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Match on Bumble, red flags?

168 replies

Wolfie11 · 13/10/2021 10:12

I’m new to the dating game and recently downloaded Bumble. I’ve never done online dating before or anything and have pretty much been in a relationship since I became an adult so my radar might be a bit off!

I matched with someone yesterday who I’ve got a lot in common with. We messaged back and forth most of yesterday, I gave him my number and we sent voice notes etc but some of the things he has said have put me off him slightly. For example:

• He said that he would give me a ‘silver star’ as usually most girls don’t get this far with him in the talking stage Confused.

• He asked what are my best and worst physical attributes. I said my legs and bum are my best, he then said he’d been on my Instagram and couldn’t find any photos of my bum and asked for one. I sent him a fully clothed photo at a party where you can see my figure. He replied with a voice note saying he was disappointed and that wasn’t the kind of photo he was looking for and I was going down in his estimation to a bronze star. I told him if I was going to send photos of my ass to strangers I would do it on only fans and at least get paid for it! He stopped then.

• Chat was normal again, it was getting late so said goodnight and he said “top tip for you, I like cute morning texts” and “strong first day”.

I haven’t sent a morning text. Does anyone else have an opinion on the above? It’s annoying because I do actually quite like him and we have a lot in common but these comments have put me off. Not sure if I’m being unfair with that though!

OP posts:
Worldwide2 · 13/10/2021 11:50

He sounds like a wanker!

IsThePopeCatholic · 13/10/2021 11:50

You can not be serious! Dump.

TeachesOfPeaches · 13/10/2021 11:51

Ask him for a dick pic. Once received, explain you found it very disappointing Sad

JudgementalCactus · 13/10/2021 11:51

🤮🤮🤮

He must think he's god's gift to women and you should thank your lucky stars he's gracing you with his time. He want you to audition for him and if you indulge him he'll probably use you for sex and then ghost you.

Scummy narcissistic fucker!

Jenhen89 · 13/10/2021 11:52

What a patronising little shit.

goinggently · 13/10/2021 11:53

Sounds like a gold star twat to me.

DowntonCrabby · 13/10/2021 11:55

Absolutely fucking nope.
At your first point I’d have rolled my eyes, didn’t read beyond second as just no.

LaBellina · 13/10/2021 11:56

He sounds like a misogynistic entitled cunt.
Bin him.

Owlink · 13/10/2021 11:57

Eww what a revolting little shit. Bin the wanker.

Bookworm20 · 13/10/2021 11:57

I'm with everyone else.

I'd text him and say heres your cute morning text and attach a picture of a kitten.
Followed shortly by 'I've decided you haven't quite made bronze star criteria so its a no from me'
Block and move on.

selflove · 13/10/2021 11:59

@TeachesOfPeaches

Ask him for a dick pic. Once received, explain you found it very disappointing Sad
YESSSS. I like this one. Ask for dick pic. Then once you get it, block and delete him.
Feelingparanoid · 13/10/2021 12:00

Entitled prick. Have no more to do with it.

rbe78 · 13/10/2021 12:00

Massive eeeeeew. I thought Bumble was suppsoed to be a bit more respectful?

Abouttoblow · 13/10/2021 12:01

Go back and tell him he didn't make the cut to progress to the next round.

safefacespace · 13/10/2021 12:01

We

safefacespace · 13/10/2021 12:01

I meant ew

Agapornis · 13/10/2021 12:06

Block, unmatch, report to Bumble.
I don't send photos and any chat about body parts or things I should be doing to please someone is a straight unmatch and report.

toastfiend · 13/10/2021 12:10

🤮 He gets no stars, he sounds like an absolute twat. Throw him back into the pond he came from.

OutwiththeOutCrowd · 13/10/2021 12:11

I'm afraid he sounds like a primary school teacher gone bad.

again2020 · 13/10/2021 12:13

Entitled arsehole, made me feel sick! And I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt. Bin him off, OP.

Journeyofthedragons · 13/10/2021 12:16

2005 called, they want their PUA back.

Tomatobear · 13/10/2021 12:16

Ew, it's no wonder noone talks to him.

NCForthisxox · 13/10/2021 12:17

He sounds very entitled block him

sarahc336 · 13/10/2021 12:18

Run op he's not a catch at all xx

GroggyLegs · 13/10/2021 12:18

Honest to God, what are you liking here?

Why the fuck is he 'rating' another human being, openly?!
Why are you accepting him doing that?

He sounds a massive twat.

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