First date, he wants me to dress up

[LindaUK1971]

I have a first date in a long time this weekend. I’ve been speaking to the guy for a long time online and we’ve really hit it off.

We’ve arranged to meet this weekend but he’s asked me to wear a specific outfit. Is this normal? I’ve never heard of this before? Should I be worried?

Does the spefic outfit serve a putpose (e.g. wear walking boots as we're hoing on s hike)?

Is it an outfit that you have mentioned that you own, so that he can recognise you?

How specific are we talking here? I mean, asking you to wear formal wear because he is taking you to a ball is fine, but telling you to wear stockings and spike heels and no knickers probably isn't.

Where are you going?

It's an outfit to wear to go for a drink. And yes it's something I own that he's seen me wearing before on Facebook. Although never the whole outfit together.

That's weird. I'd feel very uncomfortable with that.

Yeah thats weird.

Yeah it has me a little weirded out

I'd be uncomfortable with that. Does he want to get to know you or does he want 'to be seen' with a particular image?

Well I think he wants to get to know me too. But he kept on saying I must wear this blouse and skirt combo as it's so sexy.

I really like him (so far), but just seems odd to request this. Maybe I'm reading into it too much.

Run! And don’t look back.

Totally inappropriate thing to say = weirdo!

Run OP. That’s weird and controlling. I think there is a huge difference between saying “I like the outfit you wore when you went to x” vs “please wear x outfit on our first date as I think it’s sexy”. Run run run.

Red flag! It's okay to hint that that's his fave outfit but telling you to wear it is controlling as no one should be telling another person what to wear to that extent.

For a first date especially like if going on a date my husband will sometimes ask me if I can wear a certain thing of he likes it but overall he leaves it to me but I wouldn't be married to him right now if he had don't that when I hardly knew him

Very controlling

But he kept on saying I must wear this blouse and skirt combo as it's so sexy.

NOPE. Huge red flag. That is extremely creepy and he has future controlling abuser written all over him. There is nothing normal about this request/demand. You "must" wear a certain outfit? FFS, run for the hills.

I sincerely hope you never meet him and stop all communication as well.

This is too weird for words - don't meet him - it's creepy AF
"he kept on saying" - red flag - controlling
"it's so sexy" - eww
This is just going to end badly.
This is not the way for a guy to go about things on a first date. IMHO.

Run for the hills OP. Weird and creepy.

100% fuck that.
Total creep.

Very strange and scary, almost like he's testing the water to see how easily he can manipulate you.

Thanks all.

I think there is a communication issue as he's Polish and I'm English. But still a thought red flag with the way he asked.

I hope you see this for what it is, and that's a warning shot. You have been forewarned. Don't meet this man.

Nutcase - however much he ticks other boxes DO NOT meet. He’s “testing” every woman he meets to see who he can control 🤮

@SpringlikeBunk

Nutcase - however much he ticks other boxes DO NOT meet. He’s “testing” every woman he meets to see who he can control 🤮

This 100% right.

NO, I would not like this. I would always wear exactly what I wanted to wear on a date. Have you asked your date to wear something specific.?

Maybe if it was just the blouse, that is like the ones you wear in all the photos just maybe, so he knows its you. Maybe???

But honestly I would be running for the hills