Why did you leave your ok enough marriage?

[Passingships]

For people in ok enough marriages where there was no abuse or cheating, why did you leave? Unhappy and I expected more from marriage and life but is it bad enough to leave I don’t know.

I’m leaving that’s all I can say now.

@MMmomDD

I've been on medication for the last few years and also had therapy. I had been feeling a lot better over the last 2 years. I have had a bit of a flare recently however I think that it's caused by being peri menopausal. It's a bit of a catch 22 knowing what came first. I'm hoping that once I can get the peri symptoms under control that I will feel more myself and can then go from there with how I feel.

Another one here who is questioning how much the peri-menopause is influencing how I really feel. Sadly, it's like my rose tinted glasses have come off and I see things now in a different light. Secretly watching Porn (husband) hasn't helped things. Differences in values have been highlighted. Differences I used to think were a positive now don't appear to be.

@mrmonkeyjocks

I am sorry. It does seem like we can’t catch a break. Pregnancies, babies, hormones up and down, PND, years of dealing with small kids. And then when we finally come up for air as kids grow up a bit - peri menopause.
I am now a the age where it is all around.
It can be brutal. And challenging both mental health wise as well as physically.
Hyper-libido, no libido, body changes….
And yes - it many of us become a lot less tolerant and a lot less agreeable, where we may have been previously.
I have heard a theory that it’s because once we are done with childbearing we don’t need to hang on to and keep a partner.

So - yes. Do speak to your doctors and figure out the best way for you. What it started happening to me - I was a mess. Emotions all over the place - like PMS on steroids. And physically drained all the time. I thought something was seriously wrong.

@snugglebum20 I think this is way short of ‘ok’ ! You arent being selfish- sounds like you have put up with selfish behaviour for a very long time. Xo

Today our cleaner heard him yet again speak to me as if I was dirt, he’s told me “if it was my mother I’d be telling her to leave, I’ve seen you go downhill the last 18 months”. I’ve a chance of happiness I’m taking it.