My partner says my son is the most horrible child he has ever met

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My ds is 15 and is not an angel but lazy and spoiled as some teenagers seem to be. My partner went mad yesterday because ds had gone to play football with his friend and he is not allowed to go on his PS4 during the day. After work I started cleaning and did not see his calls until later. He wanted a lift home because his frien had hurt his leg. My partner said I should not pick him up when I saw the message because he was just being lazy. In the meantime he had tried everyone else and ended up calling my dad who doesn’t drive but my uncle lives there and he brought them back. My partner went mental saying how disgusting it was to ask like that and how he is a horrible child and a spoiled jumped up little c••t. I don’t think he did anything wrong but when I say that I am a bad parent and am turning him into a horrible person.
I am at my wits end with it because it is ranting a lot of the time when my son is with me.

@Imnewhere1991 I don’t think he is that bad. You have to tell him to do things three or four times before he does and he is a typical teenager where he is grumpy at times. He is lazy but aren’t most kids at this age

How are things OP? Have you looked at any other rentals yet?

@EvenMoreFuriousVexation things have not improved really he is still picking at everything. I just missed out on a small house so I will keep trying

I think 15yo boys are 15yo boys. My normally mild mannered and loving son was a nightmare at that age. He's back to his loving, goofy self now. They're going through a lot of changes and a step parent who clearly doesn't like him is going to add to that.

OP you sound like a lovely mum but it can be easy to lose your way in a controlling relationship. Don't feel ashamed to seek out help, its not your shame to bear and usually in these situations those close to you usually have an inkling something is not right anyway.

Contact Woman's Aid and Freedom Programme to help you see more clearly and make a safe escape plan.

I’m taking it this man isn’t the child’s father? And if someone spoke about my son that way he’d be long gone. He sounds jealous and nasty

The DP sounds like a right twat.

@TheWeeDonkey @TheWeeDonkeyFella I’m contacting the elm foundation who can help and give me advice. He is not my boys father thank god. I have lost myself here and want that back. I have spent time with my ds over that last few days doing all sorts of things and it has been lovely.
Then this morning I took a mug out of the dishwasher to make coffee and he said he wanted to rinse it. I looked at him about to say it won’t hurt you and he went on one saying he is sick of me giving him looks and didn’t want coffee anymore