Dating thread 210 - thwarted hearts, fresh starts

[Shayelle2009]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Thanks for the new thread @Shayelle2009!

Checking in. Love the new title ❤️‍🩹

Morning, Checking in.

My update:

Despite struggling with the after effects of an accident - or possibly because I've been stuck at home because of the accident - I have more irons going than I can realistically handle!

BeardFlake- virtual chat and regular online FB. Quite happy with this situation as works for me at the moment. Unlikely to progress and will fizzle out in its own good time
MrIrish - date zero this week if I'm well enough. Started very keen, comms have tailed off a bit.
MrItaly - date two this week but he hasn't confirmed.
MissChelsea - date zero this week. Feeling good about this one but she's Uber beautiful and very busy with work. We'll see
Mr Property - will suggest a date if he messages again
MrLongShot - cancelled his date zero as I wasn't well enough
Miss Ginger - friend zoned first meet this week
MissOxford - date zero next week

Could all go up in flames as per usual. Feeling like I've got a challenge on my hands with my recovery ❤️‍🩹 anyway so I am leaving everything in the hands of fate and not forcing or pushing anything through

@BelladiMamma that’s a whole lot of irons! Hope some happy stuff comes from it!

Here:

Mr. Social Conscience - fading fast. The more I think about it, the more “no” he is. Had date zero yesterday, good but not brilliant. He’s a lost soul.

Mr. Curly - warming up nicely. Datezero to be sorted but in the offing.

Mr. Retro - super handsome. Arranging a high adrenaline date zero shortly.

I had my first ever EVER date in the best part of two decades yesterday and I’m back on the horse!

Checking in, thanks for the new thread @Shayelle2009 I need to catch up on the end of the last one.
@BelladiMamma good to keep occupied, hope one of them turns out well! As you've started, shall we have a roll call? Where's everyone at?
I'm still on the smitten bench with Mr Dimples. We've been seeing each other just over two months now and it's simple, happy and exciting all at once. Just what I needed after the absolute mindfuck of Mr O/Polo!

Going to try and ignore the anxiety and go back on the dreaded Tinder pit. Swiped through everyone within a 5 mile radius to try and avoid being spotted whilst out and about!!

@Heartbeats0708

Checking in, thanks for the new thread *@Shayelle2009* I need to catch up on the end of the last one. *@BelladiMamma* good to keep occupied, hope one of them turns out well! As you've started, shall we have a roll call? Where's everyone at? I'm still on the smitten bench with Mr Dimples. We've been seeing each other just over two months now and it's simple, happy and exciting all at once. Just what I needed after the absolute mindfuck of Mr O/Polo!

So Pleased about MrDimples! Even though MeBear wasn't for me ultimately, I think it was good for us both to have our little early summer fling. We were good to each other. Hopefully you & MrD keep the feels 🥰

Nothing to report on my side as not really swiping post my hols though living vicariously through the thread. Sent Mr Lawyer a note to say let's catch up after his holiday so the ball is effectively in his court there to arrange date 2. Am not holding my breath here though!

I briefly joined in on this thread when I went on my first ever good first date, and thought, maybe I am ready for dating. A few months later, he is now my boyfriend. Early days, of course.

Now, I have a very stupid question. Other than flings and casual things over the last couple of years, I had only ever been with my XH and we got together at 15. I realise now that I have zero early relationship experience, none at all. I am enjoying it and going with the flow but my stupid question is, does anyone know of any books I can read? Or podcasts I can listen to?

I have been cohabiting/ married since the age of 18. I know how to do married or FWB, no idea about early relationships 😅

Tinder - I've not paid. The likes, I'm guessing it's designed to make you curious enough to pay? Do any of you pay so you can see your likes? My assumption is it's all bots and desperados! But I saw I guy I like IRL on there, accidentally swiped left (still get confused end looking at the full profile) and now I'm very curious if he may have swiped for me. Probably not, as he's never made a move IRL but still, that's how it reels you in I guess!

I deleted Tinder again!🤦‍♀️

I used Tinder on my laptop this morning and I literally ended up with Mr Cricket's profile there too (I couldn't bring myself to swipe on him last night). It was also giving me people completely out of my distance range and my age range. What's the point of me specifying 16 miles if it gives me someone 30 miles away.

On the plus side I think he was telling me the truth about being on standby this week. So maybe he was telling the truth about not being on Tinder(maybe he did just delete the app and not his account).

Oh well new week and all that. Happy Monday people 😀

@Isitreallyme177 there’s buttons beneath the age and distance range now so you you can say you only want to see those ranges.

Thanks@Shayelle2009 It's frustrating as it was giving me some good looking guys then I looked at the distance and it's like 2 hours away.

Checking in and thanks @Shayelle2009 for starting.

Loving reading about all the action and activity going on. Not much here, two chats and a few that haven't gone anywhere. Trying to keep a bit of balance so no names until I have something interesting to say about them!

@Shuffleuplove tell more about your date zero! I've not yet got to that stage but it will be just as long a gap for me whenever it does happen.

Checking in.

A Tinder chat just totally mansplained to me how I can make myself happier with my appearance. It's hilarious!

My profile says "I'm not as boring as I look", he asked why I said that because he thinks I look cute. I said "because I look like Velma Dinkley's middle aged librarian aunt. Straight brown hair and glasses, yawn, I almost fall asleep looking in the mirror".

Anyway, he has listed out in numbered bullet points how I could change my hair, buy different glasses....it's quite a long list.
He did say brown is his favorite hair colour and he thinks I have kissable lips

I said "you do realize it was joke, right?". He said it was hard to tell (fair enough I guess) but it was a good opportunity to give me some compliments.

Morning....checking in.

@VanGoghsDog

Checking in.

A Tinder chat just totally mansplained to me how I can make myself happier with my appearance. It's hilarious!

My profile says "I'm not as boring as I look", he asked why I said that because he thinks I look cute. I said "because I look like Velma Dinkley's middle aged librarian aunt. Straight brown hair and glasses, yawn, I almost fall asleep looking in the mirror".

Anyway, he has listed out in numbered bullet points how I could change my hair, buy different glasses....it's quite a long list.
He did say brown is his favorite hair colour and he thinks I have kissable lips

I said "you do realize it was joke, right?". He said it was hard to tell (fair enough I guess) but it was a good opportunity to give me some compliments.

No words. 🤦🏻‍♀️ Am impressed that you bothered to give him the time. I'd have shut it down straight away

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards I saw your message on the other thread.

This is what I sent to my friendship group earlier

Checking in ....

[quote BelladiMamma]@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards I saw your message on the other thread.

This is what I sent to my friendship group earlier [/quote]
@BelladiMamma ❤️

Have just had a video chat with Miss Chelsea and suggested we postpone our meet because I've got too many irons in the fire until I'm recovered.

She's very gracious but too beautiful. I'm completely intimidated. She's also very controlled, in a way that I don't think would suit me in a LTR. Think diet, exercise. Going to reflect on this one.

Thanks Shayelle.
Am still seeing MrBE - 2 weeks/4 dates. Dated him 4 yrs ago. Stayed in contact on and off over the yrs and almost dated again 2 yrs ago, just before MrGardner and after MrWow. Am really going to give him a chance this time, despite finding Susan Boyle and Shania Twain in his CD collection! My ExDH leaves end of the month so life should be easier and I can invite MrBE round.

@VanGoghsDog FFS at your mansplainer.... he's gonna have to pull something special out of the bag to redeem himself, isn't he?