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Partner arguing with my daughter over food

203 replies

silverspider · 28/08/2021 15:19

I'm not sure why I'm posting on here, I think it's because I've had enough but just need to make sure I'm not over reacting.

My partner of 3 years has just had an argument with my daughter (she's 16) over her eating the one packet of melon in the fridge. He doesn't live here (stays a couple of nights a week) and doesn't contribute towards my shopping (I don't expect him too).

He accused her of being selfish as he fancied some of the melon. Im not being funny but he doesn't have any right to demand she leave some for him, surely? He's never 'horrible' to my daughter but his sense of entitlement around my house appears to be getting worse.

Minor problem I know, but someone please tell me he's taking the mick here?!

OP posts:
Wolfiefan · 28/08/2021 15:21

Did he buy it? Was it bought to share by all?
Or is he being a cheeky fucker?

ElspethFlashman · 28/08/2021 15:21

Your poor daughter. I actually hope she told him to fuck off.

Somebody needs to.

loopylindi · 28/08/2021 15:23

If he doesn't contribute he has no rights to say who can eat what. If he 'fancied a piece' he could buy some and bring it with him next time. Cheeky f...r

HellonHeels · 28/08/2021 15:24

That's a dumping offence.

pickingdaisies · 28/08/2021 15:24

Yes he's absolutely being an entitled arse. If he wants to eat melon round yours he should be bloody well bringing some with him, cheeky sod. No not cheeky, not when he thinks he can talk like that to your DD. That's way over the line.

Indigomint · 28/08/2021 15:24

He's taking the piss.

Lweji · 28/08/2021 15:25

Assuming you aren't ready to send this man packing, I'd be telling him to buy his own.

PurpleDaisies · 28/08/2021 15:25

If he didn’t buy it, he was out of order. He should have spoken to you if he had a problem so you could have told him he was being ridiculous.

Aquamarine1029 · 28/08/2021 15:25

I honestly can't believe you didn't tell this arsehole to get out of your house. He's a prick and a freeloader.

nimbuscloud · 28/08/2021 15:26

Tell him to fuck off

CuriousaboutSamphire · 28/08/2021 15:26

Ooh! So what's yours is his, is it? Sound extremely selfish, entitled and twatish to me.

I hope you and DD told him to wind his neck in.

Indigomint · 28/08/2021 15:26

If he's like this now , imagine what he'll be like if he moves in and/or is contributing to the food bill.

YouJustDoYou · 28/08/2021 15:26

Well he can fuck right off.

TheChip · 28/08/2021 15:27

What a dick.

Original poster
silverspider · 28/08/2021 15:27

To clarify, no he didn't buy it. I did as my daughter loves melon.

I ended up having an argument with him afterwards about it as I'm not having that.

He is usually very nice to my daughter, but as I said previously his sense of entitlement around my house seems to be getting worse. I just needed to ask others as he made me feel like I was massively over reacting.

OP posts:
YouJustDoYou · 28/08/2021 15:27

If he's like this now , imagine what he'll be like if he moves in and/or is contributing to the food bill

Jesus, this, in spades ^

MrsRobbieHart · 28/08/2021 15:27

“What are you playing? Confused this isn’t your house. You don’t pay for any food. You don’t get to call dibs on anything that’s here. I buy all the food for me and my daughter. You have your own house to have melon in if you want. Apologise to DD right now.”

PlanDeRaccordement · 28/08/2021 15:27

He owes her an apology for saying that. Even if he were your DH and her biological father and had bought the shopping himself, that’s just a mean thing to say to someone. Food is there for the taking. If you miss out because someone’s got to it first, then that’s just the way life is. If you buy something specially for yourself, then you put a note on it or ask everyone in the house “hey I bought a chocolate croissant as an afternoon treat for myself, please don’t eat it.” It’s not hard. Completely unacceptable to call someone selfish for having food in their own home.

Classica · 28/08/2021 15:28

Must be very trying for teenage kids when a parent has a spoilt brat partner flexing about the place.

mistermagpie · 28/08/2021 15:28

Yeah, no, forget that!!

It's your house, your daughter and your bloody melon. If he fancied some he can ask but he has no right to the food in the house and certainly no right to have a go at your daughter for eating it!

katemuff · 28/08/2021 15:29

I'd give him a proper "Who the fuck do you think you are?" bollocking and unless he sees sense, apologises and changes his attitude I'd get rid. Your poor DD. Surely you bought the fucking melon to give her a healthy snack - not some twatty man who cba to feed himself or make any contribution.

SunbathingDragon · 28/08/2021 15:29

@HellonHeels

That's a dumping offence.
Agreed.
BringOnTheOtherWorlders · 28/08/2021 15:30

Well, that's a totally unappealing trait in a man. I'd get rid of him.

SoundAndVisions · 28/08/2021 15:30

Oh god, something about this really doesn’t sit right with me. I’d struggle to see past it tbh. He doesn’t live with you and he doesn’t contribute to bills, he has no right to shout at your DD for eating food in her own home!!

Tealwarrior · 28/08/2021 15:30

Jeezo Op, you need to get rid of this guy. He can always find another partner and as many bags of melon as he wants but your DD will never have another mum.