My partner says my son is the most horrible child he has ever met

[Owldeb2005]

My ds is 15 and is not an angel but lazy and spoiled as some teenagers seem to be. My partner went mad yesterday because ds had gone to play football with his friend and he is not allowed to go on his PS4 during the day. After work I started cleaning and did not see his calls until later. He wanted a lift home because his frien had hurt his leg. My partner said I should not pick him up when I saw the message because he was just being lazy. In the meantime he had tried everyone else and ended up calling my dad who doesn’t drive but my uncle lives there and he brought them back. My partner went mental saying how disgusting it was to ask like that and how he is a horrible child and a spoiled jumped up little c••t. I don’t think he did anything wrong but when I say that I am a bad parent and am turning him into a horrible person.
I am at my wits end with it because it is ranting a lot of the time when my son is with me.

I'm sorry to hear this. It sounds as though you are going to have a make a choice soon.

Seriously? You shouldn't even need to ask. Prioritise your poor child.

I think you should tell your partner to fuck off and mind his own business

Hmmm….if someone called one of my DC a horrible child or jumped up little c**t

That’d be the last thing they ever said to me.

Doesn't sound to me like DS has done anything wrong 🤨

Your son wanted to help a friend. Which is a good thing. Your DP ranted and raved about it which is a bad thing.
Protect your child and find a nicer partner.

Off you fuck then.

OP you need to bin this abusive loser ASAP and apologise to your son for putting him through this on his contact days with you.

Your partner needs to go, no question about it. He sounds awful. Prioritise your son.

Even if your DS is a horror (and from what you've said it doesn't sound like he is), your "D"P should not have said or even thought that.

Easiest way to resolve this is for him not to have to deal with your DS at all...

do you mean your ex partner?

@54321nought

do you mean your ex partner?

You stole my line 😉

What a horrible person your partner sounds. He would be gone. I seriously would not let someone speak about my child like that and rant in front of them. How do you think your son feels when he hears him speaking about him like that. Vile. Your son did nothing wrong getting a lift for a friend that had hurt his leg

Bloody hell. Does this make you see him in a different light? Is he someone you now want around your son?

Is there a reason you’re still together?

Presumably the lift was to stop the child with the hurt leg from having to walk home?
You don't have a DC problem, you have a 'D'P problem.

Your partner is vile. A bully. Get rid.

Also what the hell is so wrong about wanting to help your injured friend get home?

And even if it was a white lie. It doesnt excuse your partner calling him a cunt. Who the fuck does he think he us talking to anyone like that? Let alone a child.

Sorry op but this should be over. This man is not nice. He bullies you and your child. Get shot.

I'm not seeing what your son is supposed to have done wrong on this occasion? He went out to play football and rang round family for a lift home as his friend had injured himself? Is there a backstory here?

I think I have had so much of this now that I was not sure if this was bad or if I am a bad parent. It has just made me so low and depressed

Your son is a teenager and needs love and understanding even if he is being a nightmare.
An adult moaning, having a go and calling him a c* is not going to turn any teenager into a model adult.
I don't think you should be subjecting your son to the awful behaviour of an adult that isn't a good role model.

Also I seriously can't believe you left them in the park knowing his friend was hurt until his uncle had to go and get them. WTF!! Are you scared of your partner?

What a horrible human your “partner” is. He clearly hasn’t looked in the mirror as he’s the horrible one.

Your account suggests that it is your partner who is “jumped-up little c**t”! Not only is he ranting about your son and interfering in your parenting, but he is also gaslighting you. It would be reasonable for him to express and opposing view quietly occasionally, but to still respect your decisions. It is unreasonable and unacceptable for him to behave like this. Does he shout this stuff at your son? You know your relationship best, but at least consider if he is being a bully and if the relationship is good for you and your son.

He thought it was disgusting that your DS called for a lift as his friend had hurt his leg??!!

You also say he is ranting a lot and it's abviously upsetting you. Does he live with you?

Agree with others - he'd already be a ex by now with that language and attitude about my child

get rid and keep your son safe from him please

It would take all my strength not to punch his fucking lights out! He’d be straight out the door with a few choice words from me on what a cunt actually is and how much he resembles one.