Match on Bumble, red flags?

[Wolfie11]

I’m new to the dating game and recently downloaded Bumble. I’ve never done online dating before or anything and have pretty much been in a relationship since I became an adult so my radar might be a bit off!

I matched with someone yesterday who I’ve got a lot in common with. We messaged back and forth most of yesterday, I gave him my number and we sent voice notes etc but some of the things he has said have put me off him slightly. For example:

• He said that he would give me a ‘silver star’ as usually most girls don’t get this far with him in the talking stage .

• He asked what are my best and worst physical attributes. I said my legs and bum are my best, he then said he’d been on my Instagram and couldn’t find any photos of my bum and asked for one. I sent him a fully clothed photo at a party where you can see my figure. He replied with a voice note saying he was disappointed and that wasn’t the kind of photo he was looking for and I was going down in his estimation to a bronze star. I told him if I was going to send photos of my ass to strangers I would do it on only fans and at least get paid for it! He stopped then.

• Chat was normal again, it was getting late so said goodnight and he said “top tip for you, I like cute morning texts” and “strong first day”.

I haven’t sent a morning text. Does anyone else have an opinion on the above? It’s annoying because I do actually quite like him and we have a lot in common but these comments have put me off. Not sure if I’m being unfair with that though!

OMG I’m staying single forever! That is just grim OP. He’s a self entitled knobhead. Get rid.

The first comment would have been enough for me to block him. He sounds awful.

Eww. Block, delete & move on - creepy as fuck, chuck that one straight back in the sea! Perhaps after pointing out to him that men who hand out ‘silver stars’ for good behaviour as if the grown woman they are talking to is a child with a sticker chart is all kinds of wrong! Relationships should be based on mutual respect, making each other laugh, emotional connection - absolutely not on whether he thinks you’ve been a ‘good girl’, that’s so grim.

Good grief you've a lot to learn about what you find on OLD.

You un-match at the first sign of any slightly sleazy sex-talky behaviour or undertones.

Never explain, never apologize and never continue to engage once you have seen the above.

Just simply click un-match without a single word.

Lol @outside bin @arrangeyourface I’m using that line

Agree just block and delete everywhere.

Guys like this try to target women who are new to online dating so they can take advantage and play bizarre control games.

Top tip - he may actually then try to get back in touch, act all vulnerable, apologise, claim he was just behaving that way as he liked you so much .

Do NOT respond to this, he’s just a wrong one and bad full stop.

Urgh bin ,and do it fast .

Yuk. Block and move on.

Oh God, he sounds fucking awful. Honestly if you can't see that you should reassess whether online dating is for you

Bin.

But agree with the others, it’s very quick to give out your phone number after one day, let alone give out your Instagram too!

Strangers can find out a lot of information with those, be careful and tread carefully in the dating game with what info you give out to who

He's grading you, he's not looking for a long haul relationship, block him and move on.

Disgusting pig OP!!! Please get streetwise fast on online dating. If youre looking for a relationship and the guy goes straight to nudes or sex-talk, get out immediately.
Plus the stars, and the rest - horrible horrible man. Ugh

I would happily message "fuck this silver bronze marking shit"

What an utter entitled creep.

Sounds like hard work. Unmatch

Somewhat off the point, but connected to what OP said about having things in common: One guy I was emailing on OLD said you don't really get the measure of someone from the things people like because, with minor variations, everyone likes country walks, holidays, quiet nights in with glass of wine blah blah blah. In his view, you can tell more about someone by the thinks that they hate/ get up their noses. Being a curmudgeon I also subscribe to that theory.

I give it 2 days before the request for a nude comes through. Block and move on OP.

"Top tip for you"?!

He sounds like an absolute wanker. Next.

He's playing with you and thinks online dating is a game. He clearly wanted nude photos and giving you "scores" is an absolute turn off.
I'd simply unmatch and send him a message saying you've decided he's not the guy for you. If he continues to pester THEN block him.

Don't let this put you off trying online dating - it can be fun - but you do need to have your spidey senses on full alert. If any behaviour seems off to you just un-match and move on. There are some decent guys on there too - it just may take a few attempts to find them. Take your time before giving out your personal number.

Ugh. As everyone else has said he’s a tool.

The ‘grading’ you is fucking creepy to be honest. He’s playing with you. I’d block him.

Christ. What a dickhead. Block.

He wants to start sexting and may also be putting feelers out to see if you’re a ‘sub’. Bin him (if you’re after a proper see-how-it-goes relationship).

He sounds like a gold-plated knob-jockey!

As everyone else has said, bin the twat off.

OLD is a cesspit in my experience. I'm happily celibate!

Definitely block.

He's so transparently a dick.

Do you have to ask?! 🤢🤮