Be honest. If a man expected you...

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to split the bill on a first date would it put you off?

Nope. I’d feel relieved.

Yes, although i expect I’ll be in the minority

Nope, I'd expect to pay my half.

It probably would have done, but having said that I have been married for 27years! So probably behind the times.

It wouldn't put me off but offering to treat me would be a point in his favour (even though I'd probably decline!!)

No.

I'm more put off by the chest beating insistence that they pay.

Nope, I would be furious if he expected/insisted on paying.

Not at all - I would expect to split it.

No, assuming you'd met online (99% of my first dates) I'd assume 50:50.

Depends how he expressed it even though I would expect to pay my share.

Not at all. I’d probably have already suggested it though. Why would it be off putting unless you lived in the dark ages and thought men should pay for women.

I can think of very few times in my 42 years where a man has paid for my meal so I'd expect 50/50

I'd say that is the norm, splitting bill? I've always done that unless it is a birthday treat or something

No, of course not. It’s not the 1950’s and I don’t need a man to pay for me. I have my own money. My DP and I usually take it in turns. I suggested splitting the bill before our first date so it wouldn’t be weird when we met.

Quite the opposite. We can't ask for equality and expect men to pay for everything. It also means there is less pressure on the date, and less sense of obligation to agree to further dates as money can complicated issues.

I would offer or else, if it looked as though we were going to see each other again, I'd say I'll pay next time.

I know it’s frowned upon nowadays to expect a man to pay, but I would actually expect the man to pay for the first date. But only if I plan to see him again. If I had no interest in a second date then I’d insist on at least splitting the bill.

It wouldn't put me off I don't think, but if someone had asked me on a date I would be flattered if they wanted to treat me. I haven't been on a date this century though, so I'm not in touch with modern dating etiquette.

I’d want him to offer to pay for it but for my suggestion to split it to be fairly quickly accepted.

No, that would be fine.

Of course not. I’d prefer it.

@SukonthaM

I know it’s frowned upon nowadays to expect a man to pay, but I would actually expect the man to pay for the first date. But only if I plan to see him again. If I had no interest in a second date then I’d insist on at least splitting the bill.

What is the reason you would expect a man to pay?

No. On a first date I would have no expectations. And by paying my half he has no room to have "expectations" either.
Just out of interest, how does "the man should pay" mindset work if it's 2 men on a date, or 2 women?

Nope, it's outdated to expect the man to pay. It's also a often linked to the sexist and dangerous notion of the man is owed something because he paid on a date.

I'd fully expect a fair split, no one 'owes' anything or ends up resentful because they're always paying. Obviously either partner treating the other is fine but certainly not an expectation that one partner always foots the bill because they happen to have a penis.

Caveat being I'd also expect the location to be affordable for both- it's not reasonable to take someone to a restaurant out of their budget and expect them to pay half without warning.

Honestly.. yes. Im old school