Dating thread 216 ... spooky fun in cuffing season

[BelladiMamma]

Hi everyone

Can someone else please copy and paste the rules as my screenshot is crap 💩

@Catcrazy83

Again could be me being optimistic *@BelladiMamma*, but he could be checking…. Same as you are. Definitely look after your self though. What goes up, must come down and the all consuming type of meets are the worst come downs

We've both told each other we are still on it so it's not a massive surprise tbh

I hear you about the all consuming meets!

I'm cool 😎 about where we are, for the moment. I'm also not scared to tell him that he's my priority dating wise at the moment as honestly I've not met anyone as fun and interesting and that comes in such a gorgeous package for a long time! But he's a hot, (slightly) younger man, and he might prefer a different physical type to me. I don't really know where his head is at sexually in terms of needing to play the field etc after his break up either. So I'm just going to keep being myself and then come on here for tea 🫖 and sympathy 💐 if it all falls apart 🤷🏻‍♀️

I had a lovely night with Mr Beard last night. We went for a meal, did one of our shared hobbies, watched some Netflix, had lots of sex He has one of the most amazing bodies I’ve ever seen, well built and huggable. The only downside of that is that I feel very self conscious about my mum bod, it’s hard coming to terms with the effect two kids has had on it.

@Stayingstrongish

I had a lovely night with Mr Beard last night. We went for a meal, did one of our shared hobbies, watched some Netflix, had lots of sex He has one of the most amazing bodies I’ve ever seen, well built and huggable. The only downside of that is that I feel very self conscious about my mum bod, it’s hard coming to terms with the effect two kids has had on it.

Honestly, it really really doesn’t matter, ms Wales has has two kids and makes absolutely no difference, the sex is bloody terrific

And of the fact that I’m built like Mr Universe might have something to do with of course….

@Stayingstrongish

I had a lovely night with Mr Beard last night. We went for a meal, did one of our shared hobbies, watched some Netflix, had lots of sex He has one of the most amazing bodies I’ve ever seen, well built and huggable. The only downside of that is that I feel very self conscious about my mum bod, it’s hard coming to terms with the effect two kids has had on it.

What @FabulousMrFifty said. If the connection is good and the sex is too ... there isn't really much to question is there? ♥️

Just to add to the above, what most men want is someone who is happy and confident and actually wants to be with them, your size and shape doesn’t really matter..

And Mr Cagey cancels again ahead of rearranged meet tomorrow. That’s 2 strikes. Arse. Need to resurrect some other irons but not feeling it 😬

@FabulousMrFifty

Just to add to the above, what most men want is someone who is happy and confident and actually wants to be with them, your size and shape doesn’t really matter..

This ☝️

Well I’m slightly befuddled by my iron, ms dualfudge. Has dropped off the radar the last week or so. Was supposed to chat the other day but didn’t happen due to a mix up. Message next day to say she’d be in contact yesterday but nothing since.

Down with flakes!

So sorry some of you are having to deal with that

New thread since we're filling up fast..
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/4394480-Dating-Thread-217-Is-it-burning-bright-or-fizzling-out

@FabulousMrFifty @BelladiMamma thanks so much for reassuring me, I lack confidence sometimes :)

@WeWantTheFinestWines

I would say by definition Ms Wales is an iron, Fabulous whatever the distance. Even if there's no future, there's a connection, there's chats, there's the possibility of occasional sex. There's an actual person! That's a lot more than nothing. Could you not meet halfway? 60-odd miles each way doesn't sound so bad?

Re Mr Cricket, catcrazy, I believe Isitreally has agreed to friendship and not told him she wants more. So I would say his behaviour is completely acceptable as a friend. And you could argue that Isitreally is pinning all her hopes and dreams on this man while not revealing to him how she really feels, thereby setting herself up for a crushing heartbreak when he sticks to what he's said, treats her as a friend and tells her about a woman he's meet and fallen for. And he may then be utterly bewildered when she breaks as he didn't know. My mantra is to go by their words, not their actions; I think we have seen this borne out on the thread before. Or maybe I'm naive and he knows and is using her. Who knows. I just want Isitreally to be ok and I don't think I've said anything here I haven't 'said' to her virtual 'face' before 😅

@WeWantTheFinestWines there is a lot going on in his life that i have not mentioned on here. That is why I have no problem with his communication style or his just friends comment from 6 months ago. I also know what we are like and how things are when we are together. I know he could find someone else but I also know that he is not in a place to date not just me but anyone right now. That has come from his own mouth in a conversation we had back in August (I think) and considering what is going on and the fact he was sat opposite me I believe its not just bollocks to put me off. He also messages just as much as me and suggested things just as much as I have, in fact his comment was when he moves it will be easier to see each other as he will be nearer. The messages this week have been minimal as I've been busy and he's been busy, he moves in 3 weeks. I've also been feeling shit about things at work and back stabbing colleagues so didn't really want to bring that into our messages as it is something for me to deal with so I've kept myself to myself.

Sorry you're having a bad time at work Isitreally, it really affects the whole of your life when things are toxic there. And only you know you and only you know Mr Cricket and what you have. You know what you're doing, you're nobody's fool and you always have a lovely time with him and the feeling is clearly mutual. I hope things calm down for both of you and that you can spend more time together.