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[buttercup1001]

Hi my partner of 2/3 years put his hands round my throat 3 weeks ago couldn't breathe for about 15 seconds and he let go.ive since had trouble/ pain in my throat and heartburn alot plus I have become forgettable can these symptoms be due to this or would the symptoms have dissapeared by now?

I hope to god social services get involved and her little boy is removed from this nightmare. You read about these vile women who put men before their children, but actually seeing one justifying their actions is sickening - reading this I really don't think OP is safe to be in charge of a child. Let's face it, she's probably going to end up as a statistic sooner rather than later, we can only hope her son doesn't too. Pages and pages of gently encouraging her to leave this monster mean nothing, it's obvious that she cares more about her boyfriend than she does about her child. The harsh reality is that some women are beyond help and don't deserve to be mothers.

@Inthesameboatatmo

God I hope shes ok ,I've never checked a thread so much for updates as this one

Me too!!

@pascheretloire

I hope to god social services get involved and her little boy is removed from this nightmare. You read about these vile women who put men before their children, but actually seeing one justifying their actions is sickening - reading this I really don't think OP is safe to be in charge of a child. Let's face it, she's probably going to end up as a statistic sooner rather than later, we can only hope her son doesn't too. Pages and pages of gently encouraging her to leave this monster mean nothing, it's obvious that she cares more about her boyfriend than she does about her child. The harsh reality is that some women are beyond help and don't deserve to be mothers.

I never excuse it, but can understand how this happens. But, the little part of you that knows right from wrong etc, would or should act accordingly!

I have a feeling we will never know the outcome of this

This is just terrifying, are you there OP?

She said he saw her typing on her phone the other day, he could have snapped and grabbed it off her and broken it. I don’t like to think of other worse possibilities

@Cleverpolly3

I have a feeling we will never know the outcome of this

I know this is my thoughts exactly!!

I’d love to be wrong @Redruby2020

I think we would have had an update if OP was at her mums. Really, really hope you're safe.

I really hope you are safe and have managed to get away from this man. Please talk to whoever will listen... Women's aid, police, friends, doctor, family, neighbours... Anyone who can possibly help.

I have a really bad feeling about this one.

Hoping OP comes back today.

@ElspethFlashman
I actually hope it was all a load of lies and she just got bored
Nobody wants to think of anyone living this way.

(And never ever EVER offer money to anyone!)

@ ElspethFlashman
100% agree

I used to be a listener at a voluntary service - many made some fantastic and disturbing stories up that you would find hard to believe - I tended to think they probably needed help as much as the genuine callers but you can’t provide it that easily. But it’s not just t’net that is responsible for the opportunity and phenomenon.

@Cleverpolly3 - I think so, something specific ‘jarred’ further back and triggered a recollection of a call I took - I tend to hope it isn’t all true for the OP’s sake, and the family’s, but whichever it is, I hope they seek help.

Hello all I have had no WiFi .sad people think I have made this up.i went to the drs on Friday and they took swabs just awaiting results now he come because he started saying why can't I come he thinks I'm seeing someone round my area I'm just trying my best to get it sorted without authorities being involved my son had a Lovely report from the teacher Friday when I picked him up about his reading he is doing so well I just don't want the spicla services putting in a report due to my partner because he's doing so well right now.

@buttercup1001 did you get the Dr to check out your neck pain and heartburn problems after your bf strangled you while you were there ?

So you've still not done anything about the situation then .

I don’t think anyone wanted to believe you’d made it up
As you can see quite a few people have been concerned about you over the weekend especially given the posts you left before then.

Did you speak to the GP about him hurting your neck?

As for not getting anyone involved, I think you need to understand that there will never be a good ending to this with him. He will react badly and probably violently. The police will get involved and because you have a child it will be immediately flagged up to social services and probably a MARAC held and your contact with him reviewed. Quite possibly in a CPP.

If you are proactive and seek help to get him out of your life now it will reflect so much better on you.
You are too vulnerable to do this alone