My partner says my son is the most horrible child he has ever met

[Owldeb2005]

My ds is 15 and is not an angel but lazy and spoiled as some teenagers seem to be. My partner went mad yesterday because ds had gone to play football with his friend and he is not allowed to go on his PS4 during the day. After work I started cleaning and did not see his calls until later. He wanted a lift home because his frien had hurt his leg. My partner said I should not pick him up when I saw the message because he was just being lazy. In the meantime he had tried everyone else and ended up calling my dad who doesn’t drive but my uncle lives there and he brought them back. My partner went mental saying how disgusting it was to ask like that and how he is a horrible child and a spoiled jumped up little c••t. I don’t think he did anything wrong but when I say that I am a bad parent and am turning him into a horrible person.
I am at my wits end with it because it is ranting a lot of the time when my son is with me.

This man is an abusive prick and you need to leave him

If you need help getting out safely, there are people who could help you

Are you renting? Who is on the lease?

You’re being abused, and so is your son.

Get out now!

Two wrongs don't make a right. Your DS however bad should be your first priority and your partner should go.

Do your son a favour and get a relative to look after him until you get your shit together. If this arsehole turns on your son, you won't be able to forgive yourself.

Absolutely bin your partner!! how dare he call your child the C word!

I want my kids to call if they are in trouble or need me what ever their age.

Ok so your partner wants a mummy and is jealous of your son so he's trying to get you to be horrible to your son and choose him, then you can both bully your son together.

Time for the bin for the partner OP, You would be a "bad parent" if you kept this cunt in your life.

As a child my mum had so many boyfriends and she would always pick them over me! it got so bad at age 15 i moved out! we have no relationship now.

These posts really make me worry - my DD is a single mum to my gorgeous GS, I worry she'll end up with this sort of arsehole.

Protect your son - if a random man in the street was abusive towards your son you wouldn't just ignore it as one of those things. The fact that you're in a relationship with your sons abuser does not make the abuse any more tolerable for your son. I can't imagine having to share my home with someone who despised me so much. You have choices, your son doesn't. Please get rid of him OP.

Op I am not want to say ltb easily, but this man sounds so awful, pathetic, and unkind. If anyone called my child the "see you next Tuesday" word, they would be out on their ear. It doesn't even sound like your ds was doing anything much wrong tbh! Teens have had a horrible time recently, let him play football with his friends!

And I say all this as a mother of teens who knows how difficult they can be. Your DP sounds jealous, immature and downright abusive. He has got you doubting yourself. Please don't listen to him. Do you want your son to have this man as a role model? Please boot him out but get support while you do it and keep safe

This is not going to end well. Children with step parents who are abusive don't always 'get over it' If he continues to suffer this kind of abuse he may well decide to get out of the situation by leaving home - then where would you be (with your 'D'P) Do the right thing NOW

@Owldeb2005 you are being abused. You clearly fear this man.

What’s your financial situation?
Do you have any family or friends who can support you?
Can you call Women’s Aid? X

Sorry I don't get this. Your partner was mad because he went to play football with friends (which is exercise) and got crosser because he wanted to help his friend who was hurt. Is there more story to this because this dosnt make your son a bad kid.

Is he doing drugs? swearing at DP? Stealing stuff?

[quote Owldeb2005]@LtDansleg He never does it to his face he rants on at me all the time and says I should punish him etc[/quote]
You need to punish your partner by showing him the door for good

[quote Owldeb2005]@LittleMysSister he has been around for about 3.5 years. He has no kids but is always telling me that all his friends think his behaviour is disgusting and that I am a bad parent.[/quote]
This is an abuser.

This isn't what a relationship is supposed to be like.

@cormorantes

Seriously? You shouldn't even need to ask. Prioritise your poor child.

This! Anyone that calls my kid a 'jumped up little c--t' can pqco his bags, same day, end of story.

Leave him. You need to protect yourself and your DS. He is abusive.

It's frightening how many women end up with men like this and then stay with them, putting their relationship with volatile, aggressive, bullying men over the welfare of their own child.

*pack

Your partner sounds like a complete dickhead and looks like he massively over-reacted to him asking for a lift, but I feel like there must be a LOT more to this for him to fly off the handle so quickly. Either way your son is still a child and he shouldn’t ever be spoken about that way.

Think of your child

P.s. dump him.

My kids could call day or night for a lift and I’d go pick them up. Even if they were being little cnts. Because I’m a parent. That’s what you do. I take it he doesn’t have any children or you don’t have kids together? I’m sorry but he’s the one being a tat not your son!

Op you need to put your child first and end it with this horrible man. Think about a practical plan, is it your house he moved into, or joint?