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[buttercup1001]

Hi my partner of 2/3 years put his hands round my throat 3 weeks ago couldn't breathe for about 15 seconds and he let go.ive since had trouble/ pain in my throat and heartburn alot plus I have become forgettable can these symptoms be due to this or would the symptoms have dissapeared by now?

Well done op we are all here rooting for you, you can do this hunny x

@MsJinks

Just go into the school and don’t come out - it can all be sorted from there. I’m not sure if you’re at the docs or just booking the docs, I honestly think either can wait - you have one shot. I’m not sure if you mixed your times up but looks like your son turns up before your guy leaves - not ideal, but you know that. Of course his paranoia is high, drugs don’t help this even if not taken with you, but mainly he’ll be able to ‘sniff’ you pulling away from him - we can all do that - trouble is it’s very dangerous when a violent person thinks their partner is leaving. Honestly, you need to go to the head at school and tell them today - get moved safely with professional support today. That is number one priority and other stuff will fall into place afterwards.

Yes I noticed the bit about times, hoping it was an error 🤔

Ask to speak to the Head or Deputy when you go to school this morning buttercup 1001. Please tell them that at 8.30pm last night you were locked in your flat and thought you were going to be beaten to death, that in the past he has strangled you and threatened to harm your son. That he has been imprisoned for battering a child.

Tell them that he is hanging around outside in the town watching your movements, watching who you are talking to, waiting for you, constantly trying to surprise you so that you can never relax.

It was brave of you to post on here asking for help. I think you are starting to realise just how far from normal he and his behaviour is. You are realising that your dream of making him into a family man is just that, a dream. This person is so damaged he is really not much use to anyone I'm afraid.

Last night we could all feel your fear. There are so many other ways to live buttercup1001

Not read every reply, but please the minute you can do so walk out and go straight to the police. If you can't get to them walk into school and ask that they ring the police. DO NOT go home. Even if you lose everything you have materially you will have your life.

Have you told anyone anything or are you back in your house with him terrorising you again?

Hope you have taken the first step as it’s the weekend tomorrow and you will face 48 hours of his abuse which is clearly about to spill over

Are you ok OP?

Hope you are ok op

Only it hasn't ?

Post not hidden.

Didn't notice it hidden at any point.
Let's just hope that the silence means that OP has sought some help!!

Doesn't look like someone from actual MNHQ has hidden it.

Checking back in as worried about OP.

I am genuinely vacillating between fury and wanting to give you a hug, OP. I don’t want to believe this is real. But I suspect that’s because your comments and reactions throughout this entire thread are completely at odds with my very privileged understanding of the world and how people behave.

You need to call the police. This must be glaringly obvious to you at this point. Are you going to do it, or are you going to be a woman we see on the news? Yet another woman murdered by her partner?

Please don’t become a statistic. Please.

As per MNHQ policy, it's really better if people keep their doubts to themselves on a thread - if you're wrong or throw shade that puts people off from posting, it potentially affects someone very vulnerable.

If you're right, so bloody what? No-one is actually losing anything posting here. No-one is forcing any one of us to read or post on any thread, we do it in our downtime because we get something out of it. How much emotional investment you put into it is an adult decision of your own to make.

OP, you can use 999 and then dial 55 so you get put through to someone who will just ask yes & no questions, if you're in danger and can't talk much. www.policeconduct.gov.uk/sites/default/files/Documents/research-learning/Silent_solution_guide.pdf

@category12 I have no doubts about ops creditability, I'm more concerned she was being bullied on other platforms. As such I think the platform should be challanged for allowing harassment.

So report it to the other platform then? What's it got to do with MNHQ?

[quote category12]OP, you can use 999 and then dial 55 so you get put through to someone who will just ask yes & no questions, if you're in danger and can't talk much. www.policeconduct.gov.uk/sites/default/files/Documents/research-learning/Silent_solution_guide.pdf[/quote]
I suggested this several pages back too

Hope she’s ok

I don't understand what happened, what is the other platform that is being talked about? Anyway I just hope that the silence means OP has sorted something out 🤞

I really hope you're OK x

God I hope shes ok ,I've never checked a thread so much for updates as this one