New man wants to be teased about his small penis

[peoniesandpoppies]

Have been chatting to what seems like a very nice chap via OND. We've not met but have chatted and texts for 2 weeks.
He sent me some messages that were flirty and quite sexual (not a problem as I was happy to respond) however, he admitted that he has a very, very small penis and enjoys being humiliated and teased about it.
Shall I run for the hills? I totally appreciate that not every man is hung like a donkey but the teasing bit......?!

@youvegottenminuteslynn

if you are a sexually open, liberated person, give it a go, you might like it

So patronising!

I honestly think almost every adult would know instinctively if they'll find it a turn on or not mocking the size of a man's dick. Without needing to try it first.

I’m a very sexually open, liberated person.

I don’t need to ‘give things a go’. I know what I like and what I’m into or not.

And even if I was in a mood for experimentation, I certainly wouldn’t be up for it with someone who thinks it’s appropriate to foist their sexual appetites onto me when we hardly know each other and before I even know whether or not I actually want to have any kind of sex with them. Ugh. I’m sure there are websites where people can hang out and go into their kinks in great detail and arrange hook ups and whatnot. Presuming that a woman who barely knows you wants to be told about your sexual appetites is just not on.

@peoniesandpoppies I agree with pp. Unless you actually want to be dealing with all manner of weirdness I’d put the brakes on the sexual talk until you know people a bit better. It doesn’t sound like you’re looking for casual sex only, so don’t go there so early on. Weed out the ones who are just looking for wank fodder.

@youvegottenminuteslynn sorry the quote makes it look like that’s directed at you...

I was just agreeing with you, but forgot to say so at the start of my comment.

If you're not into it, move on. No one would blame you and life is too short. It also frees him up to find someone who enjoys that kind of thing.

@CallMeNutribullet

Kink shaming is my kink

now watch all the people who use ‘ kink shaking ‘ as a way to pressure women to accept anything and everything from men , shame you !

Oops , clearly , ‘Kink shaming’….

Even if someone did enjoy that sort of thing, surely they wouldn't be so keen if they've not even met the man. I mean are their many women who actively want to go out with a man with a small penis who wants you to constantly mention it ? I'd rather stay single in that scenario thanks.

@mswales there are plenty of kinks where the whole fucking point is that the recipient doesn’t consent. Flashing, for example. Voyeurism. Some doms in BDSM, regardless of how much the community tries to pretend otherwise (there are so many accounts from young naive female subs about being abused by missing stair doms that everyone else knew to avoid). The very term “missing stair” was coined by somebody within the kink community to describe rapists who were allowed to remain in the community raping people, because it would be kink-shaming to stop him assaulting women. It is a massive problem.

How people with kinks behave within the context of an established relationship is very different how men with kinks behave when they are approaching random women, as this man is, and giving them a shopping list of sexual behaviours they expect from them.

Just when you think this world can’t get any weirder...

I wouldn’t entertain this, OP. It would bore me senseless.

@Cherryana

I am actually glad we are able to discuss and express our disgust for all this kink shit. It’s so far removed from mutual pleasure and satisfaction that a revulsion to it speaks of our humanity and connection to boundaries IMO.

Brilliantly said. 👏👏

Neither the small penis nor the humiliation fetish would be attractive to me in the least; and i can't imagine to many women (especially the humiliation fetish) so I'd chalk it up to the weird and whacky world of OLD and move swiftly on.

nothing wrong with a bit of kink shaming. There seems to be a bit of a push in recent years to remove the social taboo of practically everything, when in a lot of cases there is taboo against this stuff for a reason. So we can police ourselves and each other against reverting to shit eating, frog shagging, compulsively wanking bonobo monkeys.

Not everything that human beings want to do to get their rocks off is fine and valid, and a lot of it they need therapy for more than finding another fuckup to indulge them

In my book and IME there's a difference between a kink and a fetish. A kink is something you enjoy that adds a bit of spice now and then, a fetish is something you need to get off. By bringing it up so early in the conversation it sounds to me more like the latter than the former as it's obviously something very important to him, so unless you are fairly sure from the get-go that this is something you'd enjoy incorporated into your sex life the vast majority of time - and it's absolutely fine for that not to be the case, it doesn't do it for me either - I'd chalk this one up as a 'no' and keep looking.

.There seems to be a bit of a push in recent years to remove the social taboo of practically everything, when in a lot of cases there is taboo against this stuff for a reason.

Good point @Branleuse

@Branleuse

nothing wrong with a bit of kink shaming. There seems to be a bit of a push in recent years to remove the social taboo of practically everything, when in a lot of cases there is taboo against this stuff for a reason. So we can police ourselves and each other against reverting to shit eating, frog shagging, compulsively wanking bonobo monkeys.

Not everything that human beings want to do to get their rocks off is fine and valid, and a lot of it they need therapy for more than finding another fuckup to indulge them

Another excellent point.

We’re more than the sum of our orgasms. Consider the whole depth of what it means to be human and this guy’s only focus on starting a new relationship is how good you will be at indulging his fetish. 🙄

I was involved with a guy who had a knicker fetish. All he wanted to see / hear about were my knickers and it was incredibly tiresome 🙄🙄

You're quite right. They should respond with a candid dick pick and say 'Nice. Here's mine'.

Bloke, not my thing at all. Different strokes for different folks. You'll have to be inventive, over time would get potentially difficult and repetitive.

Surely if someone has a kink for humiliation and shame, this thread will be the stuff of their dreams?

Tell him to put a picture of it on here, he'll get plenty of humiliation 😂😂

Seriously, he's weird, give him a miss

And to the professionally offended in this thread who are trying to convince women to indulge and "respect" strangers they don't know, who are supposed to be looking for a relationship (or lying about it, more like it), and think it is appropriate to start a conversation with the way they like to use women for their own sexual gratification... please fuck off.

A man with a kink or fetish may in some cases be respectable (although I am still to come across any who actually are... every single one I have met who started respectable ended up being a weird, obsessed, mentally unwell person with a sexual deviancy that would have needed psychiatric treatment). A man who uses a woman he has never met to get off on said kink with no regard for her as a human being deserves all the mock and derision coming his way and more.

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