New man wants to be teased about his small penis

[peoniesandpoppies]

Have been chatting to what seems like a very nice chap via OND. We've not met but have chatted and texts for 2 weeks.
He sent me some messages that were flirty and quite sexual (not a problem as I was happy to respond) however, he admitted that he has a very, very small penis and enjoys being humiliated and teased about it.
Shall I run for the hills? I totally appreciate that not every man is hung like a donkey but the teasing bit......?!

@GreyhoundG1rl

How, exactly would it be troll hunting?

Because it is saying that the OP is a man posting for a kick. Obviously.

@Marmelace

Doesn't sound like he gives a gnats knacker about you at all. He just wants you to help get him off. Sounds very odious.

Sounds like he has a gnats knacker tho 😂

Playing this down the phone to him would be a low effort way of indulging his fetish.

Sounds like he is more interested in his tiny todger than establishing a relationship.

Grim.

The hills are that way -->

There's a simple way to be more likely to get a normal person to date - set your bar higher and don't chat to sexter's, because accepting chat like that before you've even met, is not weeding out the weird ones from the start.

@peoniesandpoppies

I'm just a bit disappointed. I was really hoping for a "normal" relationship yet so many people I speak to (50 somethings) seem to have fetishes.

I think it's probable that and above average number of single men above a certain age have fetishes they want to share. Not a lot of women like what he likes.

@mswales

Wow so much judgement and kink shaming on here, it's really nasty. If people not into it that's fine but why do we have to be so horrible about someone else's desires? Live and let live. If everyone in the world was turned on by the same old stuff, if we all had to be "normal", the world would be a very boring place. If everything is safe and consensual then all good. There will be a lot of women out there who are into dominating/humiliating etc so let him have a great time with one of them. I'm not into thah but to be honest I'd rather be with someone open and accepting who had a kink than with someone who is happy to shame and judge others for what they like.

@mswales Oh sush with your ridiculous kink shaming accusation.

Women have the right to define what they feel uncomfortable with. Women could do with being harsher and being more assertive, not less, and not be called nasty or be emotionally blackmailed and manipulated into accepting kinks or fantasies that might come with all sorts of baggage, in addition to being something that turns them off.

Off you go to Reddit and Fetlife.

@DillonPanthersTexas

After you have exhausted mocking his coin collection you can ratchet up the shame by taking the piss out of his foreign currency notes. The cheeky little numismatist.

I laughed out loud at this. Thanks for making my morning!

@Booboosweet

Oh my god this thread has made me laugh so hard I'm actually crying

@Booboosweet Haha. So glad. 😁

Many ‘kinks’ and their associated behaviours absolutely should be shamed

Just curious, what kinks should be shamed (assuming they are legal and between consenting adults)?

Not sure why you even have to ask !!

@DillonPanthersTexas

he admitted that he has a very, very small penis and enjoys being humiliated and teased about it.

Annoy him by complimenting him on his massive cock.

Run. Lot of effort for nothing imo and waste of your time in more ways than one.

@mswales

Wow so much judgement and kink shaming on here, it's really nasty. If people not into it that's fine but why do we have to be so horrible about someone else's desires? Live and let live. If everyone in the world was turned on by the same old stuff, if we all had to be "normal", the world would be a very boring place. If everything is safe and consensual then all good. There will be a lot of women out there who are into dominating/humiliating etc so let him have a great time with one of them. I'm not into thah but to be honest I'd rather be with someone open and accepting who had a kink than with someone who is happy to shame and judge others for what they like.

Personally, I like to meet someone I’m talking to via a mainstream dating app before they start filling me in on exactly how they’d like me to behave to gratify their particular kink.

@DillonPanthersTexas

Many ‘kinks’ and their associated behaviours absolutely should be shamed

Just curious, what kinks should be shamed (assuming they are legal and between consenting adults)?

I’m really not going to get into it.

I’m sure you can figure that out for yourself...if not, my explanation really isn’t going to make any difference. Others have added more nuance already in their comments.

Consent is all good and well as a concept but let’s be honest, many women/children and, to a lesser extent men, too, are made unwilling participants in others’ ‘kinks’. Especially right now where apparently people should be bringing their ‘whole selves to work’ and other such obnoxious bollocks.

Kinks and sexual behaviours between consenting adults is fine to a point, but I’m not obligated to like it*, I’m not obligated to be nice/kind about it, I’m not obligated to accept it or celebrate it.

*it being a specific appetite or behaviour, not kinks in general.

Do what you (the collective you, not you ) want, but don’t demand that I be all about it too. I’m absolutely entitled not to like it, and to judge people for it.

@peoniesandpoppies

I'm just a bit disappointed. I was really hoping for a "normal" relationship yet so many people I speak to (50 somethings) seem to have fetishes.

If you are tolerating a man sexting you within 2 weeks you are not going to find a normal relationship.

You haven’t outlined any boundaries whatsoever.

@Ibizan

*Using the terms”Kink shaming” as a slur is coercing people to abandon their sexual boundaries. In my opinion that is way more “ unkind” than anything that has been said on this thread.

If you have a problem with people enforcing their own boundaries, then you shouldn’t be in a relationship. It is acceptable to feel and express disgust at an individual when they seek to bring their sexual preferences to the fore. It is acceptable to end a relationship instantly when this happens. It is acceptable to have and enforce boundaries*

Exactly.

If you are happy to do this for him

I cannot imagine this the other way round: a woman, early in online chatting, before any dating, messaging, “I love being humiliated about my baggy fanny”. Why are men!!

He sounds pornsick. Unless you particularly like that kind of thing, RUN.

Especially right now where apparently people should be bringing their ‘whole selves to work’ and other such obnoxious bollocks.

@Ninkanink

Yeah, we really shouldn't be encouraging that. It is bollocks, and it's mainly women who'll be made to feel uncomfortable whilst some individuals derive some sort of validation or gratification from it.

[quote EarthSight]@Ibizan

*Using the terms”Kink shaming” as a slur is coercing people to abandon their sexual boundaries. In my opinion that is way more “ unkind” than anything that has been said on this thread.

If you have a problem with people enforcing their own boundaries, then you shouldn’t be in a relationship. It is acceptable to feel and express disgust at an individual when they seek to bring their sexual preferences to the fore. It is acceptable to end a relationship instantly when this happens. It is acceptable to have and enforce boundaries*

Exactly.[/quote]
Of course people should enforce their own boundaries clearly and assertively, and end a relationship if their sexual preferences don't align!! Nothing I said suggested otherwise.

I was simply saying all the disgust expressed by posters at this man's preferences was uncalled for, and that I think blanket judgement/shaming of other people's desires (specifically desires that cause no harm if they are fulfilled safely and consensually, and that is an important caveat) is very unpleasant.