What would you expect a man to say to this question?

[Goldsnow]

He had his computer desk top messages open in view and a message was there from his ex asking if he wants her to give him a massage. He reply was 'sounds nice'.
Would you think he was still interested in her? Or just a nice brush off? What would you expect a man to say to this if he wasn't interested and didn't want to lead her on? Would his response be the same as this mans?

His reply is not a brush off

His response would have me headed for the door.

I would think they are still having a relationship

His reply would be the end of things for me.

Asked DH.

He says yes, he's still interested in her.

That doesn’t sound like a brush-off to me.

In what world is that a brush off?

Def a come on. And he accepted...
Hopefully he is an ex by now op...

I’d expect him to ask her what the fuck she was doing. And then come and tell you “you’ll never believe what ex has just sent me”

However, knowing people as I do, she didn’t sent that message out of the blue. You need to do some digging.

That’s not a brush off. It’s a come on.

Get rid. Run for the hills.

@goldsnow I would expect a man to reply along the lines of 'No thank you, Goldsnow gives great massages.'

How would he feel if the roles were reversed, and you offered (or accepted) a hypothetical massage with an ex? Think that says a lot abt the type of relationship that you have. But at a glance it really doesn't sound good...

I would expect my partner not to be having such conversations with an ex in the first place.
If totally unsolicited ( ), it should be ignored, or a polite no thanks, followed by ignoring/blocking.
Anything beyond that is just inviting trouble in my opinion.
I would not knowingly be in a relationship with someone who responded like that.

Is that what he's doing when he's sat on the sofa next to you of an evening? - messaging his ex and talking about massages?

Fucking get rid of him. You can do better than that.

Uh i’d think she was opening the door for something sexual and he was up for it.

It is so common for people to still have feelings for their exes.
Doesn’t mean they want to get back with them though.

You’re a mug for believing that’s innocent

Fuck that. It couldn't have been more of a come on than a brush off.

Hell no that would not fly. I’m sorry OP but that sounds hugely suspicious and he might have been in contact with her in that way for a long time for her to “suddenly” text that. And his reply is not okay one bit.

Why on earth does his ex feel comfortable even suggesting a massage would be my first thought. What kind of conversations are they having that she believes that would be welcomed? Inappropriate ones. Sorry OP.

A nice brush off? No, it's the opposite.

Apologies I should have mentioned first that this man is single. We have been on one date and I noticed the messages today. He is a nice guy so maybe he didn't want to hurt her feelings?

Is she a masseuse?

Urm no he wants her to massage him.