Dating Thread 211 - heading into to Autumn fueled by possibilities

[Dancerinthemoonlight]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

My goodness we fill these threads quickly 😁

Checking in ❤️

Thanks for the new thread, @Dancer! 😘😘

Checking on. Thanks @Dancerinthemoonlight

Yay new thread thanks Dancer

Checking in

Waa hoo for possibilities!!
Nice one @Dancerinthemoonlight 💃🌛

Thanks for the new thread dancer

@Isitreallyme177 I rejoined a gym recently because I got so bored of exercising at home. It’s so much more fun having it to go to and checking all the freekin hotties at the weights 😂😏

So agree with your last post @SpringlikeBunk. I’m so glad but also sad at all the knowledge I’ve gained from online dating. Its depressing but very useful knowledge to have…

Thanks for the new thread @Dancerinthemoonlight 😁

Latest from me...

Date zero with Mr Eclectic this Monday.

Date zero with Mr Slowtexter a week on Saturday. Mr Slowtexter has proved surprisingly proactive - he's the only guy I've come across so far who has actually asked me to meet!

He's also offered to come to my area rather than meet in the middle as others have.

And we have a shared interest, something I want to spend more time doing as it brings me a lot of joy and makes me feel more "me" if that makes sense? Sorry to be vague, just don't want to be too outing.

And finally Mr Breadcrumbs is back. After avoiding him really quite successfully for 2 months I finally saw him again at a work zoom meeting.

We spoke on the phone afterwards and have agreed to see if we can friendzone it. He's since sent me a link to an event asking if I want to come. Not work related. I said I wanted to think about it.

I've snoozed my Bumble profile and if neither of my irons come through I may take a chance on Tinder in September 😱

Yeh @Shayelle2009 I've definitely improved my boundaries and standards a lot - I've moved on from the "give them a chance" mentality or having "friends" who I've met dating who add no value to my life at all?

Pushing through the loneliness barrier is hard but it's more difficult having randomers who don't bring anything to my life!

Checking in all, think I’ll have a better update after the weekend but I’ve got 3 dates over the next 3 nights 🤦‍♂️😂

Date 1 - we’ll just call him Mr Polish, because true to my type, he’s polish. We’ve had a couple of phone calls and lots of messages, just see if the spark is there in person tomorrow

Date 2 - second date with mr Russian, already know this isn’t going anywhere as he’s completely geographically undesirable which is probably why I like him, I so have (un)attachment issues 🤷‍♀️ but his work contract here finishes Saturday so he’ll be flying home, so thought we’d see each other Friday and then I can merrily wave him off with no
Regrets 😂

Date 3 - date 2 with…let’s call him mr estate agent. First date was nice, he might be a bit of a sex pest though given his messages since, although he’s always stopped and apologised if I’ve said I’m uncomfortable

So yeah we’ll see. Oh yeah and I accidentally drunk texted Mr Lorry at the weekend 😥😥 he was nice about it but admitted that he thinks he should try and keep his family together and give his ex another chance (she’s an alcoholic, and I don’t mean likes a drink, I mean been in rehab, got arrested for threatening him with kitchen knives and caused SS to be involved with their kids) so hey, if he really is that stupid maybe I don’t want him anyway 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

@SpringlikeBunk

Yeh *@Shayelle2009* I've definitely improved my boundaries and standards a lot - I've moved on from the "give them a chance" mentality or having "friends" who I've met dating who add no value to my life at all?

Pushing through the loneliness barrier is hard but it's more difficult having randomers who don't bring anything to my life!

Randoms are tiring! My life is so busy I just can't be doing with it.

One of my chats tonight just said to me 'your profile made me laugh, you're clearly not one for merging or carrying anyone'

@Iamclearlyamug @Languidleopard interested to hear how things progress for you busy OLD'ers 😁

SpringlikeBunk - that's how I'm feeling too. I'm going to keep the apps active but not pursue anything. Once my DS goes back to school and my ex goes back home I'm going to concentrate on me - feel in need of a new health and fitness regime.

Yeah @SpringlikeBunk I find the loneliness comes and goes, with not always a rhyme nor reason for it, sometimes I love being free and single, sometimes it hurts me… little things can trigger that such as seeing lots of happy families or couples together. Other times I love it. It’s an unpredictable one! 🙂

[quote BelladiMamma]**@Iamclearlyamug* @Languidleopard* interested to hear how things progress for you busy OLD'ers 😁[/quote]
@BelladiMamma yeah, I'm starting to think men are a bit like buses. Nothing for ages, then three come along at once

I will be pub crawling in Brighton Sat and Sun nights.....with two single female friends, one straight, one lesbian!

@Walkingalot and @Shayelle2009

Yeh definitely focussing on grounding emotionally over the next few months - exercise, have switched up my clothing and make-up routine as it hasn't changed in a while, new social groups when I move (I don't want "intense new besties" just "ok people for a chat or coffee").

So I can hit the dating scene closer to Xmas feeling confident and relaxed.

One issue with post-lockdown dating and app meeting is everyone seems a bit frazzled and desperate and "in flux" (me included) so I'd like to have a good routine and meet others in a similar situation.

@VanGoghsDog

I will be pub crawling in Brighton Sat and Sun nights.....with two single female friends, one straight, one lesbian!

Ooh fab 😊 enjoy

Enjoy @VanGogh! ❤️

I'm going to aim to speak to Mr. Gambit about our date next weekend. I'm nervous about it, but I feel excited about the prospect of dating him for the first time ever, which is a huge thing for me.

I'm nervous about it of course, but I care such a lot about him and I've fancied him from the moment we first started taking. It feels like fate that we've found each other again, and I don't want to waste this chance ❤️

Watch this space, fair daters! 😘😘😘

I mean, this weekend! ❤️

Thanks for the new thread @Dancerinthemoonlight!