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New man wants to be teased about his small penis

147 replies

peoniesandpoppies · 22/08/2021 16:59

Have been chatting to what seems like a very nice chap via OND. We've not met but have chatted and texts for 2 weeks.
He sent me some messages that were flirty and quite sexual (not a problem as I was happy to respond) however, he admitted that he has a very, very small penis and enjoys being humiliated and teased about it.
Shall I run for the hills? I totally appreciate that not every man is hung like a donkey but the teasing bit......?!

OP posts:
MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 22/08/2021 17:00

Run.

OneAugustNight · 22/08/2021 17:01

Well do you want to do that? Wouldn’t be my thing.

PickAChew · 22/08/2021 17:01

If you're not entirely comfortable with this, why wouldn't you run for the hills?

Original poster
peoniesandpoppies · 22/08/2021 17:02

I'm just a bit disappointed. I was really hoping for a "normal" relationship yet so many people I speak to (50 somethings) seem to have fetishes.

OP posts:
IveGotASongThatllGetOnYNerves · 22/08/2021 17:03

Urgh.
Bin.

DelphiniumBlue · 22/08/2021 17:04

yuck.

Gettingthereslowly2020 · 22/08/2021 17:05

It's a fetish thing. It's up to you what you want to do. He doesn't sound like a good relationship prospect if he's bringing fetish stuff into the situation before you've even met. It sounds like he wants a casual thing.

There's nothing wrong with fetishes but surely if he wanted a relationship with you, he'd take the time to get to know you and actually meet you before introducing anything sexual into the equation

EmmaC78 · 22/08/2021 17:05

I'd be running for the hills too.

HalzTangz · 22/08/2021 17:05

Just tell him you aren't comfortable with that type of roleplay and maybe he would be better focused on a fetish site looking for a dominatrix

Thesheerrelief · 22/08/2021 17:06

Does his name start with R? I had an ex who was very into this but it was 20 odd years ago when we were a lot younger. It wasn't my cup of tea at all but I sometimes went along with it. It wasn't the least bit erotic for me.

GrandmasCat · 22/08/2021 17:06

If humiliating people turns you on, perhaps he is the guy for you.

I would run, what is he going to ask for next when humiliating him about his penny’s wears off?

DillonPanthersTexas · 22/08/2021 17:08

he admitted that he has a very, very small penis and enjoys being humiliated and teased about it.

Annoy him by complimenting him on his massive cock.

Whadda · 22/08/2021 17:10

This is why I hate when women online respond to unsolicited dickpics with insults about the size of the appendage- chances are the dude is getting off on it.

123ZYX · 22/08/2021 17:11

@Gettingthereslowly2020

It's a fetish thing. It's up to you what you want to do. He doesn't sound like a good relationship prospect if he's bringing fetish stuff into the situation before you've even met. It sounds like he wants a casual thing.

There's nothing wrong with fetishes but surely if he wanted a relationship with you, he'd take the time to get to know you and actually meet you before introducing anything sexual into the equation

I suppose by mentioning it early he's letting her know before either of them have put any time into getting to know each other, which is better than a few dates in.

It's not something I'd be comfortable with, though.

blueberrywaffle · 22/08/2021 17:11

🤮 🏃‍♂️

DillonPanthersTexas · 22/08/2021 17:12

I would run, what is he going to ask for next when humiliating him about his penny’s wears off

After you have exhausted mocking his coin collection you can ratchet up the shame by taking the piss out of his foreign currency notes. The cheeky little numismatist.

ChequerBoard · 22/08/2021 17:13

Why would you even contemplate this unless by bizarre coincidence you get off on insulting a man about the size of his appendage?

Yuck, bin and move on 🤢 🤢 🤮

rookiemere · 22/08/2021 17:14

Jeez you've not even met him yet and already he's told you about his grubby sexual fantasy. Yuck.

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bristolfunday · 22/08/2021 17:15

That's odd, unless you're into humiliation games steer clear, I don't get what he would enjoy about that and I'd wonder what that side of him would make him say or do to a partner.
As a man over sixty but still enjoying a fantastic sex life I do take offence at the assertion made about men over fifty having fetishes, do you also want to generalise about women, black people, the gay community and people with ginger hair also.

Accidentgirlfriend · 22/08/2021 17:16

Would you be ok if his penis turns out to be very small ? Would you still want a relationship with him ?
He’s telling you now so you can choose to move on before he has to show you it .

GrandmasCat · 22/08/2021 17:18

If all the people you have spoken too seems to have fetishes it may be a good idea to take a good look at your profile and photos to check what may be giving them the “vibe” that you are up for it.

Doesn’t have to be anything extreme, I got a lot of attention from “marry me tomorrow” types when I had a photo of me making pasties. (WTF? I don’t even share them!)

DillonPanthersTexas · 22/08/2021 17:21

Jeez you've not even met him yet and already he's told you about his grubby sexual fantasy

In fairness, on the pantheon of grubby fantasies that is pretty benign.

Hellocatshome · 22/08/2021 17:24

At least you know what he likes now. Either continue with the relationship if this is something you would enjoy or let him know you are out. At least you haven't wasted too much time on it.

2bazookas · 22/08/2021 17:30

I'm betting when the pants come down you find out he's a woman .

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