he wants and book and pay for your own hotel to keep some control. At least then you would have your own base to retreat to and meet him there or on neutral ground whichever feels more comfortable.
If you ended up binning him you’d still have a great weekend in Ireland on your own 😁[/quote]
Don't you have to share quite a bit of personal data to book flights?

Been a while since I flew anywhere, but I thought you had to provide full legal name, address and passport number.

Dates get my nickname rather than my legal name, and a vague area of where I live.

So I have my cinema date in with Mr Cricket on Tuesday, but boy does he go quiet sometimes. I know its only been 3 days and he did tell me he was working/training. But those 3 days feel like a week🤦‍♀️.

@Isitreallyme177 yay! Do you think youll approach whether he wants to progress things or are you happy just with meeting as friends?

How's everyone's weekend looking?

@FabulousMrFifty why isn't Miss Wales considered an iron to you? She sounds great fun and perhaps just what you need

I do not reccomend day drinking then going on a date. Absolutely no spark last night but have something lined up with new iron for Tuesday will see how that disaster goes.

@Eesha the brave me would like to know what he thinks and wants but the chicken me is happy to see where it goes naturally. I know in waiting to see how things go naturally I risk losing him to someone else but if that's the case it obviously isn't meant to be.

As for my weekend, I'm off shopping with mother dearest and then lunch (I drive and pay for parking she buys lunch) then the afternoon will be spent watching the rugby and possibly a gym session, then tomorrow I'll do housework and wait around for my sky engineer and then do a gym session.

Have you got much planned for your weekend?

@FabulousMrFifty what @Eesha said. It seems like you could have a nice time with her?

@Isitreallyme177 you know me, feet first but that's cos I prefer to live life recklessly 🤣😜

@Dazedandconfused10 sorry that didn't work out. Gah!

@Eesha had the most amazing night out last night. God I needed to see my friends. It was brilliant 🤩 now it's all chauffeuring the teens, snatched overnight trip with MrA and then more chauffeuring. Trying to ignore the bitchy emails and crap behaviour of my ex alongside it all! What about you?

Well mr working away is now mrW, off the apps and official. I let my Fwb know so all is well with that, past the dreaded 3 month mark. But we only see each other 2/3 times a week so still early days. He is probably the most reliable and consistent man I’ve dated which I’m absolutely loving at the mo.

Is mrs wales not an iron b’cos of the distance @FabulousMrFifty ? Personally after how ever long on OLD a decent one with good sex, even if I can’t see often Is like gold dust. Especially if the contact and enthusiasm is good.

@Isitreallyme177 I am shocked you’re still tolerating mr cricket, not even so much as responding to a tx for 3 days & then gettin giddy to go to the pictures with him. That man is the definition of ‘breadcrumb’. Why do you accept so little from him?

@Catcrazy83

Well mr working away is now mrW, off the apps and official. I let my Fwb know so all is well with that, past the dreaded 3 month mark. But we only see each other 2/3 times a week so still early days. He is probably the most reliable and consistent man I’ve dated which I’m absolutely loving at the mo.

Is mrs wales not an iron b’cos of the distance @FabulousMrFifty ? Personally after how ever long on OLD a decent one with good sex, even if I can’t see often Is like gold dust. Especially if the contact and enthusiasm is good.

@Isitreallyme177 I am shocked you’re still tolerating mr cricket, not even so much as responding to a tx for 3 days & then gettin giddy to go to the pictures with him. That man is the definition of ‘breadcrumb’. Why do you accept so little from him?

Congratulations 🎉

@BelladiMamma, @Eesha, @Catcrazy83
Don’t get me wrong, Ms Wales was great fun indeed 😜, turns out she likes sex a lot and likes a lot of sex .. , and she has put on a bit of weight recently ( I like curvy ladies 😄), so no complaints in that dept, what so ever..

But she is 120 miles away with one teen at Uni and one still at home, so any visit is going to be a 240 or mile round trip for either of us and child care has to factored in etc
So we can’t exactly hook up on a damp Wednesday night for an evening meal or pop out to the pictures very easily, so seeing each other once a month or even less might not really work out, but we plans are in place for me to visit her, buy maybe not for a month yet, but to stuff at her end and stuff at my end.
So we shall see, but she is great fun ( and surprisingly flexible ☺️ )

I’m so sorry that’s just stuffed full of typos, I really need to put my reading glasses on.

Thanks @BelladiMamma, now is the hard part. I always think I want a real grown up type relationship, then the Inner commitment phobe makes an appearance

I would say by definition Ms Wales is an iron, Fabulous whatever the distance. Even if there's no future, there's a connection, there's chats, there's the possibility of occasional sex. There's an actual person! That's a lot more than nothing. Could you not meet halfway? 60-odd miles each way doesn't sound so bad?

Re Mr Cricket, catcrazy, I believe Isitreally has agreed to friendship and not told him she wants more. So I would say his behaviour is completely acceptable as a friend. And you could argue that Isitreally is pinning all her hopes and dreams on this man while not revealing to him how she really feels, thereby setting herself up for a crushing heartbreak when he sticks to what he's said, treats her as a friend and tells her about a woman he's meet and fallen for. And he may then be utterly bewildered when she breaks as he didn't know. My mantra is to go by their words, not their actions; I think we have seen this borne out on the thread before. Or maybe I'm naive and he knows and is using her. Who knows. I just want Isitreally to be ok and I don't think I've said anything here I haven't 'said' to her virtual 'face' before 😅

'met' not 'meet' obvs...

@Eesha this weekend, today Saturday, I have a date with Ms Sainsburys, she can be a cruel mistress at times which may be followed up with a quickie with Ms M&S, Ms M&S has recently moved close to Ms Sainsburys so juggling the two is a lot easier

I have a Sunday lunchtime coffee date zero with Ms Sunglasses, will update in due course

I’d say optimistic rather than naive @WeWantTheFinestWines 😂. I totally agree with you regarding ‘hear what they say’ and believe them

Keeping feet on the ground here as just checked on Feeld and MrA the rotter was on there this morning!!

Again could be me being optimistic @BelladiMamma, but he could be checking…. Same as you are. Definitely look after your self though. What goes up, must come down and the all consuming type of meets are the worst come downs