Online dating - what makes you immediately swipe left?

[aurynne]

We are back in lockdown in New Zealand after Delta variant cases were found in the community. In boredom, I have reactivated my online dating profile. Oh God, there we go again.

I thought I'd ask what makes you immediately swipe a potential partner's profile left? I wonder whether I am very superficial or if this is common among women (I am in my 40s):

• Very bushy beards - I don't mind a tidy beard, but bushes where bats can nest put me right off. New Zealand men appear to favour this look and I find it rank.

• Topless main profile photo - urgh!

• A smiling man holding a large fish - another urgh

• Photos of their car. I don't give a shit about your car. Especially when it's a decrepit crappy car... really?

• Pouting. It's bad enough in teenage girls. It's worse in middle-age women. But in a grown man? It's just bloody creepy. No.

• Spelling mistakes in their profile - this is a thing for me, I am very anal about spelling and grammar. I am fully aware I will be swiping left on lovely men, but I imagine a life of "your beautiful" and I gag.

What are your personal left-swipe triggers?

There was one.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/4328872-what-makes-you-swipe-right

It evidently sank without trace as we find it easier to say what we hate or too jaded to swipe right ever .

Quite true category12 and strangely satisfying to mention what we dislike

I can't think of anything to say that doesn't sound quite sexist....

Sorry going off on a bit of a tangent but as this is primarily a parents board does anyone else think it would be useful if a dating site included another question or two regarding this.

So for example, on Bumble you get options like has kids/doesn't want more or has kids and wants more etc.

So say someone is in the has kids and doesn't want more group. Then there could be an optional question regarding blending families. Like yes I fully want to blend/ possibly/prefer to keep two households?

@Roblox01

Sorry going off on a bit of a tangent but as this is primarily a parents board does anyone else think it would be useful if a dating site included another question or two regarding this.

So for example, on Bumble you get options like has kids/doesn't want more or has kids and wants more etc.

So say someone is in the has kids and doesn't want more group. Then there could be an optional question regarding blending families. Like yes I fully want to blend/ possibly/prefer to keep two households?

No, that's far to in depth for an initial profile imo. Q

'My ex was a psycho'

@ComTruise

Any string or biased political views

Ah, the parochial yarn vs twine debate

Brilliant !

Men holding giant fish (what’s with that?)
Men with drugged up tigers
Selfies taken in the bathroom (there are so many like that, in one I could see someone having a wee in the urinal behind him)
Lists of what they don’t want
True old fashioned gent (misogynist)
Bushy beards
Bald, overweight
I had one who sent me a long long message trying to explain why he didn’t have a profile picture.
Ugh.... just looked at 100 profiles, don’t like ANY of them!

Here’s to spinsterdom! 🍸

Oh and generally moody looking men or negative profiles where they rant about their ex.